She never calls or texts

[championberry]

Question for you guys...

I met up with this girl who i met a few months back. Well this weekend I went to her State and I sealed the deal. I've been talking or texting her everyday since and wanted to test her IL.

last night i didnt call or text and never heard from her yet!!

it seems that I always initiate the call or text. She NEVER calls or texts me. Though once we start talking or texting it goes on forever.

I was wondering what to do. shes lives in another state but want her to keep her IL high as to warrant a visit to me. She said after she graduates in May shes comine in june and has told me she is almost 100% moving to my state for work opportunities..

So should I continue initiating the text and call...Or do I wait a few days and see any responses...

thanks guys

 

[Demodulate]

Wait..

go talk to some other woman..

 

[Mr. Me]

If she never initiates a call, that may tell you a lot about that IL of hers you so want to test.

And if you initiate all the calls, you're not giving her any reason to initiate any herself.

If when you do make contact it goes on "forever" that also helps dissipate IL. As does calling and texting DAILY.

And if she lives out of state, keeping IL high is near impractical.

It just sounds to me like you're making lots of mistakes.

Move on, and if she calls, great: That's when you'll tell her that when she moves near you that's when you'll see her again.

 

[piranha45]

Don't even consider trying to attach your emotions to a woman who lives far off. It sounds like you are trying to make a gf out of her, which is very bad; no man with options would be devoting so much personal time to a dead-end situation like this.

Do a search on this forum for "Inner Game" and take the advice to heart. If you keep initiating all the communication, and communicating frequently, you'll rub off on her as being needy and being too available, and those are huge turnoffs for women.

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

Maybe SHE'S testing YOU!

 

[joshlavarn2009]

Ask her if she is retarded. That simple. Say something jerky and immature. Bust her balls a little. This girl is on a pedestal and needs to be taken down. That is why she doesn't write to you. You'd be better off going away as an immature jerk then a lamo afc.

 

[Da Realist]

Ask her if she is retarded. That simple. Say something jerky and immature. Bust her balls a little. This girl is on a pedestal and needs to be taken down. That is why she doesn't write to you. You'd be better off going away as an immature jerk then a lamo afc.

That's kind of immature and insecure in my opinion. Being a jerk in small doses can help, but thinking right off she thinks she better than you is telling. Remember: guys mess up more by trying to "fix" things than by just going with flow. It's not your job to fix what wrong with them, so why even give them enough credit to try?

The real issue is that the girl doesn't have to work for attention. She had sex with some guy and to her it must have been good enough to have some guy buzzing around her constantly. It's like, again, trying to fix something that is wrong. Just slow down and stop worrying so much. If she calls, great. She doesn't, what have you lost since she lives in another state anyway?

 

[championberry]

wait what...wow...all i'm saying is to whether be the first to call or text....lol
We have great conversations as I dont have to keep talking to hold a conversation which is a relief from the girls I do meet....lol...

also i have followed the book to the T with all the advice that i get while I lurked here...only this time "I" actually felt different...lol...for what its worth...lol

thanks guys

 

[Eijo]

Comprehending from what you provided for us so far. It seems that you became more attached to her by sealing the so called deal. Remember to place yourself in her shoes, perhaps you're just a fling or a one time deal to her. Maybe even a friend with benefit in the near future.
However, learn when to cut the string and when to reattach it. Call and text if you want to, but cut it down to a minimum. So in that way, it forces her to reply to your open ending tactics. Right now, you're giving her the attention. So in other words, she doesn't have to do anything. Then think about this, strips that attention away from her and see what she would do next. If she care, she'll respond quick. If not, look down the line of women and shout out "NEXT!?"

 

[championberry]

Comprehending from what you provided for us so far. It seems that you became more attached to her by sealing the so called deal. Remember to place yourself in her shoes, perhaps you're just a fling or a one time deal to her. Maybe even a friend with benefit in the near future.
However, learn when to cut the string and when to reattach it. Call and text if you want to, but cut it down to a minimum. So in that way, it forces her to reply to your open ending tactics. Right now, you're giving her the attention. So in other words, she doesn't have to do anything. Then think about this, strips that attention away from her and see what she would do next. If she care, she'll respond quick. If not, look down the line of women and shout out "NEXT!?"

dude...thanks...thats what i was trying to get at :rockon: