She tells me she got a boyfriend?

[JamesIon]

I'm fairly new at this, beta as it gets. And I haven't gotten very far with it.

So I've been talking to a girl all beta like, all sweet and nice and etc.

I have never met her, only talked a couple of times online and once on the phone. In between asking her out so I can actually see her, I have no reference, she tells me she has a boyfriend. So...I'm like I might as well burn the bridge and just go alpha with it.

I said I didn't care and made fun of her thinking there was anything between us. Flirted and thought it was done until I got a reply back. Next thing I know she's laughing and saying she likes my confidence and her boyfriend wouldn't mind us talking as long as "nothing big happens between us". I have no idea what that means but I am to assume my asswhole behavior worked. I mean... confidence?

Apparently acting like asswhole worked and I'm not sure if she was telling the truth. I feel as though I should just turn in the towel and leave things be and never talk to her again. But that's my beta side talking, my alpha side wants to pull as many strings I can and to not give a ****.

Since I'm not an expert at this, what am I supposed to be doing?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Nothing. You do nothing next, 'cause she's not interested.

It doesn't matter if she is lying or not, you're OUT. If she's not lying she's unavailable; if she IS lying, she told the lie in hopes that you would stop hitting on her. Either way, NOT interested, and a waste of time to keep persuing.

Bottom line: girls who want to be with you don't bring up boyfriends OR talk about other guys with you. Hope this helps!

 

[JamesIon]

Nothing. You do nothing next, 'cause she's not interested.

It doesn't matter if she is lying or not, you're OUT. If she's not lying she's unavailable; if she IS lying, she told the lie in hopes that you would stop hitting on her. Either way, NOT interested, and a waste of time to keep persuing.

Bottom line: girls who want to be with you don't bring up boyfriends OR talk about other guys with you. Hope this helps!

I'm confused, how can she make a judgement if she hasn't seen me? Women confuse me...

 

[marmel75]

I'm confused, how can she make a judgement if she hasn't seen me? Women confuse me...

They make early judgements based on behaviors or traits you display that they then generalize to many other things...you being nice=a guy that is a doormat No woman wants a doormat. Women get hit on a lot, they don't have time to go out with every guy for a month and see what they are like. You obviously have either acted pretty doormatty or she is not interested....either way take that attitude from the beginning next time...

 

[JamesIon]

They make early judgements based on behaviors or traits you display that they then generalize to many other things...you being nice=a guy that is a doormat No woman wants a doormat. Women get hit on a lot, they don't have time to go out with every guy for a month and see what they are like. You obviously have either acted pretty doormatty or she is not interested....either way take that attitude from the beginning next time...

Just deleted her number. No need to dewel on how she feels, moving on to another. Thanks.

Its just amazing how acting like the way I did got that much response from her compared to before.... its frustrating and at the same time and eye opener. I don't know what to think. I guess this is the new me.

 

[sadonomspa]

She is getting off on spinning plates. Any relationship that starts the way this one is doomed. She is testing her bf's alpha ability by throwing you into the mix. The guy will probably end up in your situation if not worst.

Get out while there is no serious emotional interest.

 

[Scars]

I actually kind of disagree with the other posters. I think she may had thought you as beta in beta in the beginning, but you even said yourself her attitude changed when you showed more confidence and more dgaf.

She even agreed and said her BF is ok with you two meeting, a lone. She's either lying, or the boyfriend assumes you're so beta that you'll make a fool of yourself. Both of which have bit me in the @$$ extremely hard before. I once told a girlfriend "Yeah, it's ok if you hang out with X", after everything she told me, he sounded like the biggest pvssie in the world. Well, guess who she started dating after we broke up?

I'd seize the moment, at this point, what do you have to lose? Just shed that beta mentality for a bit until you get up in it.

-Scars

 

[marmel75]

I actually kind of disagree with the other posters. I think she may had thought you as beta in beta in the beginning, but you even said yourself her attitude changed when you showed more confidence and more dgaf.

She even agreed and said her BF is ok with you two meeting, a lone. She's either lying, or the boyfriend assumes you're so beta that you'll make a fool of yourself. Both of which have bit me in the @$$ extremely hard before. I once told a girlfriend "Yeah, it's ok if you hang out with X", after everything she told me, he sounded like the biggest pvssie in the world. Well, guess who she started dating after we broke up?

I'd seize the moment, at this point, what do you have to lose? Just shed that beta mentality for a bit until you get up in it.

-Scars

Also possible she was just making it up to see what your reply would be...

 

[Scars]

Also possible she was just making it up to see what your reply would be...

Perhaps, but there's so much underlying information in OP's post that it just simply leads me to believe this girl is a wh0re.

Flirted and thought it was done until I got a reply back.

Quality women don't agree to meet up with men that are obviously flirting with them when they have boyfriends. Beta or not.

Next thing I know she's laughing and saying she likes my confidence and her boyfriend wouldn't mind us talking as long as "nothing big happens between us".

Compliments his confidence and then agrees to a meet-up as long as "nothing big happens between us". Read the word usage here. Nothing BIG happens? This is simply an anti-slvt defense.

Point is, the girls feelings completely changed when he started acting like a man. There's been guys who got out of the "LJBF" zone by doing this. It's not impossible to fvck her. And if OP is going to do it, he needs to do it now.

But at the same time, maybe he just doesn't want to waste his time with a cheating h0. It's easier and a lot less dramatic to bang single women, can't blame him.

-Scars

 

[Cremasta]

So...I'm like I might as well burn the bridge and just go alpha with it.

You see this? Remember this moment... your life changed right there!

 

[Packers2010]

once your in the game for awhile.. you will soon realize. the " i have a boyfriend" is just her tell you in a suttle way she sin't interested.

sure part of the time she DOSE have a bf. but still if she wasn't interested would she really bring it up? no.

just move on man.

 

[thevilittletroll]

my number one rule is believe 10% of what she says, and 90% of what she does. if she says she has a bf and she still goes out with you its probably bs. if she says she has a bf and doesnt go out with you, she's not interested. its her way of letting you down easy.

always show confidence, when she says she has a bf just blow it off like it doesnt bother you. change the subject and continue gaming her. if she's still there talking to you, and letting you escalate kino, her bf excuse is bs. tust me, when a girl has a bf, she will bring him up into the conversation within the first min or so, directly or indirectly. never ask her, she'll tell you. if she does have a bf and she loves him, she wont cheat on him with you no matter how good your game is. but then again i dont believe most women to be faithfull. i've approached girls i knew had bf's and may game was strong enough where they never mentioned their bf. so bottom line is that all girls use this as an excuse for rejection wether its true or not. so dont let it effect you. blow it off and continue to game her. her actions to your game tell you wether or not to continue.

 

[DavenJuan]

I actually kind of disagree with the other posters. I think she may had thought you as beta in beta in the beginning, but you even said yourself her attitude changed when you showed more confidence and more dgaf.

She even agreed and said her BF is ok with you two meeting, a lone. She's either lying, or the boyfriend assumes you're so beta that you'll make a fool of yourself. Both of which have bit me in the @$$ extremely hard before. I once told a girlfriend "Yeah, it's ok if you hang out with X", after everything she told me, he sounded like the biggest pvssie in the world. Well, guess who she started dating after we broke up?

I'd seize the moment, at this point, what do you have to lose? Just shed that beta mentality for a bit until you get up in it.

-Scars

I agree with Scars here.

And though I understand the idea that some men have about women who are uninterested by default tell you they have a BF, I dont believe that to be true in every case.

as a matter of fact, in some scenerios women claim to have a BF not to disinterest you, but to give a false sense of interest from someone else other than you. Ive seen many women fabricate a relaitonship to have us percieve them as a viable relationship option.

But this is to assume that she is even lying about having a BF. which i dont necessarly believe is certain. Women branch swing, and its safe to assume that ALOT of women have BFs.

You've established conversation with someoen youve never met before, and she has also given you the okay to "hang out". IN my book, this is a GO. I dont necessarly assume disinterest on her part. If she was geniunely disinterested, most women wouldnt waste time to get together and hang out. Especially someone theyve never met before.

 

[Trump]

- I have never met her, only talked a couple of times online and once on the phone.
- she tells me she has a boyfriend
- Next thing I know she's laughing and saying she likes my confidence and her boyfriend wouldn't mind us talking as long as "nothing big happens between us".

Apparently acting like asswhole worked and I'm not sure if she was telling the truth. I feel as though I should just turn in the towel and leave things be and never talk to her again. But that's my beta side talking, my alpha side wants to pull as many strings I can and to not give a ****.

LOL, what are you on the waiting list? I would say "too late, you already told me you had a boyfriend so I moved on." Not sure how alpha it is to come back and talk to a girl who already told you another guy is plowing her every night all night.

I would also say "Tell your boyfriend if we meet, I expect either money or sex from you, otherwise society would consider me a sucker."