She lives right above me, how can i not see her....

[ziggy1234]

Im new here, so I will keep it my question and problem short. I met this girl in college, and we started hooking up a week and a half before thanksgiving break. Now we are back from the break, and things are just as they were. Most of the times we have hooked up i have gone up to her room and stayed there pretty late. She shows a lot of interest in me, but im just worried if i go to see her every night she will get tired of me.

The thing is, she lives right above me on the next floor in my dorm, plus she is always on my floor seeing friends. I dont know what to do, i really do like the girl and i suspect a relationship budding, but i just dont want to see her all the time. What should i do? thansks

ziggy

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

dont go to her place anynore - invite her to yours to take a study break and have some pizza - if she is interested in u she'll say yes - pursue her romantically and let her know it- dont talk to her like u want to b friends - let her pick the time of the study break - if she refuses then u know she is not interested - move on and talk to her cute friends on the same floor as u - dont talk to any girl over 130 pounds

 

[killerasp]

i would suggest keep yourself busy with work.

do your studies in the library, go work out, do sometthing other than hang out in your room all the time.

once you get yourself busy..you would forget about her and her attraction for you will go up b/c you are being a challenge to her.

 

[RandomGuy]

Just like puertorican said, you have to persue her romantically and

you have to do it from the start or else its too late when you're in

the friend zone. Once she knows that you are interested in her

sexually then you can act according to how she reacts.

Now you can go and invite other girls into your room and if she

happens to see you with other girls thats even better!

 

[Porky]

My brother had a 10 month LTR with a girl who lived a floor and a half above him (the setup was weird).

 

[Aramas]

Yeah - what they said but for different reasons. All these things like 'IL's' and 'challenges' are just buzzwords for common sense. The danger is that once something is given a specific name then people like to kid themselves that they understand it. They don't.

It has nothing to do with 'IL's' or 'challenges' - if you're a dork that lives in your room then she won't find you terribly interesting. If you show up all the time she'll think you're clingy/needy, because if that's what you do then you are.

So just live a normal busy life, hang out with your friends, go places and do stuff, and if she wants to spend time with you then she'll try to fit it into her life. Generally people have more respect for someone that has a life than for someone that doesn't.

It's not rocket science, it's common sense. If in doubt then turn the situation around and ask yourself how you would like her doing whatever it is that you're doing.

And just relax

 

[NewMan]

Guys, your missing the point, he's already hooked up with her.

The hard part is done - you just need to not be to available for her.

I'd continue doing what your doing - I'd stop making social visit's to her - and just go there if you guys are going to do something or hook up.

Don't be to distant either, but as other people have suggested, take time to do other things and socialize with other people.

Have you banged her yet?

I'm assuming you want a relationship with her?

Things need not be that strange - just do what you feel like you need to do. But just don't be a needy puppy dog.

 

[ziggy1234]

Yes I have hooked up with her many times already. Things are the same, i didnt go up there the last two nights, and not talking to her on aim. I do like this girl and am looking into a relationship. When i see her around campus and i say hi i dont know if i should kiss her or whatever. Everyone on my floor knows were are seeing eachother, so we are like a couple. If that helps with anything.

For Saturday, she said she is gonna have some fun, go to some parties before finals start, and her roommate isnt going to be there that night.

 

[NewMan]

Dude, is this is the case, don't distance yourself to much.

Continue to act the same, but maybe cut down a LITTLE on the social calls.

You don't want to ignore her or be ignorant. Then she'll probably think something is wrong.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by NewMan
Dude, is this is the case, don't distance yourself to much.

Continue to act the same, but maybe cut down a LITTLE on the social calls.

You don't want to ignore her or be ignorant. Then she'll probably think something is wrong.

That's good advice. Be cordial when you see her in the halls, you don't have to be with her just because you see her. Plus avoiding her is just plain AFC.