She suddenly stops responding, what to do?

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I've known this girl since junior high, we were old friends and pretty close back then too. These past few months I've started gaming her (which I never did before) and it was great, she was responsive and often calls me back too. The problem is she suddenly stop responding, I can see she's still active on facebook and IM but doesn't respond to my text or calls. What to do in this situation? should I pull back and let her be or keep asking why she does that? we were really close and she told me everything, we can talk without holding back so I find it weird that she suddenly became quiet.
 

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chaos86 said:
I've known this girl since junior high, we were old friends and pretty close back then too. These past few months I've started gaming her (which I never did before) and it was great, she was responsive and often calls me back too. The problem is she suddenly stop responding, I can see she's still active on facebook and IM but doesn't respond to my text or calls. What to do in this situation? should I pull back and let her be or keep asking why she does that? we were really close and she told me everything, we can talk without holding back so I find it weird that she suddenly became quiet.
Welcome to the forum. Most of us now list our age as it helps put some posts in perspective such as yours. For example, are you 18 or 38? How long ago was Junior High?

In general, if you've known a girl for a long time and haven't had sex you are already in the "friend" bin.

So you started gaming her for the first time and she stopped responding? Obviously not a good sign.

You were really close (as friends) and she told you everything (about other men)? Friend zone.

Your only hope is to go NC and put some muscles on or get in much better shape. Unless she notices a major improvement she's not going to suddenly be turned on. You should do that anyway, but also know that finding a new girl will be 10 times easier.
 

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^This.

One of the best tools in this game is a clean slate. New girl(s), better body, new clothes, new venue to meet women, etc.

FWIW, it sounds like friendzone. Either was never attracted or she was at one time and you didn't ask her out.

It's ok. Go for a clean slate.
 

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I'm 26, we actually lost contact for quite sometime, it's been 5 years since I talked to her.. we have hooked up before and have had sex a few times but nothing serious. Basically now that I met her again, I just want to see if this can go somewhere. The thing is she was very receptive until a few days ago then she started responding to my IMs less and less, even none. I know that meeting new women is always easier and it's also easier to game them, I just feel like maybe someone you've known for a while worth a try too.
 

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chaos86 said:
I'm 26, we actually lost contact for quite sometime, it's been 5 years since I talked to her.. we have hooked up before and have had sex a few times but nothing serious. Basically now that I met her again, I just want to see if this can go somewhere. The thing is she was very receptive until a few days ago then she started responding to my IMs less and less, even none. I know that meeting new women is always easier and it's also easier to game them, I just feel like maybe someone you've known for a while worth a try too.
shes most likely talking to some other dude now.
 

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You tried. She was probably receptive at first. It was the renewing of an old friendship. You two probably slipped back into the old routines pretty easily. You say you gamed her, but what exactly did you do?

If you really want to be friends you can bug her with questions about why she has become distant. Best case there, is that she tells you and you work on the friendship. Worst case is that part is over with no defining moment and uncertainty in your mind about the two of you.

I would just forget about her and move on. If she misses you she will hit you back up. If not, so what? You didnt have her to begin with and you can be whoever you want to the next girls.
 

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stop what you are doing, move on, and thank your lucky stars you got out. She is not interested and get a clean slate like Mike32ct.

She will always remember who you used to be and will see you that way (correct almost always )

- comic_relief
 
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