She is playing mind games way too much - dominating me

[jagr84]

So...you are still chasing. Even though she doesn't respond to your texts, etc. Still chasing.

I am not trying to be a **** buddy, just trying to make you see the light and save your self-esteem.

STOP wasting time on her.

Stop chasing.

DELETE her number.

If she contacts you again ,which she likely will, once she realizes you have lost interest, (she loves attention and orbiters), say this:

Her: Hey, what's up?

You : not alot. Who's this ? (That tells her she has been deleted. This will piss her off, so be it. Still bet she replies)

Her: It's Vanessa, silly.

You: Let me guess, you want to take me out?
Her: (any answer besides yes, more excuses, dodging, mind games)


You: Get ahold of me when you are free.


Her: .................blah,blah, blah

You: Silence


And you keep that silence. You don't respond anymore.

Rinse and repeat. She will find greener pastures to attention-mine, or she will say yes.


Personally?? I simply would delete her number and never even respond. Self-respect, and all.

Will save it, thank you

but does it really look like Im sweating/chasing her? The story is just very weird (from the beginning) thats why I am so intrigued, because honestly I dont really care about her, hence why I text her like once every 3-4 weeks. As I said its the story, I have so many other options. Even if it shows its not like I am miserable, its just so painful for my head lol

 

[asa_don]

the title of this thread says it all, it isnt going to work, it doesn't look good in your favor.

seriously, if this girl had any interest at all a date would have happened by now, girls don't play all these sorts of games on guys they take an interest to, never should you have to work this hard for a date, if you do she will always have you by the balls.

Bad advice Mauser.

All this communicates to the girl is that you let her get to you, got frustrated and most importantly don't know the way the game works.

The problem here is the OP hasn't proven that he is attractive and the MAN. She is running things and he is too afraid to be bold because he doesn't want to get rejected, hence why he posted this thread.

I don't agree with Nismo either or the majority of what this board tends to rehash. "Girls that are interested won't confuse you." -- that's a true statement, but girls have varying degrees of interest in you initially. What you do from the point attraction is established will either elevate it or drop it.

I'm all for going after girls who show strong interest, but then again most the girls who are super hot present more of a challenge than this cute to average girls.

OP you didn't do anything to increase attraction with this girl. If you want her, go get her. Waiting for her to text you? Not how its done.

i disagree

how long should he pursue her to prove he is attractive and the man?

trying to prove anything to her means you're a man of limitations, which is why you get rejected and ignored, you shouldn't have to prove anything to a girl.

alphas don't prove anything, they are already attractive to the woman.

betas need to prove because they don't have much self worth.

 

[jagr84]

In bold for you

Lol love your bold parts, Its okay I moved on but I disagree with the ‘she views me as orbiter’ part. Maybe now, but it wasnt always like that is certain.

EDIT: Also, I forgot to say, she asked me when are we gonna meet up for the date, but I didnt know when I could, so I told her I was gonna let her know. I moved on lol its okay

 

[Kailex]

Lol love your bold parts, Its okay I moved on but I disagree with the ‘she views me as orbiter’ part. Maybe now, but it wasnt always like that is certain.

Orbiters gonna orbit.
They don't usually realize what they are until way later than she realized it.

It's okay, buddy, we've all gone through the denial phase at some point.

 

[Navigator]

I see the point your trying to make but How am I qualifying myself to her ? Lol All I did was ask if she wanted to hang out in a spa with different ppl, actually its not even a spa, I dont know the name. Havent spoken to her in like 3 weeks
I am not even gonna respond to your last paragraph.

What does "hang out in a spa" mean, exactly ? To be blunt, at first blush it doesn't sound like optimal first date material. Unless you live in Finland, I suppose.

EDIT: Also, I forgot to say, she asked me when are we gonna meet up for the date, but I didnt know when I could, so I told her I was gonna let her know.

     


So you ask her out to this oddball spa date, she asks you specifically when, then you respond "I dunno".
This is just goofy. Plain ineffectual goofiness.

 

[jagr84]

Lol this girl still exists
So much happened since that last post,

its funny now she 'holds a grudge' against me because I ignored her completly for about 2-3 weeks. So after all, looked like she was very serious and not toying me around. She's very sensitive. Now its about getting back in touch with her