she mentioned another guy on the first date

[backbreaker]

I had a date couple of weeks ago. The date went ok. I neither blew myself out nor won her over. She did bring up that she had dated an Italian MD/PhD before, but that's not such a bad thing, because she was basically trying to impress me.

Here's the key moment of the date:

As we were getting ready to leave, I said I'd like to see her again, and that it takes time to get to know a person, not just one date. She was like ok, but I'm going to be feeling out other people too.

For some reason I was in a mopey mood that night, not feeling confident, and it pissed me off and I just left without giving her a hug, even though she got up from the table and we stood across from each other by the table. I was thinking that I would diss her and never talk to her again. Then on the bus I sent her a really lame drunk text, saying that she was really sexy.

Basically, the first 90 mins of the date went fine, but the last 2 minutes was the deciding factor. All I had to do was say, "that's fine, I don't care. After all I'm seeing other people too (or some variation)," given her a hug, and that's it.

I still see her posting on craigslist every week. She's new in town and acting desperate. I could have had her if I played it cool and did those two things differently. But I ruined my chances because I acted like a total idiot. lol

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A woman that has HIGH interest in you, is not going to tell you on the first date, when you tell her that you want to see her again, that she is going to be seeing someone else. that's some **** i would tell a 200 pound woman if she were paying for my dinner and said she wanted to go out again. i'm not going to say no to a free meal lol, but i'm going to make it clear i'm not that interested in her as to get her feelings up.

and son you lost the interest well before the last 2 minutes. plus i am leery of ****s who use **** like craigslist to hook up. decnet quality women dont' have to make posts online to have men hit on them. jsut red flags everywhere. in short i think she did you a favor. i think she lost interest, but not because you suck if that makes any sense, it's kinda like the bible verse that talks about a gold ring in a pigs snot

 

[omkara]

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ok thanks I will look into it. I've heard good things about it.

I know that quality women don't need to use craigslist but I'm not looking for a high quality woman. After all I'm not high quality to them. Even though I have a lot going for me, I don't have a lot of friends or girlfriends. I heard that one of the ways to start getting better chicks is to start dating lower quality (appearance-wise) to build up your confidence, and that's what I'm trying to do.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Why did you walk out? You could have told her to stop or taken her phone away from her.

As for the topic of women talking with/texting other guys. How do you differentiate this from jealousy? Is it something like, "you can't talk to other guys on my watch!"

I know this has to do with your values, and I'm interested in why these are your values. You got angry at her instead of playing it cool, or finding an alternative solution. How come?

you miss the entire point of me walking out.

I did not walk out of the movies, because i somehow knew she would come back to me and that i would make her stop texting guys and would end up fvcking her. I walked out because it's 100% disrespectful and frankly I have better **** to do with my time than to sit by a broad in the moves who is giving attention to another guy

i sit here, pay 20 bucks for movie tickets, plus concessions, give up my valuable time to spend with you when i could have been out with another plates (and at the time i had plenty) and here you are, texting another dude right in front of me? GTFO, i don't have time for that ****, sex be damned.

ps- sometime while having sex that night she told me that me walking out "turned her on big time", though that wasn't the purpose of me walking out. seirously i just have better **** to do than to waste that time with someone like that. i value my time more than that.