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OK here is the deal...

About 4 months ago, I was doing my afternoon walks around my neighbourhood. As I walked past I noticed this hot chick staring me in the eye from her house. She was looking hot but I just carried on walking. After a while I felt tired so I walked back past her house again. Then she called me into her house and introduced me to these friends of hers. These guys invited me to her party that evening. So long story short I went to the party briefly and took her number whilst there.

About 2 weeks later I called her up. we had a nice chat and I asked her if she had a boyfriend. She replied saying it's too early for me to know that but we should get to know each other first. So I decided to arrange a date so we could go out for lunch. Basically the lunch date went to ****! because I made the arrangements and everything and as soon as it came time to meet, I couldn't get a hold of her and when I finally did she gave me the excuse she was doing someone's hair. I told her she should have called and told me. I think from my voice she could tell I wasn't happy. From there I didn't bother calling her again.

So a month later she sees me walk past her house and shouts "hi" but I pretend I didn't hear and carry on walking. Then her cousin chases me down and tells me she is calling me. So I walk back to her house with her. When I get there she ask me why I don't call her anymore and I ask her why she never called me again. She tells me she never saved my number and I say to her I lost my last phone and her number. we exchange numbers again and part ways.

OK so now fast foward to a month and a half later and we are in September. I enter the internet cafe early morning and guess who is sitting there. She waves "hi" to me and I nod. Then I see her go outside, So i go after her and ask her how she is doing and tell her I haven't heard from her. She says she has been busy. I tell her I thought she didn't want to go out. She says she did but I never called. so I give her my business card and I take her number again.

Here is the part you need to read.......

At about 8-9pm I go to the same cafe and she is there again. I make a joke with her saying she is following me and she laughs. When I look at her computer screen I see a letter typed up. It was quite romantic. when I ask who is for she says it her boyfriend. and they she showed me his picture on her phone. I say to her she never told me she had a boyfriend and she says she swore she told me. Then she says but we can be friends and I tell her I have too many friends and don't need anymore. then I go sit down to type. about 30 mins later I see her leaving. I am not sure what came over for me to even attempt this. Normally when a girl says she has a BF I leave her alone. she waves goodbye and then I motioned her over. she walked over. Then I ask her so when are we going out and she says when ever I want. She even said she could see me tomorrow but she is going to town in the morning. so I say ok and I tell her I will call her in the evening.

So when I called her she was kind of sleeping but we had a small chat and I said to her that even though she claims to have a boyfriend it doesn't mean anything as long as we like each other. and she agreed.

So now what is next?

Can I still get a fling with her or bang her???

Thanks
 

Kalel21

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OH I forgot to add that the boyfriend is out of the country... I think he is in Turkey or some **** like that.

So do you think I should still try and get her???
 

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How have you not got her already if you've known her for that long?
 

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well the thing the way she was acting at the beginning made me lose interest very quickly and the thing is she keeps coming back.
 

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When you asked he if she was single she didn't give you a straight answer...she's out. Confirming this she flaked on your date..which means she's definately out. After that you just hung around wasting your time feeding her need for attention while her boyfriend is away. Simple rule is only pursue single girls period.

"Then I see her go outside, So i go after her and ask her how she is doing and tell her I haven't heard from her."
 

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NO!!! Dude,what is wrong with you? Are you crazy?
I couldn't read your post without wanting to punch the computer screen. Are you that desperate for a woman? I honestly don't know which is worse:This back and forth/cat and mouse game she keeps playing with you,or the fact that after all the nonsense and foolishness she has put you through,you still want to date,sleep with,or just plain have anything to do with her.You ask her if she has a boyfriend,and her response was,"It's too early for you to know that"? You have to exchange phone numbers with her three times? Everytime you set up a date for her,she says she's "busy"?
Are you new here to this forum? I'm not making a joke,I'm being serious.
What does this woman have to do in order for you to understand that she isn't interested in you? You said that all of this started four months ago,right?
You mean to tell me that in four months,(1/3 of a year),that she couldn't find the time in her "busy" schedule for 1 date with you? In four months?
Ok look,I'm going to tell you the real deal about what's actually going on with her,although if everything she has done hasn't given you a clue to what's going on,I doubt that anything I say will make much of a difference.

Plain and simply,she's not interested in you. It's just that simple. You might think,"Well,if she isn't interested,then why does she call me,or why does she still talk to me?". It isn't you that she likes,it's the ATTENTION that you give her. Trust me,if a girl likes you,she'll find the time to spend with you,I don't care how busy she is. And not only will she find the time,she'll be HAPPY to do it. Do you think it is a coincidence that everytime you set up a date or everytime you make plans,she says,"oh,I can't I have to do this or I have to do that,or I fell asleep or my friend is coming here from out of town that day"?

Wake up,man. There are a millions of other women out there. Stop wasting your time with this nonsense. I don't supposed you noticed that when you passed her house ignoring her,she sent her cousin after you. Why? To get your ATTENTION. When you went back to see what she wanted,she asked you why you hadn't been calling her. You know why? Because she missed your ATTENTION. That's all she wants from you. There are a million other women out there who would love to date you,but you'll never see them if you keep inviting this ridiculous girl and all her games into your life. You've already lost four months of your life dealing with this trash. Four months that you can't get back.

Put this foolishness behind you and move on.
 

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ok well i will take your advice. ofcourse where I am the social dynamics appear to be different. I I live in England but I am in an African country right now so I am not sure if these PUA things work her. I am told that if I am persistance I will get her. ;)
 

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just called her.... she says she was doing someones hair so she will try and call back.
 

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My thought is that she is playing you. She obviously has a boyfriend. She whats free attention and probably a free date while her boyfriend is gone. My advice is don't go out with her. However if you do i cant stress this enough, DO NOT PAY FOR A ****ING THING FOR HER. Some woman just want to get free attention and a free ride and offer nothing in return.
 

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Your wasting your time and disrespecting yourself.

There's a HUGE difference between persistence and being a straight up chump. I'm sure you've heard this before, but its the bottom line when dealing with women.

Never ever EVER listen to their words, they have little if any baring on how they really feel about anything. Instead, look at their actions to find the truth.

If a girl says "I miss you, we should really hang out!!" But everytime you call she says she's busy or doesn't call you back...guess what??? She's not interested enough to make time for you.

Secondly, you have made tons of tactical game errors and she knows you want her bad and your not a challenge to her at all. Learn from this and start pursuing other women.




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First off, when she didn't show up for the date, you should have never called. If she said she was sorry for missing the date, you say "what date?". If you think she's going to be late, wait just 15 minutes and jet. If she didn't have the respect to tell you she'd be late, then she's not worth the effort. The most unaffected by her antics is exactly what you want.

After that, she doesn't deserve your attention, so I'm not going to offer any help. SHE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU! For get her.
 

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Kalel21 said:
OK here is the deal...

About 4 months ago, I was doing my afternoon walks around my neighbourhood. As I walked past I noticed this hot chick staring me in the eye from her house. She was looking hot but I just carried on walking. After a while I felt tired so I walked back past her house again. Then she called me into her house and introduced me to these friends of hers. These guys invited me to her party that evening. So long story short I went to the party briefly and took her number whilst there.

About 2 weeks later I called her up. we had a nice chat and I asked her if she had a boyfriend. She replied saying it's too early for me to know that but we should get to know each other first. So I decided to arrange a date so we could go out for lunch. Basically the lunch date went to ****! because I made the arrangements and everything and as soon as it came time to meet, I couldn't get a hold of her and when I finally did she gave me the excuse she was doing someone's hair. I told her she should have called and told me. I think from my voice she could tell I wasn't happy. From there I didn't bother calling her again.

So a month later she sees me walk past her house and shouts "hi" but I pretend I didn't hear and carry on walking. Then her cousin chases me down and tells me she is calling me. So I walk back to her house with her. When I get there she ask me why I don't call her anymore and I ask her why she never called me again. She tells me she never saved my number and I say to her I lost my last phone and her number. we exchange numbers again and part ways.

OK so now fast foward to a month and a half later and we are in September. I enter the internet cafe early morning and guess who is sitting there. She waves "hi" to me and I nod. Then I see her go outside, So i go after her and ask her how she is doing and tell her I haven't heard from her. She says she has been busy. I tell her I thought she didn't want to go out. She says she did but I never called. so I give her my business card and I take her number again.

Here is the part you need to read.......

At about 8-9pm I go to the same cafe and she is there again. I make a joke with her saying she is following me and she laughs. When I look at her computer screen I see a letter typed up. It was quite romantic. when I ask who is for she says it her boyfriend. and they she showed me his picture on her phone. I say to her she never told me she had a boyfriend and she says she swore she told me. Then she says but we can be friends and I tell her I have too many friends and don't need anymore. then I go sit down to type. about 30 mins later I see her leaving. I am not sure what came over for me to even attempt this. Normally when a girl says she has a BF I leave her alone. she waves goodbye and then I motioned her over. she walked over. Then I ask her so when are we going out and she says when ever I want. She even said she could see me tomorrow but she is going to town in the morning. so I say ok and I tell her I will call her in the evening.

So when I called her she was kind of sleeping but we had a small chat and I said to her that even though she claims to have a boyfriend it doesn't mean anything as long as we like each other. and she agreed.

So now what is next?

Can I still get a fling with her or bang her???

Thanks
Wow, dude, you got b*tch-slapped.
 

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"She replied saying it's too early for me to know that but we should get to know each other first. So I decided to arrange a date so we could go out for lunch."

I find that you actually went along with this **** particularly disturbing.
 

daring wraith

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Hi Kael,
I think this girl has is what i affectionately call "lapdancer syndrome", this is where she acts all nice to you then plays distant when you're apart. Lots of mixed messages, says she likes you but then doesn't make any commitment.

I think its possible for you to get with this girl for one night, but just don't expect anything more from her apart from aggravation (her, her cousins, boyfriend).

Become friends with her friends, i.e. relatives (her cousin??), the friends she goes out with. Become friends with them, it'll become harder for her to blank you. Plus people talk, they'll let something slip like some useful information e.g. boyfriend, previous relationships, her likes/dislikes. Become
irreplaceable.

Make her seduce you, you'll gonna play on her sympathy, get her alone, say you're confused, having mixed feelings, feeling unsure and then set the mood and wait for the kiss to come. This is a bit dangerous as if it fails you'll look like a ****.

Talk about her boyfriend, then subtlely focus on his bad points and magnify them, you'll gonna make her question her feelings about him and then take advantage of this new vulnerability.

Let her see this forum, now this is a dangerous last resort. You say that you really like her, didn't know where to turn, posted this thread up. Then when she sees this, become protective and defend her. As you're defending her and on her side you become closer to her. It 'll also put all her feelings out in the open.

Sorry, these are the only strategies i can think of going on the info you posted.

I apologise as these strategies are particularly underhanded and i apologise if these upset anyones sensibilities, but unfortunately these types are the only ones in my experience that actually work in the aforementioned scenario.

Good luck with your endeavours,
 

slickaz

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dude...heres what you do.
next time you see her..tell her ur going to grab coffee..come with.

take her..pull the "wow you smell so nice, whats that brand ur wearing?"
get close.
work from there.. take her home under whatever pretext.. RAMPAGE THE BOOTY...take a pic of it or you two hookin up on her fone (im sure you can grab her phone without her noticing for 2 secs)..now tell her, "you've got a pic of me and you on ur fone..nothin close wit that other dude...byebye"
or if you can..send the pic to her bf..then kick her out...oh dont forget to tell her you send a pic of ur d!k in her wetness to her "bf" in turkey..just filling it up for him.... smile...wave...smile..
 
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