She requests a Venue Change for first date

[MtnMan]

thanks for the replies dudes. Feeling much better about it this morning.

I feel like in the last couple weeks I have been on a pretty good high, and this kind of cut me back down to size. Lately I have been able to see real results from working out, gotten my style dialed in, and I have to say I am looking good now.

Also I have been talking to random chicks I run into and getting much better eye contact when out on the town. All good things, and I was starting to feel pretty good about my progress.

I had a bunch of numbers and possible dates from OLD, so I chose the chick I wanted to meet and set up a date...then the date goes less than ideal, mostly my own fault, failed to build and maintain a sexual vibe. Convo goes great, lots of eye contact, girl seems comfortable, but no real sexual tension. This sort of brought me down off that high, but I think it was still an improvement over the last date I went on, so I guess I will try, try again.
I would be surprised if I hear from this chick again. Too bad, because she was a cutie and I think her initial IL was pretty high. Lots of common ground between us as well. D@MN.

 

[MtnMan]

you guys think there is any point in contacting this girl in a few days, or does it sounds like its a dead end?

 

[the_stig]

She could be having car trouble or she might not. She might not want to put herself out if she isn't really interested. That way it's easier for her to skate early from the date and not have to go far. Funny how all these problems seem to happen on the actual day of the date when these dudes are going out with chicks

Exactly, I smell BS on this one. One trend I've been noticing lately when meeting girls online, they all want to meet someplace close to or convenient for them, or its no dice. If it's more than 10 miles or 20 minutes I just move on if they're not willing to compromise.

Example.. had a girl who really wanted to meet me Monday at 5pm, told her great but I'm not driving anywhere that involves sitting in rush hour. Sure enough, the only place she'd agree to meet was a restaurant on her way home, but would be traffic hell for me. Come Monday afternoon she was told my car was at the dealer and not finished in time.

In your case, by all means go have a good time if the extra drive isn't a burden. If she wants you to drive an unreasonable distance, tell her to text you when she's got working transportation.

 

[goldengoose]

So all the assumptions that she was lying, and trying to gain leverage, etc was all trash?

It happened so far just the way I said. She changed the location because she was on the fence, she didn't want to put herself out. She made him come to her and he did. She spent some time, got a free drink, and went home which was close to her. Interested women will drive hours to see you and these little mishaps don't just "happen" on the day of your date.

Exactly, I smell BS on this one. One trend I've been noticing lately when meeting girls online, they all want to meet someplace close to or convenient for them, or its no dice. If it's more than 10 miles or 20minutes I just move on if they're not willing to compromise.

Example.. had a girl who really wanted to meet me Monday at 5pm, told her great but I'm not driving anywhere that involves sitting in rush hour. Sure enough, the only place she'd agree to meet was a restaurant on her way home, but would be traffic hell for me. Come Monday afternoon she was told my car was at the dealer and not finished in time.

In your case, by all means go have a good time if the extra drive isn't a burden. If she wants you to drive an unreasonable distance, tell her to text you when she's got working transportation.

You made a great point. Online women want it to be convenient for themselves because they don't want to put themselves out. After the date, it will be early enough that they can go do something else.

The excuses they give always has to do with their car not working or a conflict with work. Which is why they make you come to them. Happened to a lot of other guys on another site.

I always rescheduled if I got excuses because I wasn't going to put myself out either. That shows she really isn't interested when you get the excuses.


There are 3 types of online women

1. Ones who will come to you who have high interest.

2. Ones who are on the fence and are not too sure, they want you to come to them so they can leave early if they want and are close to their home.

3. Ones who talk but make excuses to meet up.

 

[goldengoose]

Hey that is good to know!! A nice way of weeding them out then. Call, leave a message. if she texts you, ask her to phone. If she won't? Next.

I have no time for "social retards"

Are you serious? Asking her to phone is being desperate. You shouldn't have to ask for anything. She should answer the phone if you call or call you back if she missed it. That's what girls do who like you. If she has no interest in doing that, that's how you weed her out.

 

[MtnMan]

just to clarify guys, the place we originally were going to meet was about a 5-8 minute drive from her house, the place where we actually met was about a 10 minute walk.

 

[Pardner]

I was supposed to have date over at a girl's place tonight, she is changing it to come to me or to go out instead. I don't think it has to do with interest but more of her hiding something.