She sends mixed signals to me , what she wants?

[bigneil]

Mixed signals huh?

Meaning some good (mostly in your imagination).
And some bad (which you're confessing to).

That means a woman introduced bad things into your relationship, bad things not cancelled out by the imaginary good things. It means she is moving on so you should too.

There are no mixed signals, only bad signs.

 

[zorg198]

Mixed signals huh?

Meaning some good (mostly in your imagination).
And some bad (which you're confessing to).

That means a woman introduced bad things into your relationship, bad things not cancelled out by the imaginary good things. It means she is moving on so you should too.

There are no mixed signals, only bad signs.

you are right!

question- now that i will see her at work how should i behave? normal like nothing happened? which is what i feel now...

 

[Leopold]

Listen bud...

For some reason I can smell a high level of desperation from you. I totally understand but please keep it under control and dont let it affect your game.

As for the chick goes... just like bigneil usually tells.... have you slept with her? No? Then why are you giving a fvck what she thinks?

Just forget about her... I'm not saying that you should ignore her nor be rude to her. Talk to her when you feel like it... not because you want her to like you. Acknowledge her when you feel like it or she has earned it.

Just treat her like she treats you pretty much... just dont pay much special attention to her.

If she says something along these dumb lines "why aren't you saying good morning to me?" just tell her... "do you think I work for good morning america?" or something like that in a joking tone.

Or you could say it like this in a sarcastic playful tone. " OHH did I offended you princess?!? Oh I'm sorry please dont call the guards. Did you slept well last night princess?" ...... and that's it.. and leave it.

Pretty much like that man. Dont pay much attention to her, if she wants it let her come. Dont think anymore about her.

She seem that she only wants you as an orbiter... aka.. she's an attention harlot.

 

[marlsfly]

Hey all this is my first post but thought i'll enlighten TC with my situation which is funnily enough similar to yours!

Bottom line she just trying to boost her own ego. There use to be someone i was very interested in out of the blue and the bad news was it was someone i know at my work place. It got to the point where the odd small talk and attention she gave me felt like she was really after me when really it was just playing silly games and **** testing me throughout.

I reckon you'll eventually get over all this and focus on you and you only. And don't worry because i'm sure any of us will go through something like this but when you realize the situation you'll feel much better in the long run.

Sure i still bump into this girl but have shown zero interest what so ever. I just concentrate on me and chill or go out with the people that do respect me most. And lastly don't over analyse or judge her ever again as it sub conciously come back to haunt you. i know i felt this but it does take a while to train your mind.

PS btw as you've had her on Fb and also txt/called her I got in a situation where i got her a "friendly" v day gift and even had the odd rejection when i did gave it a shot to ask her out for lunch at least. Bottom line focus on you!

 

[nismo-4]

OP, stop trying to salvage some iota of contact here. It's over. There's nothing to save.

She's an attention wh0re to you, and is not interested in you. Spin more plates. You'll be surprised how quick you forget about this one.

If you want revenge, get a more attractive woman to be with you. Or let her come to you.

AFAIC your princess is in another castle. Advance to the next world. Worry about yourself. Put your needs first.

Did you read that sticky thread I wrote along with its sequel? If not, you need to. I wrote them because of common situations like these.

 

[Zerro]

I get this sort of attitude from a few chicks at work, my solution is to not talk to them unless I need to and even then only say just what's needed to get the job done. No pleasantries from me when they're not behaving themselves. When they start being nice again they'll get some but once they get cold I get even colder.

 

[ezio]

Dear Friends ,

After i made all the possible mistakes with the girl mentioned i would like your help to teach me how to behave right next time , can you please help me?

download and read the djbible and as well as articles on this forum. we all got to start somewhere

 

[zorg198]

Everything you guys wrote her its true and i will follow every word of it. i will come to work and just say good morning and move on... talking only when there is a IT issue and that's it, no more attention from my part.

to tell the truth i don't fell bumped at all! i fell pissed that i want to revenge her....i want to show her what she missed!

 

[zorg198]

Everything you guys wrote her its true and i will follow every word of it. i will come to work and just say good morning and move on... talking only when there is a IT issue and that's it, no more attention from my part.

to tell the truth i don't fell bumped at all! i fell pissed that i want to revenge her....i want to show her what she missed!

i wanted to ask your advice of how to deal with her at work , i mean ... her seating area is exactly where the cafeteria is so i will be problematic not to see her. should i say good morning to her and that's it?

 

[zorg198]

Hello Friends,

This is the second day since she rejected me , i came to work and acted normal and told her good morning and went to my sitting area....

before i tell this : i am not trying to find any clues or anything else that might show i am trying to see if she want me or not. just saying what happened


yesterday i went to one of the users who is sitting next to her to fix her laptop , she told me her printer is not working- from looking i saw the USB cable that is being it is out so i put it back. she calls me again and tell me its still not printing , i saw the cable is out again , and after that same thing.

after she left i tested the cable and for it to come out you really need to pull it our by force , i am asking myself - WTF?

 

[ezio]

Hello Friends,

This is the second day since she rejected me , i came to work and acted normal and told her good morning and went to my sitting area....

before i tell this : i am not trying to find any clues or anything else that might show i am trying to see if she want me or not. just saying what happened


yesterday i went to one of the users who is sitting next to her to fix her laptop , she told me her printer is not working- from looking i saw the USB cable that is being it is out so i put it back. she calls me again and tell me its still not printing , i saw the cable is out again , and after that same thing.

after she left i tested the cable and for it to come out you really need to pull it our by force , i am asking myself - WTF?

the attention ***** still craves for your attention, ignoring her is your best option in this situation and the sweetest revenge you can ever have. Its like taking heroin from an addict, they'll do anything to get it back. I bet she's always had guys groveling at her feet day n night and has never been in a situation where a guy is immune to her bull****. Op by walking away you put yourself in a position of power don't
**** it up by over analysing and looking for non existent signals of interest. You should rather focus on improving yourself ie have fun, date more women instead of losing sleep over this other girl.

 

[Iceberg]

Hello Friends,

This is the second day since she rejected me , i came to work and acted normal and told her good morning and went to my sitting area....

before i tell this : i am not trying to find any clues or anything else that might show i am trying to see if she want me or not. just saying what happened


yesterday i went to one of the users who is sitting next to her to fix her laptop , she told me her printer is not working- from looking i saw the USB cable that is being it is out so i put it back. she calls me again and tell me its still not printing , i saw the cable is out again , and after that same thing.

after she left i tested the cable and for it to come out you really need to pull it our by force , i am asking myself - WTF?

You realize that you wrote 3 posts in a row about some girl who isn't interested in you?

Alright, so if she did pull a wire out of her computer (which I doubt) then, she's f**king crazy and you're lucky that she's not involved with you.

But then again, you're equally obsessive and weird. Why can't you move on from this girl? You didn't f**k her. You didn't kiss her. You didn't even get a date. She has had ZERO impact on your life. Stop talking about her, and don't come back to this message board until you find a NEW woman to obsess over.

 

[Iceberg]

I'm so angry, you made me double post.

That's how angry I am.

 

[Leopold]

Yeah man... why cant you just let go? :/

 

[zorg198]

sorry , its indeed looks like i am talking about it all the time , sorry guys

i am now in JDATE and will appreciate if you could give me some tips on the new thread i opened.

Joseph.

 

[zorg198]

Well my friend i came back ,

Iceberg i remember clearly what you wrote to me - don't come back to this message board until you find a NEW woman to obsess over.

Well, there is a new girl at work! who got my interest and i would like your advice..... the summer came and i started to wear button shirts , this new girl looked at me and said - you look very good today... i told her , thank you.

following the days she keep looking stare at me and move her eyes when she do that, now - i don't want to make the same mistakes so i am not guessing anything ! her seating area is very away from where i sea and although she can make a call she prefer to walk all the way to me.. i would like to get your advice , how to proceed? it will be stupid to ask some of the girl around if she's single because it will automatically bust me , help

 

[Leopold]

Dude... my recommendation is that you dont mess around with people on the workplace. Keep things there professional.

If a girl tells me a compliment with "you look good" my response would be like... "I know... " or "You have good taste... " or "Now your talking my language!!" and high fiver her.

If she's staring at you like you say... next time you see her tell her something funny about it and tease her. "You looking at me like a fat kid starring at a burger" or " I know I look good but listen I'm not just a piece of meat, I have feelings "

I dont know man... use your imagination. Try to be funny (not to impress the girls but rather for your entertainment and joy) and try to have a blast. Say something rude but funny if you must. Who the eff cares what she thinks of you?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

help

No.

You're annoying.

 

[zorg198]

No.

You're annoying.

Why?

I am reading all the posts and try to learn and not make mistakes , so why i am annoying?

 

[zorg198]

Dude... my recommendation is that you dont mess around with people on the workplace. Keep things there professional.

If a girl tells me a compliment with "you look good" my response would be like... "I know... " or "You have good taste... " or "Now your talking my language!!" and high fiver her.

If she's staring at you like you say... next time you see her tell her something funny about it and tease her. "You looking at me like a fat kid starring at a burger" or " I know I look good but listen I'm not just a piece of meat, I have feelings "

I dont know man... use your imagination. Try to be funny (not to impress the girls but rather for your entertainment and joy) and try to have a blast. Say something rude but funny if you must. Who the eff cares what she thinks of you?

Cool man , thanks.:rockon: