She never loved me..

[hockeyfreak79]

I use to see this saying a lot when I first came to SS.

"Men love woman, woman love children, children love puppies."

My version would be Men love yourself because woman love children, children love puppies.

My ex wf pulled the same crap.They are all full of sh*t, never believe a word that comes out of their mouth. If they are saying it it's just to hurt you. Move on.

 

[Scars]

Holy ****, what the hell happened to this forum?

 

[marmel75]

Don't lower yourself to let a woman's feelings sway you either way.

5 little words of power: "what's in it for me?".

Demote her to plate status. If she contacts you, escalate it to getting her out and fvcking. Leave it at that.

Otherwise drop her entirely.



That was very naive.



Why do so many guys think this is a good thing?

Bi-girls are trashy. And threesomes are overrated.



Why did you ever elevate her to girlfriend status? Serious question.

This girl has plate written all over her. And I've not met her



A couple of things to keep in mind when feeling this way:

- Nothing is personal in this game. Everyone is just looking to get their needs met. Be better than the situation.

- Each woman is practice for the next. All relationships are temporary. You will get better (unless you bury your head in the sand).

Why did she get elevated? Lack of options.

 

[marmel75]

Holy ****, what the hell happened to this forum?

Turned into a bunch of people roided out on estrogen. I had no idea they sold that sh!t on the market...

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

@ChangePages let's be honest, you never loved her either, did you? Not the real her--you loved a projection of who you wanted her to be. You loved a projection of what you've been socially conditioned to believe love is. You loved her as a projection of chemicals released in your brain that inspired feelings you weren't able to take full ownership of since you hadn't experienced them before. Was your love anymore noble or valid than hers? LOL.

Look, it's time to take back ownership of yourself and your experience of life. Everything good in that relationship, you CREATED that. All those good feelings, you GENERATED those. Everything you loved about her were really things you love about yourself--but you don't know how to love yourself, because society is always making us look outside of ourselves for that permission. How can you expect loyalty from anyone, if you're not loyal to yourself? If you need someone else to confirm the validity of your experience of life? If you look at everything in terms of success or failure, forever or a lie?

Stop trying to define everything. Just live it. You should love your life and your experience of yourself so much that nothing anyone does/says/or doesn't say makes any impact whatsoever on what's real (to you) and what isn't. Take ownership of that sh1t, bro.

You gotta admit though, it does feel good to have someone like you. Like if someone likes my music for example, I do feel good because everyone likes validation no matter what (I don't listen to pop; my music expresses my thought patterning and stuff so when someone likes my music it's like saying they like how I am). That being said, if someone doesn't like my music, I'm not going to cry about it or care much at all.

This is when she leaves him.. with no guilt and no regret.

I recall guru1000 saying this is how we as men should be; shameless with our intent and with our actions. You just helped me realize that by doing as he says, we are simply operating on the same level as women.

Female hypergamy is real.

Women only care about what you can do for them. Their "feelings" come from your ability to improve their life in some way they value. Once you can no longer do that OR they start to value something different.. those feelings disappear like a fart in the wind.

This is why men who make women their "life purpose" are doomed. There is more to life than b!tches. Act accordingly.

Can you provide an example or 2 where this occurs in nature?

To the OP: You just gotta realize that this is how it is, this is how females are. I don't care myself, and I don't get heartbroken either. The only time have ever heartbroken in the last I suppose was when my dad would leave to go to work when I was a little toddler or if I woke up and he wasn't home. But that's when I was a super young (>5 y/o) and I only remember small flashbacks.

Anyways, one of the other things you gotta realize is women think and act off of emotions. So they "loved you all this time" in the moment. But then the next, she "never really loved you", in the moment of course. Yeah, chicks are kinda weird like that.

 

[Vivacity]

I figure this out at the dating stages: If a woman does not value "marriage," does not know her responsibilities (eg., cooking and cleaning, or willingness to learn to cook and clean), does not have academic or professional goals and does not make continuous effort to achieving those goals, I don't give her time of day.

No man or woman is unique. You always find better man or better woman, which does not mean you dump the partner you are with, when you find someone better. Find a partner who understands this and is content and satisfied with the one she is with. Usually, a woman that values "marriage" and is responsible is the one that unconditionally loves her partner.

A person who is building her life and career, usually also knows the importance of building her relationships, and does so.

 

[Silko]

Why did she get elevated? Lack of options.

You are true here. Not lack of options... I often doubted on her for several reasons.

 

[gonewiththefire]

Lately I have been thinking very deeply about the past as a part of coping method to move on with my life but lately the past has been bothering me. I don't even know how to put this in words.

Even tho this was my first girlfriend, it bothers me to know that she never really loved me to begin with. This has something to do with me failing, I don't like failing, especially in a relationship. Her not loving me just tells me that I failed and it bothers me. Women are so quick to leave and jump on the next guy that I know most of the people here know what I'm talking about.

How do you cope with girls never being in love with you? Do you care?

Especially if it's girlfriends you put in time for, only to realize she never gave a **** about you, she was just using you to begin with. Then for her to later come back and say 'I miss you I always loved you' ect. What gives.

I realized this is what makes most red pill men. So enlighten me on the process.

Most women react out of how they feel in the moment.

And sometimes they say crazy hurtful things, other times they do the opposite.

Just as sometimes they will do crazy things with some guys (who can make them feel things they crave) while other times they just don't want to do anything crazy with other guys

That has been my experience

hope it helps!

gonewiththefire

 

[ChangePages]

Thank you to everyone who contributed, I've been reading all your replies this week while I was occupied and I never thought it would get this many replies and thought out responses. I needed to see a different perspective on the matter and you guys did just that.

@ChangePages let's be honest, you never loved her either, did you? Not the real her--you loved a projection of who you wanted her to be. You loved a projection of what you've been socially conditioned to believe love is. You loved her as a projection of chemicals released in your brain that inspired feelings you weren't able to take full ownership of since you hadn't experienced them before. Was your love anymore noble or valid than hers? LOL.

Look, it's time to take back ownership of yourself and your experience of life. Everything good in that relationship, you CREATED that. All those good feelings, you GENERATED those. Everything you loved about her were really things you love about yourself--but you don't know how to love yourself, because society is always making us look outside of ourselves for that permission. How can you expect loyalty from anyone, if you're not loyal to yourself? If you need someone else to confirm the validity of your experience of life? If you look at everything in terms of success or failure, forever or a lie?

Stop trying to define everything. Just live it. You should love your life and your experience of yourself so much that nothing anyone does/says/or doesn't say makes any impact whatsoever on what's real (to you) and what isn't. Take ownership of that sh1t, bro.

This hit me harder than anything here. I'm learning to cope better after this thread, it's really sort of disappearing from my head.

I've learned throughout the week that:
Women play by their emotions, it's all in the moment
Women play by status and 'disney feels' (which I completely understand)
Women would rather have someone who makes it a challenge to 'love' them, make them work for that 'love', meaning the man doesn't fully commit or put in much of the effort women are suppose to think (even tho when men do this their interest level goes down)
Women don't know what 'love' truly is, it's simply a word and nothing else and would never reach that expectation we desire in a women.
Female Hypergamy is real and women truly don't respect men the way we men think.