Hi,
Ok so I work with this girl who I've been seeing for 3.5 months now. Turns out the first time I slept with her she hadn't completely broken it off with her ex, she said that they were 'on and off'. We'd liked each other for a while as at the Christmas party last year we were flirting innocently, but then I caught wind that she had a boyfriend so I walked away.
So after I slept with her the first time she woke up in a panic, as she had to go to a wedding with her ex, she said they were 'off' and was just going as a friend and justified to herself that because she'd finally gone for me she'd take it as a sign that it was finally off with her ex. He figured it out immediately and went mad at her, she tried to deny it.
They both stay closely in contact and we have a whirlwind romance, she keeps in close contact with him, which i wasn't too happy about, she also saw him without telling me about it once and was shifty about the situation which I could just sense, so questioned her and she owned up to and said it was because she knew seeing him would make me unhappy but she still wants to be friends with him.
She's now told him that we are seeing each other, to which he's lost the plot, sending me emails and threatening to beat me up and come to my work, yet is being really nice to her and playing broken hearted? I showed her the email he sent me, which basically read 'so you **** other peoples girls huh?'.
Now heres the punch line She want's me to apologise to him, because I carried on seeing her after I found out she was 'on off with someone' and now he's upset?
Do I have anything to apologise for? Not in my eyes! Should I be alarmed at this scenario? I've said before I want her to stop seeing him, he's not good for our relationship, she's said, and I know she's telling the truth that she does keep in touch with her ex's as friends, she still talks to her first boyfriend all the time, and they're fine as friends, but this guy is weird, manipulative and really made her feel awful a lot of the time.
Advice? More context needed?
Ok so I work with this girl who I've been seeing for 3.5 months now. Turns out the first time I slept with her she hadn't completely broken it off with her ex, she said that they were 'on and off'. We'd liked each other for a while as at the Christmas party last year we were flirting innocently, but then I caught wind that she had a boyfriend so I walked away.
So after I slept with her the first time she woke up in a panic, as she had to go to a wedding with her ex, she said they were 'off' and was just going as a friend and justified to herself that because she'd finally gone for me she'd take it as a sign that it was finally off with her ex. He figured it out immediately and went mad at her, she tried to deny it.
They both stay closely in contact and we have a whirlwind romance, she keeps in close contact with him, which i wasn't too happy about, she also saw him without telling me about it once and was shifty about the situation which I could just sense, so questioned her and she owned up to and said it was because she knew seeing him would make me unhappy but she still wants to be friends with him.
She's now told him that we are seeing each other, to which he's lost the plot, sending me emails and threatening to beat me up and come to my work, yet is being really nice to her and playing broken hearted? I showed her the email he sent me, which basically read 'so you **** other peoples girls huh?'.
Now heres the punch line She want's me to apologise to him, because I carried on seeing her after I found out she was 'on off with someone' and now he's upset?
Do I have anything to apologise for? Not in my eyes! Should I be alarmed at this scenario? I've said before I want her to stop seeing him, he's not good for our relationship, she's said, and I know she's telling the truth that she does keep in touch with her ex's as friends, she still talks to her first boyfriend all the time, and they're fine as friends, but this guy is weird, manipulative and really made her feel awful a lot of the time.
Advice? More context needed?