she tried to friendzone me, I said no and now she avoids me.. WTF?

joker79

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Thanks guys, that was a useful conversation. To be honest, when I rejected her friendship I was already aware that something wasn't working properly and, as a great supporter of Rollo, I was prepared. I said exactly what Rollo suggests (I remember it as it was yesterday): "I wish we could be friend... I'm looking for more... I guess I was wrong about you".
After this happened, she tried a couple of times to reach me out, texting me random **** and asking me for some advice on stuff i'm expert of... in both occasions I acted disinterested and, especially when asked for advice, I ignored her. My behaviour when I approach her is polite (I say hello) but nothing else. Maybe I'm reading more between the lines but think that a person not affected by any kind of baggage would be a little bit more friendly or "warm" (at least she should smile back). My idea is that she still see value in me, maybe more than she likes to admit, but either her ego is ****ing her up or i'm too distant and she's not comfortable in talking to me after what happened, that is that I rejected her LJBF attempt. Who knows.
What is 100% sure is that I shouldn't waste time, I do not see any point in approaching her again. I think that if she wants anything from me, she should approach me not viceversa. At the end of the story, she's the one who tried to ljbf me not me her.
 

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joker79 said:
Thanks guys, that was a useful conversation. To be honest, when I rejected her friendship I was already aware that something wasn't working properly and, as a great supporter of Rollo, I was prepared. I said exactly what Rollo suggests (I remember it as it was yesterday): "I wish we could be friend... I'm looking for more... I guess I was wrong about you".
After this happened, she tried a couple of times to reach me out, texting me random **** and asking me for some advice on stuff i'm expert of... in both occasions I acted disinterested and, especially when asked for advice, I ignored her. My behaviour when I approach her is polite (I say hello) but nothing else. Maybe I'm reading more between the lines but think that a person not affected by any kind of baggage would be a little bit more friendly or "warm" (at least she should smile back). My idea is that she still see value in me, maybe more than she likes to admit, but either her ego is ****ing her up or i'm too distant and she's not comfortable in talking to me after what happened, that is that I rejected her LJBF attempt. Who knows.
What is 100% sure is that I shouldn't waste time, I do not see any point in approaching her again. I think that if she wants anything from me, she should approach me not viceversa. At the end of the story, she's the one who tried to ljbf me not me her.
had you explained this in the beginning it would have saved us some time.
 
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