she plays hard to get

[Toreador]

hi folks,

I just stummbled in here.

I am from germany

here is the situation:

I recently met this girl, she is a student from wisconsin and studies in germany for 2 semesters. I met her in a disco/bar, it was really simple, we have had loud music, so my conversation with her was pretty short and therefore easy, I introduced myself, asked her about who she ist etc.

so I got her number, called her 2 days letter and made up a date for the weekend, we were sitting in a ****tailbar, talking, getting to know each other, she told me that she has just broke up with her boyfriend and that she wants to move on slowly, no rush.

I said, thats not a problem, so we sat and talked, later on,when the date endedm I tried to kiss her on her mouth, but she moved her head sidewards, and pointed on her cheek, I kissed her a few times on her cheek and hugged her, touched her hips and her back, she was fine with it, no resistance.

a few hours later, I went with some of my friends to the bar, where I met her, she was dancing really sexy, I was sitting at the bar, observing her and she danced with other guys really close, right in front of me, of course she saw me.

However, i reacted cool, like it just doesnt bother me. I went to her a few minutes later, but she wasnt in the mood to talk (maybe because she was drunk and more into dancing in this moment), so I went back to my friends.

I realized that she just danced with these guys, she did not gave them her phone number, so i thought, okay, she wants to make me jealous, im fine with that, i still reacted cool wih that.

just before I decided to leave, I aproached her and said bye, she hugged me, and I tried to kiss her and become physical with her, still she pulled back and presented me her cheek to kiss and then she said: "call me"


WEEK AFTER

it was wednesday, I called her to make up a new date, she told me that she had to visit a freind and she didn`t know if she would have time, she said that she will write me a short message with her cell phone, later.


I NEVER RECEIVED THAT MESSAGE

It was thursday, i wrote her a short messagem asking if she had made up her mind about friday night, but no response.

i acted cool, I didnt call her or beg etc.

so i met my freinds an decided to check out the disco, where i saw her first time, later on.

Again, she was there dancing really close and sexy with other guys, this time she saw me first, smiled and aproached me. I was sitting at the bar, she hugged me and asked if i was fine and i asked her what happened with her message,that she had intended to send, she replied that her cellphone would have had technical problems (bull ****,if you ask me).

The situation was bad for a chat, because of the loud music, and she wasnt fond of talking anyway, it seems like its her ritual to just dance there "*****y" and forget everything around her.







here comes the final statement


I wanted to leave with my friends, i went to her to say bye, I hugged her, she pointed at her cheek, I kissed it, but also tried to kiss her neck with my tongue, she pulled away after a few kisses but kissed my cheek and said: " call me" because I wanted again make up a date.

I looked deep into her eyes and said:

"

So you are giving me a hard time, huh? "

she: "yes"

I asked: why?

she: "Because I can "

this really stunned me, because usually I have always a ****y answer at hand, but when iam in front of her, its like I am paralyzed, now dont get me wrong, i do not have low self confidence, she is just sending mixed signals

how can I break her resistance? How should I act, I cant tell if she is intrested or not, playing or testing.

thanks for your help

 

[Morphiex]

make her a little jeleuos , dance with other girls and stuff do what she does , and when u leave just give her one simple kiss on the cheek do this a couple of times and see what happens.....

 

[Tyron]

Don't play her games. Move on, have other girls to date/things to do if she doesn't have "time" to go out with you. In fact, have other "friends" in bar too you can chat up and dance with. Just don't give a s**t, seems like you are on losing end already. She has power, you have none. Say what you want and if she doesn't deliver, you know what to do. And that's also the best way to break her resistance, if she even cares about you that is. If she doesn't you lost nothing anyway.

in my honest opinion

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Originally posted by Toreador
hi folks,

here comes the final statement

I wanted to leave with my friends, i went to her to say bye, I hugged her, she pointed at her cheek, I kissed it, but also tried to kiss her neck with my tongue, she pulled away after a few kisses but kissed my cheek and said: " call me" because I wanted again make up a date.

I looked deep into her eyes and said:

"

So you are giving me a hard time, huh? "

she: "yes"

I asked: why?

she: "Because I can "

this really stunned me, because usually I have always a ****y answer at hand, but when iam in front of her, its like I am paralyzed, now dont get me wrong, i do not have low self confidence, she is just sending mixed signals

how can I break her resistance? How should I act, I cant tell if she is intrested or not, playing or testing.

thanks for your help

STOP BEING HER PUPPY! She gives you orders and you FOLLOW them! This girl is having fun at your expenses. I don't believe she's interested in you.

 

[Toreador]

@ tyrion:

she is not "the only one" I got one more, of course I meet that other girl too.


the situation in that disco is, that there are more male than female, like almost everywhere you go, sometimes the situation is different, I will for sure, talk to other girls in there, if I find some beautiful ones


maybe it is better to ignore her a little more, and ask on the other hand, if she is availiable for dates?

I mean if I loose, why is she still coming over to me, and why does she want me to call her?

 

[organizedconfusion]

*sigh*
i gringed when i read this post, seriouslly my stomach kinda
sank when i read how this chick is..
but then again it reminds me of what i had done in the past to
over come s**t like this.

do you meet her outside of the bars?
personally i'd date her for a few times and have as much fun as
you both possibly could ,do the things she LOVES TO do,
show no romantic interest, use C/F ,and then don't talk to her anymore- and tell everyone that she was boring.
leave it on a GOOD NOTE and then just date a
really hot chick afterwards,even if she tells everyone
that you sucked or whatever , she'll know the truth-
how much fun you were and how SHE should be the one with you.


if she ever asked why you never called her anymore
or why you are doing this..
just say - " cause i can..."
:crackup: :crackup:

 

[Tyron]

Originally posted by Toreador

the situation in that disco is, that there are more male than female, like almost everywhere you go, sometimes the situation is different, I will for sure, talk to other girls in there, if I find some beautiful ones


maybe it is better to ignore her a little more, and ask on the other hand, if she is availiable for dates?

I mean if I loose, why is she still coming over to me, and why does she want me to call her?

Yep I know clubs well and I see your problem, sometimes there just isn't girls worth your time. (I live in relatively small city and clubs arent that big either)

I wouldnt ignore her a little more, I would totally ignore her.. atleast after the comment she said. She's playing you. I hate nothing more, next. And don't assume women are logical and try to work their minds out. Just not worth the brain capacity

I think my view for this is clear, someone's might differ so don't take it for granted. Next time, if you go that far, say that you are going to kiss her to her mounth and if she turns cheek again, "Play your games with someone else, I have better things to do"

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Mixed messages, Playing hard to get = She's not that interested in you.

 

[PoloBlue]

I really think she just likes the attention, she doesnt really like you, your wasting your time, find another girl

 

[tmpgstx]

She's a classic AW. Why do you think she's dancing all sexy in front of other men like she did? It is to feed her fragile ego and give her a sense of worth (though it's the entirely wrong kind).

 

[Toreador]

thanx so far for your opinions, somehow this pisses me of, you see, I know she is not long term material, I knew it from the very first meeting that she was only good for some fun

Unfortunately, the chances of having "fun" with her, seem to be minimal after all, maybe I should`nt call her, and wait for her reaction. If I see her next time in that disco, I will react much more desintressted, this might strike her.

You guys think, this would be a good solution?