She said: "I think you'd RAPE me."

[ShortTimer]

“I think you’d rape me.”

This was said to me today by a co-worker whom I thought was a friend (work-friend if you know what I mean). She’s been with us for about a month; she and I have gotten along great so far (at least I thought so). Normally we flirt back and forth: she’s done things like wiggle her but at me, ask if I’d like to “take her in the back room,” told me some secrets and made me pinky-promise not to tell anyone. Being an ex-cheerleader, sometimes she would do a little cheer routine using the letters of my name. She would do other things like walk by and intentionally bump into me, or hit me on the arm, or grab my arm, and in general seemed like she liked me.

Before I continue let me clear up a few things right here real quick:

1.) I’m 10 years older than her, she’s in high school.
2.) By “liked me” I mean I think she likes me as a friend.
3.) As I have said repeatedly in front of her and others: nothing is going to happen between us. I said this because people were talking about me & her.
4.) She’s seen me flirt with the other women we work with, so it’s not like I’ve singled her out or something.

Today I went into our back store room and found her there. I asked her what she was doing and she told me, I looked around and noticed no one else was in there and I said: “Oh, alone at last,” and smiled.

Her: “You know, I think you’d rape me if you had the chance.”
Me: “Why do you think I’d do that?”
Her: “I know how you like the younger girls and I just think you would.”
Me: “Well I wouldn’t.”

The rest of the day she was fine with me, came over to talk to me a few times (not about anything work-related), and even asked me to stay with her while there was another employee around that she didn’t like.

I don’t think she was joking about what she said (she didn’t say it in a joking manner), but I’m rather confused by it because 1.) she said it so matter of fact-ly as though it were no big deal, and 2.) before and after the comment she acted in her normal manner towards me.

Yeah she’s a HS girl and I remember that they can be crazy, but wtf was this?

 

[Ice Cold]

Jeez man. Get a clue. She wants your cokk

But I'd be careful about it though.

I've had a similar situation, rubbing, talking, tickling, starting convos... didn't offer me to rape her though.

I didn't go for it only because it was work.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by ShortTimer
...Her: “You know, I think you’d rape me if you had the chance.”
Me: “Why do you think I’d do that?”
Her: “I know how you like the younger girls and I just think you would.”
Me: “Well, that would be impossible."
Her: "What do you mean impossible?"
Me: "You can't rape the willing."
Her: "Well would you be interested?"
Me: "Only if you bring $200 and a note from your mom."

 

[Mercenary]

This is one of those situations when all of those C + F/comeback threads earn their place on the site...

your response:

"No, I think it's you who wants to rape me"

or

"You shouldn't be having sexual fantasies about me without my permission"

or

"Do I need to go tell our supervisor about your sexual advances? Or can we work this out with each other?

I'm frothing at the mouth for an opportunity like this man... next time this happens you need to hit a home run

 

[Ice Cold]

dude - he's almost 30 and he's at a job. It looks silly when a man his age gets involved with a teen in an office environment.

If he sleeps with her it can hurt him.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
dude - he's almost 30 and he's at a job. It looks silly when a man his age gets involved with a teen in an office environment.

If he sleeps with her it can hurt him.

agreed, unless of course, she shows up with the $200 and a note from her mom

 

[Mercenary]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
dude - he's almost 30 and he's at a job. It looks silly when a man his age gets involved with a teen in an office environment..

It looks silly when a man his age gets owned by a teen... If he can't master young girls, how can he hope to stand a chance against women his own age?

 

[Dirtheart]

If I was in your position, I'd quietly tell her that I was offended by what she said. Even if it was a joke or a come-on it is extremely tactless and I'd want her to know that I didn't take it lightly.

If you let it go, I think you're going to start feeling awkward in her presence and you'll possibly end up feeling guilty about flirting and being so outgoing.

 

[unamean]

Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
agreed, unless of course, she shows up with the $200 and a note from her mom

that sh!t is mad funny. hahaha

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by Mercenary
It looks silly when a man his age gets owned by a teen... If he can't master young girls, how can he hope to stand a chance against women his own age?

It's not "standing against" older women. It's dealing with.

Right now he's doing ok, the girl wants him but it would be wise for him not to get involved.

At the locker room he was caught off guard. Next time she does this he'll deal with her.

 

[[look]aRhino]

I agree with ice cold and dirtheart.

You're 30, you're in a job, and she's in high school.

Thats a bomb just waiting to explode. So instead of throwing yourself on it, just toss the bomb out the plane and into the ocean man.

Next time you see her alone at the office, just say to her quietly:

"You know Ashley (or whatever) ...... Your comment the other day really offended me. I'm apallad that you could think that about me. Your comment was not appropriate and it really should not have been said."

Just leave it at that man, be dead serious, say it, hold eye contact for a second to let it sink in, then just walk away. Let her think about it. And that way you also avoid the potential bomb. There are some chicks that just aren't worth it.

Rhino

 

[squirrels]

Look her right in the eye and say, "I don't think it's considered rape if both parties consent."

It DOES sound like she wants you to ravage her. But like other said, be careful about "fishing off the company pier." And getting attached to a woman 10 years younger than you can be trouble, depending on maturity level.

 

[oldschool]

Her: You know, I think you’d rape me if you had the chance.

You: You know, I think you'd accuse me of rape if you had the chance.

 

[Ice Cold]

Ideally you should talk to your management and say that a hot highschool cheerleader is sexually harassing you.

Now, why don't I like the fact that the above statement is funny?

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

just stay away from her. I cant believe she would say something like that to you. Either this girl is messed up or she wants you. In any case, you both would probably get fired, she could file for sexual harrasment, or if you do sleep with her, if she's a day under 18, you'll get put in jail for statutory rape because you're over 21, if her parents or your boss says something.

 

[ScrewIt]

i think she wants your c0ck

well you could say:

"well what if i did?"

or

"wait a minute...is this some form of sexual harrassment in the workplace?"

or

"i know you've been thinkin about it all day long...cuz you've been reading my mind."

or

"Please i'm not that easy"

or

"hm..lets get back to my place after work"

or

(just bang her on the desk after everyone leaves)

 

[Derek Flint]

Her: "I think you'd rape me"
Me: "Don't flatter yourself"

That being said, do not get involved with this girl, for obvious reasons.

 

[ShortTimer]

Thanks for all the responses everyone, I really felt like a deer in headlights with this whole thing.

Originally posted by Dirtheart
If I was in your position, I'd quietly tell her that I was offended by what she said.

Actually I was more than just offended; I was rather hurt by what she said. I don't know about anyone else but I usually don't make jokes that have the punch line use the word "rape." It's a rather serious word I don't throw around, especially at work.

I'm hurt by what she said because someone whom I respect says she thinks I could hurt a woman that way. I'm not trying to be overly dramatic here, but I almost feel like a friend just told me they couldn't trust me anymore even though I've done nothing to make them distrust me. Sure she's just a work-friend and if I never saw her again after today I wouldn't think much of it but it still hurts.

Originally posted by Dirtheart
If you let it go, I think you're going to start feeling awkward in her presence and you'll possibly end up feeling guilty about flirting and being so outgoing.

That already happened today after she said it. The only times I spoke to her the rest of the day was when she came over to me and even then I didn't joke around with her. I'm thinking about telling one of the managers I know I can trust to handle things about this. Not for the manager to take official action, but just to let her know what's up and what she thinks about it. We've helped each other out before so I know I can trust her.

Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
agreed, unless of course, she shows up with the $200 and a note from her mom

The mom’s note will no doubt stand up in court. Sounds like a plan.

Originally posted by [look]aRhino
You're 30, you're in a job, and she's in high school.

To keep the facts straight: I'm 27 and she's 17.

Originally posted by [look]aRhino
Next time you see her alone at the office, just say to her quietly:

"You know April ...... Your comment the other day really offended me. I'm appalled that you could think that about me. Your comment was not appropriate and it really should not have been said."

I'm thinking something like that yeah.

Originally posted by squirrels
Look her right in the eye and say, "I don't think it's considered rape if both parties consent."

It was rape with an engraved invitation your honor!

Originally posted by squirrels
It DOES sound like she wants you to ravage her. But like other said, be careful about "fishing off the company pier." And getting attached to a woman 10 years younger than you can be trouble, depending on maturity level.

Well I wouldn't want a relationship with her; I just flirt because it's fun. Like I said in my first post: she's not the only woman I flirt with at my job... of course the others haven't used my name and the "rape" word in the same sentence either.

Also I know she has this overprotective hyper-jealous boyfriend that she's been dating for the last two years (I think she said she lost her virginity to him or something)... and lemmie tell ya I don't even want to go near getting involved in that level of BS thank you very much.

Originally posted by ScrewIt

(just bang her on the desk after everyone leaves)

I was thinking something more exotic, like the roof.

 

[Ebach]

Obviously she wants to be more than a friend. The most obvious thing though, is that she's immature and doesn't know how to handle a guy. You should've returned a C+F and imply that she would want to rape you being the innocent SOB that you are. Of course you say that in a bad ass attitude or else you sound like *****. Nuff said...

 

[fender85]

I'm not going to tell you not to hit it, but I am going to tell you to wait until she's 18. And it is generally a better idea to wait until one of the two of you don't work there anymore. It's bad enough breaking up with a coworker and still having to deal with them every day, but it'd be even worse due to the age difference, and the amount of hell you'd get about it.