She has a past...

[ProDJ26]

@terran2k - she knows about my past

@danger - me worried about her being at basic? Ummm maybe if I was insecure bro
That's why I have plates currently spinning

@vatoloco - '****-carousel haha never heard that one before remind me to give you reps for that one hahahaha

Appreciate the responses guys.
I'm NOT defending her


And like ______ said I'm not going to let my emotions cloud reasoning here. We've ALL made mistakes and WE ALL have some fvcked up dirty sh!t that we've done.

BUT

Its the first strike I'm holding against her though. One more and she's gone. Maybe she was raped but I don't know what happen...

Come to think of it I'd be more pissed if she didn't get one/didnt tell me then say its mine

Treat the hors like queens and the queens like hors

 

[vatoloco]

Not worried, but red flag. There is a difference. It is not about insecurity, it is about knowing the nature of women. And most women who are masculine enough to want to go into the military will almost certainly be bathing in man-juice.

Yep. Depending on how high her IL is, how loyal she is & how much her AW level is, based on the very high male-to-female ratio, odds are against you.

She literally has dozens of dicks that are willing and able to fuck her.

 

[Iceberg]

Yep. Depending on how high her IL is, how loyal she is & how much her AW level is, based on the very high male-to-female ratio, odds are against you.

She literally has dozens of dicks that are willing and able to fuck her.

Girls have that everywhere they go.

But whether or not she'd go and bang one of these dudes depends on lots of variables....some of which you already mentioned. (AW, party girl, her IL, etc)

I wouldn't say that the odds are against him. Seems like some of you guys on this site have been cheated on, which sucks I'd imagine. But the way I see it...if I've dated a girl for almost a year, then she's probably passed a number of quality control tests that would weed out the AW, drunks, cheater girls. Of course you never know...that's life....but I wouldn't say that the odds are against a guy just because his girl is in the army. Dudes throwing d*ck at girls is pretty much background noise in their daily lives. Just because it's available doesn't mean they always jump on it.

EDIT

Looking back on this thread, it looks like I'm defending the girl a lot. But that's not how I mean for it to be taken. It's just that sometimes guys on here are way way way too defensive. Possibly the side effects of being hurt in the past. "She didn't tell you about an abortion!? What ELSE is she hiding?!?" "She's in the army? She's totally banging everyone around her." I'm just saying that things in life aren't always gloom and doom.

 

[vatoloco]

Dudes throwing d*ck at girls is pretty much background noise in their daily lives. Just because it's available doesn't mean they always jump on it.

True. But the problem is that the guy is not there to fulfill her emotional and physical needs (it's basically a LDR). Like I said, depending on her IL and character, she may resist but eventually, she could get tired of holding out and just have a quick fling (or five), blaming it on "it just happened" or "I was lonely," etc.

 

[Iceberg]

Ice,

I think we just have to agree to disagree.

There are WAY too many girls out there to take such a chance on a risky investment. Make no mistakes, a woman in the military IS a risky investment.

I have family and friends in that environment and they all say the same thing. Everyone is screwing around on everybody. You put a woman in a situation (away from her mate for long periods of time) where she is surrounded by fit men in an environment that emphasizes their manliness and you are bound to have trouble. It is a recipe that I simply cannot believe men would put themselves in willingly. That time is much better spent finding a better prospect that also does not happen to be a LDR.

Fair enough. Maybe you know the military better than I do.

I just try to err on the side of reason. At least until I have some sort of reason to believe otherwise.

 

[Noodles]

There are WAY too many girls out there to take such a chance on a risky investment. Make no mistakes, a woman in the military IS a risky investment.

I have family and friends in that environment and they all say the same thing. Everyone is screwing around on everybody. You put a woman in a situation (away from her mate for long periods of time) where she is surrounded by fit men in an environment that emphasizes their manliness and you are bound to have trouble. It is a recipe that I simply cannot believe men would put themselves in willingly.

That's not my experience at all - and my experience is first hand. A small percentage of girls in military do spread it around, but they are almost always universally shunned by the other females and eventually spurned by the guys. They finish a tour and leave. Get a bad reputation and your career is over.

The career girls are normally very, very careful with who they meet. Joining the military for a girl isn't like going out with the girls to a club. They're won't be a lot of female friends, the environment is very masculine, they will be pushed exceptionally hard, make-up etc. and the other beauty aids will go out the window. That normally takes a girl with some impressive self discipline. They may however ***** it around if they're single when they go home on leave...

Regarding the original poster...take the abortion out of the equation. Have you noticed anything else that constitutes a problem or a worry? If there is then you have a problem, regardless of the abortion. If there isn't then you making a problem, regardless of the abortion.

 

[Cherokee]

The only issue here is

The thought of another man fvcking her is implanted into your brain.

As you've said indirectly, this is a security issue, most girls these days are not virgins by a mile (or ten). You can't handle certain facts and you only have two options.

1. Deal with it, accept her for who she was and realise she is now with you.

2. Don't deal with it and leave her.

The past is the past and you can only control your part in any given situation.

DO NOT try to "change her" whatever you do.