She has a car but cant use it to get me.

[Crissco]

Like the title says, she has a car but cant use it to get me. She says it because of her kid and work. Everyday shes txting me 100x a day saying she wants me and misses me and wants to be exclusive. I found out though she was diagnosed with BPD. Thats besides the point though. She asked me how this was going to work since I dont have a car. I have no problem having my father drop me off or pick her up. But she wont do the same for me, does anything else see something wrong in that? I told her maybe this weekend ill take a bus or train to go see her. Then I said we'll find a way to make this work, as long as we both try. She text me back and said I know. Whats everyones opinion so far about this?

Crissco

 

[kingsam]

Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.

so Do you really want to be involved with this girl??
it isnt beside the point b'coz u mentioned it...
also how old are you with no car ??
and your just starting out wiht this girl?

 

[Crissco]

Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.

so Do you really want to be involved with this girl??
it isnt beside the point b'coz u mentioned it...
also how old are you with no car ??
and your just starting out wiht this girl?

I got into a DWI accident with my car. Im saving for a new one. Yes im just starting out with this girl.

 

[sodbuster]

Ditch the b1tch now. All women are crazy-comparing them to her is like comparing me to Kobe in a BB game. There's a whole nother level you are about to experience. It won't be good,but it will be a learning experience you'll never forget[if you survive it mentally].Just ask the guys who have done it.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I found out though she was diagnosed with BPD. Thats besides the point though.

In my thinking - i've come to the conclusion that the only type of man who should be in a relationship with a BPD is a psychopath. Someone who feels no emotion himself. She then will be unable to tangle him up in her web of emotions. - - - Hollywood needs to write that script!

There's tons of horror stories on here of guys getting involved with BPD women and ending up in shambles!

Everyday shes txting me 100x a day saying she wants me and misses me and wants to be exclusive.

This.... is not good! Stop texting so d@mn much, BPD women will do things like this to get you addicted to them.

Women are hard enough to deal with when they're normal. Throw a disease in them that creates even more useless junk in their head - and i cannot see one good reason why you should involve yourself with one!

Well, i can think of one.... crazy b!tches give good sex... but it's only worth it if you can keep yourself sealed up emotionally...

and being exclusive to this woman is the worst idea ever.

 

[Crissco]

She askes me where she wants this to go. Should I be straight honest and tell her I want FWB type of thing?

 

[Powerlifter]

Speaking of Hollywood don't forget independent film of which I am part of. You have given me a great idea to run past a close personal friend of mine who is a director and maybe after we are through with the dark comedy now in pre production he can write up a script.

I am also looking for other ideas I'd like to make a film that actually deals with sosauve and bring it to life on screen.

The dark comedy where I will be excutive producer is D I N K S http://freecastingcall.com/casting-...or-feature-film-–-d-i-n-k-s-frankfort-il.html

To the OP unless your emotionally strong this type of relationship will bring you to your wits end.

In my thinking - i've come to the conclusion that the only type of man who should be in a relationship with a BPD is a psychopath. Someone who feels no emotion himself. She then will be unable to tangle him up in her web of emotions. - - - Hollywood needs to write that script!

 

[r0cky]

I wouldn't recommend having a BPD girl as FWB. Its like shooting yourself in the foot.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

They don´t know who they are or what they want. Some of them will really want to be in a relationship, but will sabotage it soon with their high demands of you. Other times, they will be hoes sleeping around to distract from their emptiness.

It all depends on how she feels at that moment, if she feels lonely she may seduce anyone to sleep with her. If she´s feeling powerful, she will stream roll everyone around her. If she´s not in the mood for sex, you´ll be starved. Her mood, which she has no control over, sets the tone of the relationship. She´s the one who´s in control, it´s all about her, and how she feels.

She wants you to be predictable and "there" at all times for her. HOWEVER, don´t dare expect the same from her. She won´t reciprocate. She will monitor your every move and want to know where you are and with whom.
See my signature (read other threads, do a search).

Cults break down your personality and belief system, then rebuild you and give you a new belief system. Whereas abusive women break you down and keep breaking you down until there’s nothing left. They don’t rebuild you nor do they have an ideology beyond, “It’s all about me and my feelings” and “I’m always right no matter how wrong I am.” Cults like easy prey, too. They typically target individuals who are in a state of heightened stress. They go after people who are kind, generous, trusting, eager to please, self-reflective, competent, talented or “gifted”. They seek individuals who have recently had a destabilizing experience such as a bad break-up, the death of a loved one, being fired or some other significant life stressor such as a young man who’s left for college and is on his own for the first time. Most abusive women are mental and verbal contortionists/escape artists. They can twist the most obvious set of facts into a Gordian knot or find ways to evade the conversation by changing the subject or attacking you on a new front.

Abusive women, particularly histrionics and borderlines, are natural chameleons and shape shifters. They intuitively discern what you want—e.g., sexy, sweet, adventurous, sporty, artsy, etc.—and play it and you to the hilt. As soon as they’re secure in your attachment, the facade drops away and the emotional and/or physical abuse starts. These women insidiously misrepresent themselves to their potential partners. Sometimes they’re impossible to detect until you’re in over your head.

http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/201...-cults-brainwashing-and-deprogramming-part-i/

 

[kingsam]

so to conclude... you are an idiot if you see this girl.... your just asking for a hurtin'

but you will probably ignore us (all saying not to see her)

 

[Metaphysical]

Two reasons why you shouldn't date her:

1. She has BDP
2. She has a kid