Help me to understand your point of view. I see that he wrote the following:
"I'm going through a break up, where I hit my ex girlfriend and went over her house to talk unannounced. I have been dumped from previous relationships for smothering my partners with presence, showing needy behaviors, overcrowding their space, over touching them, wanting to spend all my free time with them. I have strong sexual desire, make my relationships too much sex driven. When partners leave me, I tend to beg please and chase them. In other areas of my life, like job, I feel I'm still very irresponsible not mature enough. I'm selfish, I only care for me and for my needs, I don't seem to have interest in anyone or anything."
well besides the obvious needy stuff? Lol. The standard packaged western male?
“A month ago, she was going through a lot of stress, work, issues with her daughter, and also semi serious health issues where cancer could have been diagnosed. She wasn't feeling like having as much sex maybe only once or twice a week.”
A married man would kill for that much sex after the first year. LMAO
Women use sex as a major stress reliever (especially one night stands or a new guy), unless, it’s a husband or steady boyfriend. He spent too much time with her and squelched her desire. I’m surprised it went 7 months. Unbeknownst to him, he created a lot of that stress. He tried to help her with the issues (guaranteed), with the express intent to get sex. The first part is the killer. Sex is medically, the number one stress reliever for a woman, hands down. In Australia a major study was done and they found that a new romance, cures menopause and all lack of interest issues for all women, regardless of age. A new man is always a sound cure.
As a woman, she knows all these things. She became distant enough for him to go over the edge with “competition anxiety and mate guarding”.
This sets up a no-win situation for the guy. He jumped into the ice river, right on cue. She wanted to bounce but was weighing her investment of 7 months against her feelings and need to “feel alive again”, ie. “feel those good chemicals again”.
He measures his worth by how much desire a woman feels for him. He has been addicted to this validation for a long time. Yet he actually ran the desire into the ground and he uses the past tense to say that he always does this.
By him going off the rails, he nullified her clandestine activities and set himself up to have her shift all on him. He has been seriously gas-lighted in a few ways that he hasn’t even mentioned or is aware of. These are all standard tactics and any woman will use them to prevent telling the man that she isn’t feeling it anymore.
There’s more, but will leave it at that. He’s a wreck because he has to get sexual validation from a woman. He sounds like a married man right before he gives up on sex and starts the foot shuffle the rest of his days with the woman that no longer feels sexual desire for him.
