She won't let me fvck her anymore!

[baurman]

This girl that I'm seeing/dating right now... We're not officially bf/gf and we've acknowledged that, and we're just friends but we are more than just friends. But anyway, ever since the New Year, she tells me that she's a born again virgin and she doesn't want to have sex . I still shower with her, sleep with her, etc. but when I get her naked and I'm hard and she's wetter than hell, she always makes excuses like she has cramps or her back is sore and doesn't want to have sex. Then she starts getting frustrated after I keep trying to convince her and is like "What part of NO don't you understand!!!!" I'm not sure what to do. Then she tells me that she doesn't want to have sex until she gets birth control later this month and I told her that I have a condom but she keeps saying that she doesn't trust it and she had a scare last month when her period was late. Is there any technique that I should do to get her to have sex or am I pretty much screwed?

 

[bukowski_merit]

i used to know a very sexy girl who had a 'scare' from slippage
and she became a born again christian just from the experience
it scared her that bad!

she went from sexy club flirt
to long dress wearing prude in a matter of months

so it's not impossible that she's really worried about getting pregnant... but she could be just bored with it or you and making excuses... or a bunch of other things... depends on if you trust her or not...

 

[Bible_Belt]

If she expects you to wait, then she has better be giving some great head. If she's not, then go fvck another girl. It's her fault, anyway. If she finds out, she'll blame herself and have wild sex with you.

 

[Obsidian]

Next

when you say "born-again virgin," do you mean she's converted to Christianity as well? If she's serious, that would be a good reason to quit having sex with you (not to mention dump you, since you obviously aren't ok with abstinence).

Either she's telling the truth, in which case you should next her and find some other hor, or she's lying and she's lost interest in you -- in which case you should next her and find some other hor.

 

[Sandow]

were you fcking her before new years? sounds like she only sees you as a friend and you need to get out the LJBF zone fast. I'm not sure if i buy that excuse she gave of wanting to be a born again virgin, if you were playing your cards right she would eventually cave in, or would show at least some kind of interest in banging you.

sounds like you're always around her, yet you aren't banging. wtf, you either be here emotional tampon(which she's doing to you) or leave!

i would start controlling the situation. why is she doing only what she wants? what about yourself? Sounds like everything is about her, when it should be the opposite. control the situation, let her know that you aren't happy with this no sex b.s. and you should get somewhere. if she doesn't respond, leave the biatch, she aint worth your time, there are plenty of other horny b!tches out there waiting for you.

 

[baurman]

If she expects you to wait, then she has better be giving some great head. If she's not, then go fvck another girl. It's her fault, anyway. If she finds out, she'll blame herself and have wild sex with you.

She won't even give me head because she told me in order for her to give me oral, I need to give her oral. and theres no way I'm eating her pvssy.

I was banging her before the new year. All she does to me now is give me a shytty hand job. She did tell me something along the lines of me finding another chick to fvck...but I think that was a shyt test. to see what I would say or if I would reveal that I would leave her in a heartbeat and fvck another chick.

 

[PurpleHaze]

Wow man, she has no respect for you.

If she thought you were a DJ, she would be DEFINETLY give it up to you because of the fear of you going out and finding it somewhere else.

Obviously she doesn't think of you as anything special so she does what she wants and doesn't fear your reaction.

Just dump her and tell her you are leaving because your a MAN and a MAN needs SEX!

Be a man and dont beg her either. If she won't put out, thats it. Cut her loose. If she likes you even a little bit, she will gain mad respect for you because you stood up and acted like a man. She will be back and you will be hitting it.

 

[baurman]

So basically tell her that since she isn't giving me any anymore, I will find another girl that will? Not sure how she'll react to that, but I expect it not to be good. But I guess if you say that if she really does think of me as something special than she should give it up so she wouldn't lose me.

 

[PurpleHaze]

dont worry about what she will think or what she will do. If you keep acting like a wuss and begging for her sex and putting up with her, she will keep losing respect for you each day. It will only get worse.

What do you think's gonna happen? Magically one day she will say..."OK! i'm ready for sex again!"? no way man, thats not how this works.

Also...when you tell her you're leaving, do it like a man with confidence. Don't ask for permission. TELL her you are out.

Do it with some power. SHOW her you hold the power of you having sex or not, not her. Get it?

 

[Bible_Belt]

She won't even give me head because she told me in order for her to give me oral, I need to give her oral. and theres no way I'm eating her pvssy.

Why not?

I was banging her before the new year. All she does to me now is give me a shytty hand job. She did tell me something along the lines of me finding another chick to fvck...but I think that was a shyt test. to see what I would say or if I would reveal that I would leave her in a heartbeat and fvck another chick.

The underlined part is a red flag of a woman cheating. She might have another guy.

 

[baurman]

I dont want to eat her out because I dont know what kind of disease she has. I have a feeling she has something because she had this red bump next to her pvssy. she said it was a pimple but idk.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Weigh your options.

What is best for YOU? Are you content with her denying herself to you? Are you crying in spilt titty milk that you can't see what's really going on? She has lost "that lovin' feeling" for you brother and the only recourse is to allow her to dictate what happens in your sex life? Pretty bleak youngblood.

I can guaran-damn-tee that this idiot has another guy in her sights or her gaggle of geese are squawking into her ears. Either way, YOU need to make a grown up decision about YOUR fvcking life. Leave it up to her you'll finally plug your nose and go down to eat her cvnt and find another guys' creampie still in it.

Don't let it happen.

 

[nismo-4]

She might have another guy. Try rebuilding attraction and get your a$$ out the friend zone, which could be the reason she ain't letting you f**k.

And that begging sh*t...That's for Keith Sweat to do. STOP THAT SH*T! GO CLEAN YOUR ROOM! You're not a baby, are you? Didn't think so.

Her respect for you is melting faster than butter in a saute' skillet! Read PurpleHaze's answer...He hit the nail ON THE F**KIN' HEAD!!!

When a girl believes she found the alpha male, you must keep that sh*t up. Otherwise, it can all crumble apart like Vanilla Ice's music career (and life).

Hope this helps.

 

[jigga23]

first you need to stop trying to convince her. a girl did that sh!t to me so when we were in bed i would lay there then she would act as if we were going to have sex then i would go with the flow then she would stop. she wanted to see if i woud still have sex with her. when she stopped i said fvck you and your little games to see if i would fvck you and i totally backed off then we were boning in a short time.

 

[baurman]

She might have another guy. Try rebuilding attraction and get your a$$ out the friend zone, which could be the reason she ain't letting you f**k.

And that begging sh*t...That's for Keith Sweat to do. STOP THAT SH*T! GO CLEAN YOUR ROOM! You're not a baby, are you? Didn't think so.

Her respect for you is melting faster than butter in a saute' skillet! Read PurpleHaze's answer...He hit the nail ON THE F**KIN' HEAD!!!

When a girl believes she found the alpha male, you must keep that sh*t up. Otherwise, it can all crumble apart like Vanilla Ice's music career (and life).

Hope this helps.

Next time I talk to her I will tell her straight up that if she doesn't give it up I'm going to fvck another chick.

I don't feel like I'm in the LJBF zone with her, but more of a comfortable zone. Because we've been messing around for some time now, we shower together, pretty much do everything a bf/gf does. Only just recently she doesn't let me fvck. I don't beg, but I try to manipulate. Girls say things they don't really mean. Hell, like 2 weeks ago she told me that she doesn't want to have sex and I told her "Don't worry we're just gonna watch some DVDs" and next thing I know she jumps in my bed, I'm fvcking her after a bit of sweet talk.

 

[ducaro]

Just pretend as though you are getting sex elsewhere.. everything will fall in place.

and if you find it hard to pretend (as in your desperation is hard to cover), go get another chick - for that is really easier

 

[potato]

Sounds more like she is testing you. From how it sounds is that you've probably been carrying on with her for about 2 to 4 months. The initial lust that she felt for you has worn off and she is having doubts as if she wants to stay with you or not.

If you take the route PurpleHaze or Bible Belt suggest you'll probably fail the test. Part of it is she wants to know if you like her for more than sex. There is more to a relationship with a woman than just sex. If that isn't there she'll just get bored with you and move onto another man.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Next time I talk to her I will tell her straight up that if she doesn't give it up I'm going to fvck another chick.

Being up-front and honest is how men treat each other, but I prefer to treat women the way that women treat men - very subtlety. I'd say to not be so direct, just very subtlety start seeing other women without hiding it from the gf. The next time she asks about your plans next weekend, tell her you are free one night, because you made plans for the other night. Tell her you ran into an old friend and you wanted to catch up with her. Then go out and bang that chick, and obviously don't tell the gf. As you start to become busier and make more plans with other girls, she will begin to figure out what is going on, and the curiosity and tension of not knowing for sure if you are cheating will drive her nuts. She will 'woman up' and start fvcking your brains out at every given opportunity so that she does not lose her man. Even if she doesn't, you won't care, because you are getting laid somewhere else.

And for the love of God, eat some pvssy. It's not going to kill you. Don't be eager about it, but give when you receive. Thinking anything about their body is gross is a big turn-off to women.

 

[Mr. Wise]

You need to spend less time with this chick NOW! When a chick starts cutting off sex, it's a sign of dropping interest level. DO NOT LISTEN TO HER EXCUSES - SHE'LL COME UP WITH EVERYTHING SHE CAN THINK OF. The REAL reason and the only one you need to know is that she's getting turned off by you somehow, in some way. There's no if's and's or but's about it. You need to raise her IL back up before it's too late. This is how it starts and it should be a big red flag.

Oh, and the bump is probably just a boil, a large pimple. Nothing a hot compress can't handle, it'll be gone in a week or so.

 

[Sandow]

I dont want to eat her out because I dont know what kind of disease she has. I have a feeling she has something because she had this red bump next to her pvssy. she said it was a pimple but idk.

I don't want to say it, but this could be the very reason why she's not boning you. She may have something and doesn't want you to catch it bro. :nervous:

If that's not the case, then she's definitely boning someone else.

I either case, NEXT!