She wants to build a relationship first..

[doback]

Okay so, I met this girl and we hit it off, my best friend knows her, and the other day he told me he was talking to her and he said to her that she should date me ( I didn't tell him to say that ) anyway, she said she wanted to build a relationship first I understand that because of what her EX bf did to her so shes got trust issues, so how can I build it so that she wants to be with me? any advice?

 

[Sp1kez]

Hang out with her and see if you guys click...

 

[doback]

Well we did have lunch together last tuesday and we seemed to have hit it off, we talked for three hours straight, we havent talked much since then, I have been busy with work and I'm assuming she is also busy with work and other things.

 

[Captain]

At the moment, I'm smelling a bit of friendzone. Did you have any physical contact on the date? What kind of things did you talk about? How did the date end, and who ended it?

so how can I build it [a relationship] so that she wants to be with me?

What you want to do is build attraction. That's what will make her want you.

 

[KontrollerX]

You shouldn't be going after a chick who has trust issues.

Go for the gold in life and that means any mental health problem b!tches are to be screened out.

You as a DJ want to only go for women that have their sh!t together mentally.

If you proceed with this fvcked up chick you will be trying to polish a turd basically.

Also its not your job to be UNDERSTANDING of some chick's problems who you are just getting to know, you are supposed to be sizing the b!tch up to see if she is worthy of YOU and you are supposed to be focused on getting what YOU want in a woman, not worrying about a b!tches trust issues or any other sh!t going on in her life as when red flags like trust issues come into play you bail and go seek out someone else as you presumably would bail the minute you found out some otherwise normal looking woman was a crack addict or a drug fiend who revealed to you she's got AIDS.

Also Rollo's wisdom is needed once more...

2. Iron Rule of Tomassi #3
Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

This also applies to women's "sexual filibustering".

When a woman makes you wait for sex you are not her highest priority. Sexuality is spontaneous, chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to ƒuck you will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, ƒuck you like a porn star and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife/GF comes home early from work - women who want to ƒuck will find a way to ƒuck. The girl who tells you she wants a relationship first or "just isn't comfortable with you yet" is the same girl who ƒucked the "totally hot guy" in the foam cannon party in Cancun with her girlfriends on spring break half an hour after meeting him.

If a girl is that into you she'll ƒuck regardless of ASD or having her friends in the room videotaping it at a frat party. All women can be sexual, you just have to be the right guy to bring it out in them, and this happens before you go back to her place. If you have to plead your case cuddling and spooning on the bed or getting the occasional peck on the cheek, you need to go back to square one and start fresh. You cannot negotiate genuine desire.

This is exactly why you spin plates.

 

[doback]

I see

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

She doesn't have "trust" issues, she has desire issues. She has no desire to ƒuck you.