She said she's on her period

[Meisterman]

So a girl invited me over to her apartment. She had her friend over and her friend's bf. We smoked, talked, she asked if I wanted to watch a movie. Her friend went to the store.

I started escalating and went in to kiss her. She went on with it for a few minutes then kinda paused and said "nothing I'm just on my period" so I just say "oh okay" and didn't get mad at all. Her friend and her friend's bf comes back a few minutes later anyway.

Then 10 minutes later I tell her I have to get going to finish up some work, and leave.

I think she was telling the truth because we've already banged a few times and she was the one initiating for us to hang out. And she didn't tell me she was on her period until I started to kiss her.

So DJs do you think I handled this situation right? I was already there for an hour and did all I could to escalate. I figured it's best to leave on a high note than stick around like a chump until she gets tired.

 

[MattR1984]

Almost every girl I've been with would have sex while on the rag. It's not optimal but it's not always messy either. Towel and a shower afterwards. Maybe she's not one who would do it and if that's true and you already hung out for an hour I wouldn't worry about it. Just as long as you didn't appear mad or irritated over her being on her period. If she thinks that's why you left it might not be good.

 

[LiveYourDream]

I don't get why being sexual is limited by a woman being on her period. It's so worth getting over the idea that it is a barrier.

Many women can be more sensitive, orgasmic and horny when on their period. They are more worried that you'll be grossed out. Show them it doesn't have to be a big deal. Put down a towel and shower or wipe off when you are done. Sometimes it's hardly even noticeable.

For some reason if that's too much, then start with a BJ or HJ or anal. Get used to playing on her period regardless. Truly, you'll lead on this. If you are open, she'll follow. I vote for always open rather than a 1 week closure every 4th week.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You should have stayed until the movie was over. You already told her you wanted to watch one. What is she supposed to say to her friend about why you left?

I personally subscribe to the "no loading in the red zone" theory, but there are a lot of ways to get yourself off with a woman's body other than her pvssy.

 

[LMFAO]

Not sure, I would have left as well maybe not so hurriedly. Period or not she could have at least given you a blow job.

I think you did the right think not sitting there like a gimp for a 2 hour movie after she rejected you for sex. It's one reason I despise movies for the first number of dates, everyone just sitting there like gimps looking at the TV screen, and her asking you to work out what is going on. Too much time investment for little reward. [ That is unless the movie sucks which means it's game on and escalation time. Watching TV like comedy series is preferable, easier escalation and easier exit.]

 

[mikey2012]

Bs I fuked when she was on the rag. If the girl wants you badly she don't care

 

[Greasy Pig]

Pretty sneaky by her to get you over for some non-sexual time. Take note of the date and watch for more attempts at non-sexual contact.
Unless of course you want to get serious with her.
And if she pulls the period excuse again, just say: "That's what showers are for".

 

[mikey2012]

No that's what towels are there for ...

 

[Soolaimon]

We smoked

What were you smoking?

If the friends were there most of the time then you really couldn't do much anyway.

A little something would have been nice since you made the effort right?

Personally, I wouldn't have gone in for a red mess but it depends on what day she started with her period.

Day 1 is a no go. 2 maybe. Anything after that you can deal without a big mess if it is light.

Don't appear desperate for sex and don't make it obvious you are leaving cause she told you that. She might have gotten that vibe with your early exit.

You could have at least had her blow you or give a hand job.

If she was willing you could have given it up her ass.

Never go over to woman's place without getting some satisfaction.

That is a waste of your time.

 

[Desdinova]

I started escalating and went in to kiss her. She went on with it for a few minutes then kinda paused and said "nothing I'm just on my period" so I just say "oh okay" and didn't get mad at all.

My response is always something along the lines of "Awww, poor you!" and I keep doing what I'm doing. I absolutely love making women horny when they're on their period. Their either going to give in, or they're going to allow themselves to be tortured. When you know you don't need the sex, you can escalate, bite her neck, suck on her nipples for a bit, and then cuddle her. It blows women away when you can do all that 5hit and not feel the need to blow your load.

 

[LMFAO]

Each to their own, but personally I'm a bit disgusted by the period stuff. Last girl I did that with I fvcked her and you can feel the inside of her vagina was really stiff and it was a bit painful to me.

I was banging her on the couch with her riding my c0ck, she was loving every second of it, and suddenly blood pours out all over my c0ck. I ran to shower to clean the blood off, she was laughing. Bl0w jobs and anal are the way to go from now on for me. :nervous:

 

[Mike32ct]

Too soon to tell. If she's still playing the period card over a week from now, then you know it was BS lol. For now, just assume it's legit.

 

[logicallefty]

I can smell when a woman is on the rag, especially if I am sitting close to her, as you should have been with this woman. I wouldn't stress over this single incident. As you can see from the others who have posted on this thread, some guys don't care about the rag, others do. Same with women... some care, some do not.

Think about it from her shoes. If she is wanting things to move forward with you and she knows she isn't clean, she may be afraid that her woman gunk will turn you off and scare you away.

From my own first hand perspective, I might refuse sex with a woman if I have been working hard all day and know my sack isn't smelling optimal. I don't want to gross her out and make her not want sex with me later.

So yeah, in summary, consider it a light yellow flag at best but don't worry too much about it. Now if she tells you NEXT WEEK that she can't have sex because she just joined a new church on Sunday and sex isn't allowed your first week...Or she can't see you because she has to take her pet turtle to get his shell cleaned... Or whatever other one of many billion BS excuses woman pull out of their tuna, I'd be kicking that tuna into a new ocean. :kick:

 

[Meisterman]

Pretty sneaky by her to get you over for some non-sexual time. Take note of the date and watch for more attempts at non-sexual contact.
Unless of course you want to get serious with her.
And if she pulls the period excuse again, just say: "That's what showers are for".

That's what I'm saying. The truth is, we couldn't have done much anyway, because her friend came back literally 3 minutes later, and it's very small, just one main room. She sleeps there too (in the main room) and doesn't even have her mattress in her own room because it's in there.

But right before I kissed her she was putting her legs/thighs up over mine asking if that's okay (to use them as leg rest) and getting closer to me. I saw this as the green light and went in to kiss her. Even though I knew couldn't escalate there because of her friends, I wasn't about to go over for a 2 hour movie as "friends" and leave.

I'm not sure why she was adamant on inviting me over only for non sexual contact, and then rubbing up against me but calling it off once I kiss her. Is she probably on her period? It's likely. And could we have done anything with her friends there? Definitely not. But why go through the trouble of inviting me in the first place if that's all she had in mind? But I still am happy that I actually made a move because I don't want to give off an impression that I'm okay with going on "friend dates." At least I showed her where I stand and what my intentions are.

I'll be looking out in the future for these sneaky attempts at non-sexual contact. If I think it's a friend zone trap I'll probably decline. I'm not one to go over and watch 2 hour movies with not escalating. That's what her friends are for.

 

[hudpes]

Bs I fuked when she was on the rag. If the girl wants you badly she don't care

Really? If she wants you she will do anything no matter if it makes her feel gross? I strongly disagree with this one. It's a personal preference, some don't care some don't like it.

 

[Epimanes]

If she has any importance to you besides sex... Sometimes its ok not to fvck and just hang out. Likely she wanted some companionship with her roomie and roomies bf so she didn't appear alone... Nothing wrong with a bit of relationship comfort, where you show her she's not just a fvck toy. Not everything has to lead to sex .ALL.THE.TIME.

Personally I would have stayed for the movie and made out with her in her room after... Who knows what that would have led to.

Maybe played out like this...

*kissing n making out while friends gone*

Her: *stops* "I'm on my period"

You: *looks at her puzzled* "so... And I care because?"

Her: "well I just thought I would let you know, don't want to lead you on"

You: "is that all you think about is sex?"

Her: *hamster starts spinning* "no, I just thought I would tell you"

You: "ok, well thanks for letting me know, but your friends will be back soon to watch this flick" *lean in and kiss some more til they come back*

---*movies over*---

You: "well, good show thanks for inviting me over. I should get going"

Her: "no problem, thanks for coming by. Didn't want to feel like a third wheel with my roomie"

You: "how bout one last good night kiss" *takes her hand and leads her to her room"

Her: *follows you into the room*

You: *kisses her and throws her on the bed for another make out session not expecting sex, but since her hamster is spinning and your hard from making out she sucks ur dyck*

*hour goes by after goodnight kiss*

You: well I gotta get going, have to do xyz tomorrow bright and early

Her: thanks again for coming by, we will have to get together again soon.

You: ok, how about next saturday we grab a bottle of wine or something and share it over a flick at my place and see what happens from there"

Her: sounds great! Call you in a few days.

See ... Could have easily been played along those lines. This way your not precieved as only wanting her for sex, but companionship also. But hey.. That's what I would have done.

Epi

 

[djthiago1]

Some women are very self conscious about stuff like that.

 

[Mike32ct]

Also remember what she is wearing when she gives you the period excuse.

Wearing black jeans or pants*? Quite possible she's ragging but not guaranteed.

Wearing white or very light colored pants? She's lying lol.

Women wear dark colors on their lower body at that time in case of leaks.


*Spare me the pants vs trousers US/UK slang comment lol. You know I mean trousers not knickers/panties lol.

Another sign (but not guarantee) that she's ragging is when she carries her purse to the ladies room when you are out. She either has tampons in there OR she just met you and is afraid you are going to steal her wallet and read her booty call texts to her ex on her iPhone lol.

 

[Epimanes]

Also remember what she is wearing when she gives you the period excuse.

Wearing black jeans or pants*? Quite possible she's ragging but not guaranteed.

Wearing white or very light colored pants? She's lying lol.

Women wear dark colors on their lower body at that time in case of leaks.


*Spare me the pants vs trousers US/UK slang comment lol. You know I mean trousers not knickers/panties lol.

Another sign (but not guarantee) that she's ragging is when she carries her purse to the ladies room when you are out. She either has tampons in there OR she just met you and is afraid you are going to steal her wallet and read her booty call texts to her ex on her iPhone lol.

I think your over thinking the whole thing. Women wear what they wear. However I agree with the reasoning for black pants.. Mostly cuz I have seen and had to inform several women while on transit (good looking too) they "leaked" through their pants and blood was showing on their azz. The next time I seen her she was wearing black pants lol instead of the teal blue (I think it was scrub pants she was wearing for work). She was embarassed, but thankful.