She won’t hang with me but texts me constantly

[Redwolf]

Clearly it wasn't a good time for her, otherwise she'd be bouncing on your lap.

In the future if a woman gives you an excuse without a counteroffer, never ask again. If a woman wants to see you she'll make it very easy, she'll say something like "oh shoot *insert excuse*, I'm so sorry I promise this won't happen again! How about Monday at 5pm? I can meet you at x,y,z."

Any form of breadcrumbs is most likely an attempt to exploit the validation you've so easily provided in the past. Insecure women are strange, they'll use breadcrumbs under the guise of not wanting to hurt your feelings. It doesn't sound like she's tried to call or catch you somewhere in person, and it sounds like her texts are all fluff/crumbs and no apologies or counteroffers.

If she's made excuses for multiple offers then you've already shown you're a bit desperate and lack some self respect. The best thing to do is go out and have fun with other women, as you've stated you'll do. She'll either make up for her mistakes by going out of her way (unlikely), or you'll meet a woman that would love to hang out with you, win win.

You probably shouldn't try the below, but I'm mentioning it here for everyone's benefit.
A more sophisticated approach is to learn to demote women to the friendzone. It's a great counter to breadcrumbs or disrespect. And if she doesn't seem like good friend material then simply place your attention on other people and demote her further. If I was in your place; if she asks me out I'd say I'm not interested in going beyond my front door. If she says something I find funny I'd just send a lol. She's demoted, so she no longer has a chance with me. I'll rarely respond with a question, unless it's a polite gesture that I would show any acquaintance or stranger. Otherwise I will put zero effort into a conversation. She'll either have to make up for her mistakes, or she'll never see me again (except randomly when I'm out). This comes from a place of effortless and care-free self respect, not out of anger or spite.

I demote women similar to this. Depending on how they respond to me. If she doesn't respond favorable you remove your attention, unfriend/ unfollow. Be more cold and distant. If she continues she loses me entirely. Women will either want to make an effort or they won't. You have to treat them accordingly.

On the other hand you do need come from a place of having fun with it. Not spiteful and buthurt.

 

[dude99]

So me and this girl hang out once and even kissed I think we had a good time. At least I did. But ever since then she always has an excuse whenever I ask her hangout but she’d willingly hangout with her friends and post pics on her whatsapp status (probably to make me jealous idk)

So I decided why invest myself in somebody who’s obviously not interested in me. She even saved me in her phone as ‘name ’ on whatsapp I recently discovered. No big deal I can take a hint but she’s been constantly trying to message me and I have been leaving her on read and she still tries to get in contact.

Should I respond to her or stay no contact or just delete and block her once and for all?

Leave her on read. Next. Focus on new women.

 

[youngdeniro]

If you were really a young DeNiro you would know the answer.

Which you already have the answer to anyway so I am unsure why you need the approval/perspective from others here in such a simple and straightforward scenario.


Modern Man Advice

LOL just needed some reassurance if cutting her off was the right thing to do or try and salvage the situation anyway thanks for all the advice bros. She’s triple texted me since and i’ve left her on read all three times. Had to fight the urge to reply she said she felt ‘hurt and confused’ but thanks to you guys I know I shouldn’t.

Going to hangout with a few friends this weekend and meet some new girls. Cheers.

 

[youngdeniro]

During the date, or immediately after the date something had happened to turn her off. She is no longer interested, otherwise she would've met you a second time.

I know in your mind the date went well, but in her mind things didn't click well enough to pursue another date. She is keeping you around for attention and validation and she might have found somebody new or returned to an ex boyfriend meanwhile. Now its possible that in a few weeks or months the guy she is seeing regularly might drop off the radar and get replaced with you, but this is very unlikely as you are firmly in the orbiter zone.

Women whom are interested will open their diaries and tell you their availability. In fact they'll chase you down to meet!



She doesn't miss you, she is playing with your emotions, continue to distance yourself and focus on other girls.

Great video brother. Appreciate you taking the time to make this! Took all this advice. I went no contact on her. Hurts less now but i’ll slowly get over her.

 

[darksprezzatura]

You're a new member, welcome to the forum and thanks for reaching out.

When I ask a woman out,

1. either she agrees enthusiastically
2. makes up an excuse with no counter offer
3. gives an excuse, apologises and counter offers

For case 2, it's a soft next where I cease all communications for a month or so, and ask her out one last time after that.

An excuse again leads to a hard next where I never respond to her again.

This saves me time, and avoids me overthinking about her, while letting free my headspace to attract other girls and pursue my mission.

 

[Scars]

As others have said, she controls the frame and has made you an orbiter/friend. You're simply a toy to pass the time with when she's bored. When QB chad is ignoring her, she texts you to get a free rush of self validation.

 

[BadBoy89]

No big deal I can take a hint but she’s been constantly trying to message me and I have been leaving her on read and she still tries to get in contact.

Should I respond to her or stay no contact or just delete and block her once and for all?

May go against the grain here but can’t you have a “text buddy” AND chase others girls? It’s not like she is spending hours on the phone with you. Just simple responses on text. It’s not like she insulted you or recorded you or cheated on you or sued you.

Don’t ask her any questions, but you can answer her questions. By completely ignoring her, I think you are pouting you couldn’t get sex from her. Not a sexy look.

If you were sleeping with 2 other girls, would you still ignore her?