she said she hated him but went to see him again?

[Tails]

okay, there's this girl i was talking about before, i like her and she likes me, but i think as a friend it seems. the guy she was seeing told me that they had sex and she found out about it and then hated him and wouldn't stop telling me how much she hates him. she just told me now that she went to see him and go shopping, wtf? she used me, like an emotional tampon. i should of known!

anyway, tonight she is online telling me she read logs about him telling me that he had sex with her and she feels like a slut now and she hates him again and is complaining to me again. am i being too nice to her comforting her? i feel like telling her to:

"fuk off, i am not here to be used okay?"

one minute she hates the guy, and she even tells me that he is an @sshole that he left her in his bedroom for an hour to go pick up his friends and she hated that.

but she's gone shopping with him? okay, fuk you, i have once again wasted my time on another girl. she gave me her number and all, i enjoy chating to her alot. but i will NOT be used!

please give me your opinions. i need to make a desicion about this girl before i get into her too deep.

 

[Mr.Fortesque]

Originally posted by Tails
okay, fuk you, i have once again wasted my time on another girl. she gave me her number and all, i enjoy chating to her alot. but i will NOT be used!

I think U are right. Don't waste time.

 

[Tails]

someone please help me. i don't know what to do about this girl.
she's complaining all the time how much of an @sshole he is yet she still see's him? i am a really great guy. i don't come off as desperate or too nice to her, i've already asked her on a date, she was busy that day though. am i too late? does she like the other guy and has put me in the friend section?

 

[unamean]

she totally likes this other guy. a few friends of mine did the exact same thing to me. but its like their boyfriends has some kind of mental control on them or something. women are wierd. they love the guy one day then totally hate him the next, its crazy. if i were you i would just tell her you dont want to be just friends with her.


-unamean

 

[JohnJones]

Just back off. If she's attracted enough to want what you're selling she'll re-approach you.

In the meantime, disappear and get busy, and if she does come back and whine about him just tell her, short and quick, that she'd be better off talking with a girlfriend or the boyfriend about it.

 

[NewMan]

anyway, tonight she is online telling me she read logs about him telling me that he had sex with her and she feels like a slut now and she hates him again and is complaining to me again. am i being too nice to her comforting her? i feel like telling her to:

This si a reoccuring story on this board.

Your in the friend zone my friend.

She looks at you as a friend - and is off loading her sh#t on you.

You've got to go back over how this happened. Didn't you make it clear to her that you wanted more than friends? if you did did she LJBF you? or did she not respond.

Your next move is to back way the fvck off and let her figure sh#t out for herself and to stop off loading crap onto you.

 

[Silquee Smoove]

I've got to say a lil' sumpin' sumpin' on this particular subject.

You've got a lil' bit of infatuation over this girl and you should distance yourself from her at this point.

Social proof is what you should "use" her for next.

I've been in a similar situation recently, and what you should do is go about finding other women and forgetting this one. Too much time is going to be wasted on her.

 

[E-Z Rider]

I think I can kind of see what its like to be the guy on the other side.

My ex-gf would probably say she 'hates' me to other guys, but I'm pretty sure if I had a mind to, I could do some stuff with her. I'm just moving on and don't want to mess with that.

So yeah, since this guy is playing her around, and she wants him (regardless of what she says)...you just need to not worry about her at all. She's not the type of girl you'd *really* want, and she sounds plain annoying. In my opinion, the only type of people who can put up with hearing a story like "I hate him but I fukked him and now he won't call me back, wahh" are other girls, or really feminine guys.

So don't put up with listening to this. If you for whatever reason enjoy talking to her as a friend about non-guy issues, then just tell her respectfully "I think you should call a girlfriend of yours about this, not me" if she calls with a rediculous sob story.

-E-Z

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

QUIT TALKING TO HER IN A CHAT ROOM!!!! OR ON THE PHONE!!!!!

You should have been doing things with one another and not IM'ing each other. Why do you young guys pursue women on a computer or through e-mail!!! THIS IS LAME!! You can't show your romantic interest on the computer, you can only do this in person!!! That is why she sees you as a 'friend' and the other dude as her pimp!!!

 

[ScrewIt]

you know that old saying -

they love to hate men
and
they hate to love em

 

[Tails]

Originally posted by NewMan
Didn't you make it clear to her that you wanted more than friends? if you did did she LJBF you? or did she not respond.

yes. i invited her out down the beach the other day, she said she was busy babysitting. i told her to give me a buzz the next time she wants to do something... but it seems she is into this other guy too much. but yes, i will back off... i will tell her i don't want to her sh|t no more.

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
That is why she sees you as a 'friend' and the other dude as her pimp!!!

actually, she met him online too. and she is pretty damn cute. she lives so close to me.. she doesn't smoke or drink, and that is rare where i am from.

 

[Cremasta]

When she starts complaining to you about this guy again simply tell her "It's your fault, you're the one with $hithouse taste in men..." or "So what's that got to do with me?" or "You're boring me."

The only chance you have with this girl is if you start telling her what you want her to do. And don't be so damn nice about it. She seems to be attracted to guys who don't suck up to her. What have you got to lose? This other guy treats her like dirt and she loves it! Maybe a suggestion that she come over to your place for a bite to eat followed by a lot of sex would give her something to think about. If she follows up with "Yeah, right, very funny"... its her loss and tell her that.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

He met her online to date her , not to hear her problems...you see the difference?

 

[Tails]

yeah, i guess he got there before me. anyway, i'm going to tell her to fuk off when she messages me.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Be nice, no need to burn any bridges! Just say you met someone else online who is worth pursuing and leave it at that.

 

[Tails]

heh, she just messaged me again. i'm waiting for it

[23:11] <JeNNiFeR> hullo
[23:12] <cola> hey
[23:13] <JeNNiFeR> how r ya
[23:14] <cola> great.
[23:14] <cola> you?
[23:15] <JeNNiFeR> yeh im better :0
[23:15] <JeNNiFeR> whats up?
[23:15] <cola> nothin much, just listening to music as always.
[23:15] <JeNNiFeR> what music?

she's trying to chat me up.

 

[Tails]

oh, here it goes;

[23:20] <JeNNiFeR> so what ya get up to today?
[23:21] <cola> not much. slept through out the whole day. came on here. yourself?
[23:21] <JeNNiFeR> yeh well i went shopping then had work
[23:21] <JeNNiFeR> then had the pleasure of chatting with fuk face
[23:22] <JeNNiFeR> n then u n now that takes us up to this point
[23:22] <cola> okay. so is that what your boyfriends new name is?
[23:22] <cola> fuk face.
[23:23] <JeNNiFeR> no thats ben's other name
[23:23] <cola> thats who i was talking about.
[23:23] <JeNNiFeR> yeh
[23:23] <JeNNiFeR> have u chatted with him lately?

hmm, should i start telling her to fuk off? i don't know what to say now.

 

[E-Z Rider]

umm...why would you tell her to 'fukk off'? That would be pretty lame and immature. It's not like she's doing anything to you. She just sees you as a girlfriend who happens to have a penis. And, like she would with any other girlfriend, she's telling you all about her love life. That she sees you like that is YOUR fault, not hers.

So no need to be disrespectful. Just don't talk about that stuff with her. Either say you have to go (which you should do frequently anyways), or tell her she should call one of her girlfriends to talk about this, b/c you really don't want to hear about it and have nothing to contribute to her stories. But there is no reason not to be respectful.

-E-Z

 

[Julian]

Step 1. Look down.

Do you see balls?

If so, QUIT BEING THIS CHICKS EMOTIONAL TAMPOON.

You are the guy she crys to, then he is the DJ who she runs after.

Just distance yourself, for one QUIT TALKING TO *****ES ONLINE.

Dont even say anything to her, jsut quit talking to her, no need to "Confirm" anything. Just disappear.

 

[NewMan]

hmm, should i start telling her to fuk off? i don't know what to say now.

No - you stop talking about HIM... Here goes...

[23:21] <JeNNiFeR> then had the pleasure of chatting with fuk face
[23:22] <JeNNiFeR> n then u n now that takes us up to this point

You don't say this:-


[23:22] <cola> okay. so is that what your boyfriends new name is?


In fact you don't talk about him at all. You move the conversation on.