SHE wants to be just friends but has Feelings for me,How do go on
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AureliusMaximus
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Loads of red flags here imo.
Leave it be and move on.
She friend zones you because you are not perceived as the high value guy that she wants. She sees you as lower value so you can be her emotional tampon. If you were high value to her then she would not play these games with you. She just likes the attention that she doesn't receive from her boyfriend.
Now to make it worse. If she left him for you...
- What does it tell about her then?
- And why should she then not do exactly the same thing again to you when she sees another hot guy that is more sexy/hot than you are in her mind and leave you?
There a billions of chicks out there. Go and spin some plates that doesn't have a BF.
Make your intentions clear as in you want to bang her - no talking about her BF or relationships, etc. If she cheats and you bang her, do it once or twice and then walk away. That would give you the best chance of her calling you first when she leaves her BF.
If it’s clear you’re just in the friend zone and no chance of banging, walk away as soon as you realize that and don’t give her any attention. In this situation she should also know you wanted to bang her, not be friends.
PS- Don’t literally say “I want to bang you”, but anytime you hang out you’re strictly trying to seduce her. That either works or she doesn’t get you.
If it’s clear you’re just in the friend zone and no chance of banging, walk away as soon as you realize that and don’t give her any attention. In this situation she should also know you wanted to bang her, not be friends.
PS- Don’t literally say “I want to bang you”, but anytime you hang out you’re strictly trying to seduce her. That either works or she doesn’t get you.
King Lion
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No - You made a mistake telling her you 'can't be friends' and all that other bullsh*t!
She told you everything you need to know in order to get her and instead of saying & staying 'Cool' - You simped!
Tell her she can call/come see you when she needs/wants a Man - Then chill - and she'll be on your jock in no time!
She told you everything you need to know in order to get her and instead of saying & staying 'Cool' - You simped!
Tell her she can call/come see you when she needs/wants a Man - Then chill - and she'll be on your jock in no time!
I replied her as you suggested here is what She wrote back.
her:You don’t talk to me like that!i have a man a great one!
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
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have wrote you update: and her reply, my question is, should i just stay cool or reply her again
AureliusMaximus
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Like I said before. Leave it be.
Don't write back and delete her number. She has a boyfriend and doesn't want to be with you.
Georgepithyou
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No it won't, it's best for OP to just go after new girls
"She has feelings for me but she just wants to be friends."
Ever heard that saying "everything before the BUT in a sentence is irreverent and meaningles."
The only truth in that sentence was her saying she wants you in the friend zone.
Lol, you found your answer right there. Move onto greener pastures and don't waste anymore time with this gal.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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Likely a backup from not going bulls deep lulz.
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I still think persistence here could pay off as long as there isn't one-itis happening. Also, the OP isn't playing the friendzone game which is good.
Women who friendzone a guy don't go into talking about having attraction and how much they wanted to see the guy again. There is chemistry in play.
I would reach out to her in a while asking her if her bf was still around if she doesn't reach out first.
Women who friendzone a guy don't go into talking about having attraction and how much they wanted to see the guy again. There is chemistry in play.
I would reach out to her in a while asking her if her bf was still around if she doesn't reach out first.
deadmasterx
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What it seems to me is that she's trying to start mokey branching. So, she mentions her boyfriend, her personal life and relationship details with you. Notice that she said they don't have sex anymore. Why would you need this information?
Second, she throws the "Relationship isn't going good but I like him and don't want to hurt his feelings". What can we understand from this? In my experience, it usually means that he is somehow of a provider, or simple a safe port for her in some aspects (emotional, economic, etc), which means she will be looking for other males to be providing what she can't get from him.
Got the picture, now? She's looking for sex. She's one step to be cheating on this guy, and she's already warming you up in the bench to get you in field to play (which won't happen, because she won't break up). By warming you up, take it as reference to be cheating on her boyfriend with you (or any other male).
Honestly, if there's something in the world I hate are cheaters, but that's my personal opinion. If you're willing to keep up with this, my main advice for you is to not catch feelings. A woman who is willing to cheating on her man will be willing to cheat on any man, if you date her you'll need to sleep with one eye open.
I suppose that if your goal is ****ing her you just have to ignore the emotional bull**** she's throwing on you ("I wanna be friends" bla bla) and keep flirty, emotionally distant from her (not getting attached) and engaging her, teasing her, going out on dates, pretending as if she has no boyfriend at all.
I hope you don't do it, because that's a scumbag thing to do. The choice isn't mine tho. Choose which pill you'll take and go for it.
Second, she throws the "Relationship isn't going good but I like him and don't want to hurt his feelings". What can we understand from this? In my experience, it usually means that he is somehow of a provider, or simple a safe port for her in some aspects (emotional, economic, etc), which means she will be looking for other males to be providing what she can't get from him.
Got the picture, now? She's looking for sex. She's one step to be cheating on this guy, and she's already warming you up in the bench to get you in field to play (which won't happen, because she won't break up). By warming you up, take it as reference to be cheating on her boyfriend with you (or any other male).
Honestly, if there's something in the world I hate are cheaters, but that's my personal opinion. If you're willing to keep up with this, my main advice for you is to not catch feelings. A woman who is willing to cheating on her man will be willing to cheat on any man, if you date her you'll need to sleep with one eye open.
I suppose that if your goal is ****ing her you just have to ignore the emotional bull**** she's throwing on you ("I wanna be friends" bla bla) and keep flirty, emotionally distant from her (not getting attached) and engaging her, teasing her, going out on dates, pretending as if she has no boyfriend at all.
I hope you don't do it, because that's a scumbag thing to do. The choice isn't mine tho. Choose which pill you'll take and go for it.
So true, She started working as a nurse two months ago, they have only been together for 8 months. She told me She is atracted to me and She has feelings for me but She dont want to leave her guy yet even though they dont talk, no sex etc so i think She just buying her time before She goes off
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
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