She must be bored. Right?

[The LadyKiller]

I work at a very large-sized company; tons of employees and people relocate from all over, etc. A lot of us are around the same age. As you could guess, everyone we know and are friends with is from work.

A couple of months ago, I got to know one of my female co-workers (HB) a little. She seemed nice, though I noticed she either behaved hot or cold. Figuring I'd regret it otherwise (although she had been more 'cold' recently), I asked her out. She said yes. I then received an incorrect/fake phone number before she deleted me on Facebook. So...that didn't go as planned. I chalked it up to her being strange and moved on.

(((After the smoke cleared...)))

I stayed away from HB for a little while after this all went down. I had nothing to say to her and wouldn't show any emotion (don't want her thinking it got to me). We were civil to one another, and I was fine leaving it at that. Unfortunately, the Social Gods wanted some "coincidences" to happen:
-Strangely, she and I have the same manager/direct report. I met with mine last month to go over my assessment (all is good). She likes to speak in hypotheticals, but kept mentioning HB's name in all of her examples! I was not amused.
-Due to a scheduling quirk, we were assigned to work together on a one-day assignment. Going in, I feared the worst. In reality, we ended up working strangely well together. She laughed at all my natural one-liners and seemed eager to help out on things.
-This week, I noticed a funny mistake on something she did. She thought it was absolutely hilarious when I explained it to her. To the point she she still laughs out loud...two days later. Because she didn't want others to learn about it, I said it could be our little inside joke. Furthermore, she smiles everytime she sees me now.

Today, one of my close work friends says that this is no good. "You two are talking a lot, there's inside jokes...you two are friends!" This closely depicts my reaction: . I definitely don't "like" her...she played games with me! I'm not going through that bs again. But...why is she all of a sudden so outgoing and personable all the time? Should I keep my guard up?

 

[jax871]

Who the f*ck knows whats going on in her head.. shes female. Let's look at her actions though, actions never lie.. she gave you a fake number and deleted you off facebook. On top of that theres the cliche advice of 'dont sh*t where you eat'.

Leave it alone, spin other plates.

 

[Zerro]

I asked her out. She said yes. I then received an incorrect/fake phone number before she deleted me on Facebook. So...that didn't go as planned. I chalked it up to her being strange and moved on.

What a *****. All she had to do was say no and that'd have been it but instead she took a route that guaranteed to make things awkward.

Don't give her any more time than you require to get the job done.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Listen TLK. Do not mess up your money. Leave it alone.

She gave you a fake number because it was inappropriate to try to date you and I gurantee you she has a main dude she is messing with. Just charge this broad to the game and get your money on. You already put your bid in and she wasn't co-operative so forget about her.

 

[The LadyKiller]

What a *****. All she had to do was say no and that'd have been it but instead she took a route that guaranteed to make things awkward.

EXACTLY! This was running through my mind too. If she just said no, it's no big deal; it happens. But to go the route she did...why? It makes no sense to do that.

 

[Zerro]

EXACTLY! This was running through my mind too. If she just said no, it's no big deal; it happens. But to go the route she did...why? It makes no sense to do that.

I know what you mean, I had a girl from work who had been sending of IOIs from the day she was hired so one night we were both working late and I asked if she wanted to grab some dinner with me as we were leaving. Innocent enough really but she gave an excuse about meeting some friends and declined.

From that night onward it was nothing but mixed signals for a few months and eventually turning into a cold ***** towards me. Weirdness like getting visibly jealous when she sees me being friendly with other chicks but yet still doesn't want to give me the time of day. Occasionally she starts acting nice again but I just ignore her from now on, she had her chance already.

If a chick thinks she can get a 2nd chance from me it's only if she rejected me with some grace, not when she does it in a bridge-burning fashion that's guaranteed to cause some hard feelings.

Oh and want some "social gods" amusement? In a recent re-org the managers not only moved us so that we're on the same floor but also practically next to one another. Meh, just means that she gets to overhear whenever I talk about taking other chicks out.

 

[Maximummax]

If you nice to her you are actually helping her. Don't do that. keep it strictly work related. Try to avoid her as much as you can. You don't want a girl who lied to you in any manners and played games with you.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I feel so lucky to Not have to work side-by-side with women, guys even. My job is autonomous, I'm free, for the most part, to get the job done on my own. So, ANY female I run into in my job, if she screws with me, fvcks me over, doesn't like me, heh, silent treatment. I'm Never Forced to work With any female. I've even had female customers lose their jobs because of how wacky batsh!t crazy they treated me for no reason! There is a great sense of gratification to having these nutballs ousted and to have my backside always covered in a conflict. And it's ALWAYS other people who Know about these ones who do quirky weird sh!t to fvck with others, like myself, who's just minding his own business (I mean, May-be she's attracted, and thus fvcks with me because she can't have me, I have no idea, but it's her demise and she should have never done it - some women think that they can get away with literally anything). Just Offensive as offensive can be. I never seek out others to offend and despise others who do go way out of their way to grab others in a violent offensive reaching out desperation. People like that are the kind with brain disorders, probably eat fast food (unhealthy), and sex-addicted nymphos.

I don't need that, at 36, I need calm and peace from a woman.

I think that your managers got wind of your asking her out and now they see this as an opportunity to get you let go. The male in this scenario is almost always on the chopping block. He has no defense, cause higher up males and females always believe the female who's, as she might tell them, "frightened" or "stalked" or "I'm afraid of what he might do to" poor little old "me." She has told them, be sure. No telling the lies she has told them and women (as well as many men) can be Sooooo 2-faced and smile at you while stabbing you in the back holding the knife with a velvet glove. And she will be believed cause she's a woman. It's just how it is. Back in the day, women did not work alongside men, and they were terribly terribly subordinate. This allowed men, All workers, to be the most productive they could be and companies benefited way more because of it.

Just think of the aggressivity of an NFL player, how NO woman can EVER be allowed to play in a nanosecond of an NFL game as this is just simply Not her territory, this is NOT a safe place for her to be EVER. Why are so many of them in the way of business? Sure there are some Born with a lot of testosterone and can do a man's job, but can they do a man's job to the nth pinnacle that a winning company needs all it's workers to perform in order to win over the competition?? Aggressivity is an overwhelming male attribute, and males in the workforce are harnessed by workplace rules and the presence of women there, Especially in government.

Can you imagine? I've been there and quit, could not stand the Ease as I like to run for my money. In government, federal, state, local, but especially federal, the frequency of, the length of, breaks, smoke breaks, walk around outside in the nice weather around the building, chatting, laughing, yuckin it up, whatever, is UNreal, Be-cause, they have No one to hold them accountable. If people would simply take out their smartphones and monitor these government workers' numerous lengthy breaks throughout the day and post them on youtube, make them viral, then we'd see the Real drain on this economy. But no one does this as most are too Busy working, for real, in their private sector jobs. But why not get their kids to watch the government employees' abuse of taxpayer dollars? There needs to be a massive grassroots accountability project to expose the waste from the privileged lucky few that run (if you could call it that) our government.

 

[The LadyKiller]

I think that your managers got wind of your asking her out and now they see this as an opportunity to get you let go.

Couldn't be any further from the truth. Not even close. There are a large number of people in the company "coupled up," there are some in the company who have a "sexual harassment" problem and are still here, etc.

I don't want to act defensive here Poonani, but my job is not in question. I was told I am performing at a high level recent assessment and my bosses have been giving me more and more responsibility.

Simply asking a girl out doesn't get you fired. I realize you're against the corporate world, but your view might be a little skewed. No saying wrong, but exaggerated.

 

[Poonani Maker]

^^ ok man, sorry. Her smiling at you all the time spooked me. I'm not sure that I trust constant smilers and handshakers anymore knowing people (American) the way they are so self-obsessed and looking to get whatever they can get for themselves (me included).

 

[The LadyKiller]

^^ ok man, sorry. Her smiling at you all the time spooked me. I'm not sure that I trust constant smilers and handshakers anymore knowing people (American) the way they are so self-obsessed and looking to get whatever they can get for themselves (me included).

No worries. Now I see what you mean with the smiling. The sense that they're being "fake" and they have ulterior motives (same with the people who over-rely on handshakes). As you said, it's something to keep in the back of your mind; I use the gut test.

Just to go full circle...she smiled again today.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Point taken remotecontrol.

I am simply trying to figure out her recent behavior. Things weren't any simpler today:
-She overheard me talking to a friend/teammate about our upcoming intramural game. Now she wants to be on the team (not happening, but surprised she seemed so interested).
-She laughs at any one-liner/joke attempt. Three months ago, these same one-liners would be met with icy stares. Now, I'm Rodney Dangerfield. I don't get it.
-I grabbed dinner with a friend. We (of course) run into her as we're leaving. We talk for a few minutes, as she was with a friend too. My friend (same one from the OP), who seems to be good with girls, says he detects plenty of positive vibes coming from her, and we're both stumped.

Really, really weird stuff. As I mentioned before, I don't "like" her mostly because I can't trust her and her previous actions were really disrespectful. I just have no idea what's going on with her at the moment.

 

[GADavid]

It sounds like the girl likes the chase. The fact that her previous games didn't phase you, made you a challenge and dinged her ego a little. I have some experience with this with a co-worker and it turned out to be a no-win situation. Best to forget it... or else its a whole lot of crazy ahead.

 

[Down Low]

-Strangely, she and I have the same manager/direct report. I met with mine last month to go over my assessment (all is good). She likes to speak in hypotheticals, but kept mentioning HB's name in all of her examples! I was not amused.

This says it all. The b1tch coworker reported your "sexual harrassment" to the manager and now the manager's fishing for evidence to support one side or another. You're on the short list for firing. The company's looking for any excuse to dump your azz.

Look for another job.

And learn the lesson. Stay to fvck away from coworkers. It's feminist forbidden territory to poach on women who the male bosses and lezbian upper ups want to make. Besides, screw them. It's ungentlemanly to try to seduce a woman coworker. Stop being your own worst enema. Man up and find your fvcks outside of the eazy-pickens at work.
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I am not her man. She can't stand the thought of me touching her. She's dripping with other men's semen. She is ashamed to be seen with me. She never misses an opportunity to disrespect me. Everything I do is wrong. I am the problem. She got what she wanted from me. She says "I hate you so much I could kill you." Going away forever will make her happy again. So I'm leaving her to her pumped-and-dumped lifestyle and leaving her bastard child fatherless. I'd be better off with no woman at all than wasting another second thinking about her. I learned from my mistakes and the next relationship will be done with planning for my happiness.

 

[SgtSplacker]

This girl obviously has social issues, because to delete someone off Facebook and give out a fake number suggests really high social neurosis levels. Of course "why not just say no" So her actions at work are probably all fake. Further more, you should not trust this girl at all. Since you actually caught her in a mistake there is a good chance she is going out of her way to make you look bad because now she feels threatened. Be very careful with this one...

 

[The LadyKiller]

This says it all. The b1tch coworker reported your "sexual harrassment" to the manager and now the manager's fishing for evidence to support one side or another. You're on the short list for firing. The company's looking for any excuse to dump your azz.

Look for another job.

And learn the lesson. Stay to fvck away from coworkers. It's feminist forbidden territory to poach on women who the male bosses and lezbian upper ups want to make. Besides, screw them. It's ungentlemanly to try to seduce a woman coworker. Stop being your own worst enema. Man up and find your fvcks outside of the eazy-pickens at work.

So Down Low...the company would increase my job responsibilities and not even mention anything to me for over 3 months if she did this, right? Smh...my guess is she just had her assessment too and my manager is terrible at coming up with people's names for generic examples.

I'm in absolutely no job trouble; no offense but it's rather dumb to accuse me of losing my job here. I'd have been contacted by HR by this point - they wouldn't wait 3+ months. Additionally, I'm clean. I know "girls have the edge" here...but my supervisors would back me on this one. Some other girl tried something like this with a guy too and SHE is the one who is gone (that girl was psycho)!

Paranoid about society much Down Low? People have done plenty worse and I still see them at work; some of their cases are well-documented too.

 

[Poonani Maker]

^^ No, we're just saying, at least I'm just saying, it happened to me. When a woman (especially if she's cute and fuzzy) opens her mouth, they listen, and at LightSpeed, Everybody knows within a day. It just travels on down the line to where everybody is looking a you and they feel better about themselves cause Now, they have a person to hate. They have a focal point, a target. Someone who they can lay blame ALL the time forever and ever, for Years. They can always say this guy disrupts the harmony of our company, our group. They only way to get out of it, is for someone else to do something bad wrong that takes the heat off of you, but they'll always remember, and they'll always TELL the newbies who come to work, they'll say Nothing but the negative about you behind closed doors. I was a noob at my co. about 3-4 years ago and coworkers would tell me all the dirt on other coworkers who I'd thought nothing bad about. Like this one guy slashed some dude at a bar with a broken bottle and got put in jail, but because of wealthy mommy and daddy, he didn't have to face any punishment, and on and on and on I hear the dirt. People in the workplace are Vicious. They get off on it, cause it takes the attention away from them and their mistakes, they get a free ride as long as you're there so to speak, so the management thinks to take care of and shift their focus on You.

 

[ezio]

This ***** is crazy man. don't let her mind games get to you. she rejected you the first time and didn't even have the decency to do it like a matured person. Some girls think by virtue of being female they're exempt from the consequences of their actions.
just for laughs, suddenly go cold on her for like a week and watch that *****'s hampster go into overdrive