She turns up at my gig with a dude.

[EverSure75]

I tried getting this chick out on a date for a while. I was traveling a bit so our shedules never matched.

The last time, I suggested a day. She told me it was possible but she'd get back to me. She never did. She sounded like she had a lot going on at work.

Fast forward to earlier this week. I include her on a text blast for a DJ gig I have tonite. She thanks me. She turns up tonite with a dude. Hugs me...I shake dudes hand and they go sit down.

She sends me a text during my set, asking if I take requests. I said I would make an exception but I didn't have the song she wanted. She returns smiley faces and sends another one later saying she's enjoying the music.

She just left. Came over to me and gave me a hug.

Should I next her on her not getting back to me for the date? Was turning up with dude to let me know she has a man?
Should I try one more time to set something up?

 

[marmel75]

Who cares?

If you want to set something up, set something up. Either she will go out with you or she won't.

the over-analyzing that goes on on this site is unbelievable at times...

 

[EverSure75]

Who cares?

If you want to set something up, set something up. Either she will go out with you or she won't.

the over-analyzing that goes on on this site is unbelievable at times...

Thanks for the reminder. You're right.

 

[Bayne05]

Aren't you guys supposed to be drowning in poontang from all the b!tches in your gigs. This girl shouldn't even matter

 

[EverSure75]

Aren't you guys supposed to be drowning in poontang from all the b!tches in your gigs. This girl shouldn't even matter

Lol. I do this part time and I'm also far from popular. So I don't think I count as one of " you guys". Lol

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

She's NOT interested

 

[Arcturus]

Most people don't feel comfortable showing up to an event alone. You were busy DJing so she brought an orbiter to keep her company. That is perfectly ok. It would have been another thing if she was flirting with the guy or showing him interest. She probably left because she was bored and felt uncomfortable all by herself and you were busy. Next time invite a girl 30-45min before your set ends and tell her, "hey come at ___, I'll be finishing up and we can grab a drink right after."

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Listen to marmel, but let's be real here: she isnt interested. If she was, she would have gotten back to you that one time and she also wouldn't have had a dude come woth her either.

 

[raider87]

She could be just using the guy as social proof. Sometimes women think the same things that attract them to men, attract men to women.

 

[EverSure75]

Yeah. I don't think she's interested. Next.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Sorry to say that I agree that she is not interested. You should have texted back, I only take request when girls approach the booth and flash me some boob.

 

[EverSure75]

In my opinion she'd have likely gotten wetter than a fish if you had conveyed some sexual tension/ mature jealousy.

I mean no disrespect here and you can choose to accept or reject my personal opinion: you need to show teeth when they disrespect, and, in my mind, this chick disrespected you when she showed up with a date, and then "requested" a favor from you--via TEXT, despite your being in the same room together.

In my opinion interested women do NOT show up with other men, and Don Juans do NOT accept their showing up with other men.

I wouldn't have shook hands with that dude.

When she requested a song, I'd have replied with something like this: "I take song requests but I'm not cheap. A song'll cost you a kiss. Come see me ALONE to redeem please."

I am personally convinced that ALL women will at some point test to see if you're either (a) willing to walk away or (b) willing to win them over via arrogant defiance. There ARE times for both in my opinion (i.e. knowing when to "pull" and when to "push."

In my opinion (b) could have worked nicely.

No disrespect taken. I totally agree with you.
My shaking hands with dude was my way of showing I didn't care really. That I wasn't thinking about her flaking. In retrospect, I agree. I shouldn't have.

Lesson learnt.