she has a boyfriend

[legendary_legume]

apologize in advance for long post... okay so there's a girl in a couple of my classes (im in college) and we've been kind of catching looks at each other for a few days. when i got to class yesterday a bit early, she was the only one there, so i sat beside her and we chatted through that class, and the one after that, and also during the spare block after that. im trying to play it cool, but as far as i can tell we're both pretty into each other. i asked if i could add her to facebook, just as a way to keep in contact, and she told me her last name so i could. now I see that she is listed as "in a relationship" and according to the guy's profile they've been together at least since 2006. am I reading the signals wrong or does she just not care about this other guy?

 

[sidewind3r]

the fact that she has chatted to you at school and has let you add her to facebook does not mean that she does not care about her current boyfriend. Girls in relationships crave the attention of other men. You could keep talking to her for more definite signals though.

 

[banGbro]

Yes, they do it. The following happens often:

1. She flirts with you, and tries to get your attention (fall for her).
2. When she does get you attention and you escalate she will back off, and if you dont get it she will attack your insecurities.


Mmmmm, I never get it. I C+F the chick, she throws bluffs at me (pissed as if shes serious), I always call it. Basically waiting until she actually tells me she has a bf, at which point I do my Im gonna have to STEEL you then thing.

Just because she has a boyfriend does not mean you cant fvck her. Just because a woman has hubby does not mean she cant be layed. It happens often, more often than finding a single chick.


When girl tells you she has a boyfriend, it hits balls hard. They know that, and thats how they attack your insecurities. Insecurity is a major turn off for a girl. So when a girl with bf screws with me I dont take it as attention whoring, instead I assume shes testing me, to see if Im insecure. A lot of these hoes have no idea whats about to come down at them.

 

[legendary_legume]

I feel the same way. I would not screw around with my friends women, but if I don't know the guy then their problems are between them. do you think it would be better for me bring it up, or just wait till she does?

 

[INeedHelp1]

I heard it goes something like this:

Her: I've got a boyfriend
You: Hey slow down girl, I don't want to get all personal just yet. I don't even know you. I just wanted to kick it for a minute.
Her: What's your name?

The expert says this always works but I highly doubt it you could try it.

 

[Babnik]

"I have a boyfriend"
"Don't tell him! You're gonna hurt his feelings"
"Haha! No really..."
"Sucks for you then!"

Keep being persistent and WHATEVER block she gives you - let her know with your behavior that you don't CARE that she has a BF, that you are not her type, bla bla, and that you still are CONFIDENT that you can and WILL get her.

Just don't push the whole thing at once.

 

[KoalaKing]

My Uncles Wife and my Aunty was engaged to another guy when they met, this didn't stop him attaining the woman that he desired, it won't stop you or any other guy either if the girl is attracted to you more than the one she is with.

 

[banGbro]

Nah, dont bring it up. C+F her, do what ever you do to intensify attraction. Im guessing once she gets enough she will pull back and restrain herself. i.e. dress with less skin, no more smiles or eye contact with you, suddenly she is pissed. When that happens continue doing what you doing, even if she gets really b1tchy, that just bluff, call it. Then shell start hinting you that shes not single, ignore. You can either ignore it until she tell you flat out that she has a bf, or ignore it several times, and go like WTF? You have a bf? Hmmmmm... Im gonna have to STEAL you! And intensify, ask her if she wants to kiss, etc, etc..

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

C+F is great. Assume that you don't know she has a b/f. Flirt with her and ask for her #. If she says "I've got a b/f" say "I don't mind, give me your #".

MAKE THE HO SAY NO.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

I heard it goes something like this:

Her: I've got a boyfriend
You: Hey slow down girl, I don't want to get all personal just yet. I don't even know you. I just wanted to kick it for a minute.
Her: What's your name?

The expert says this always works but I highly doubt it you could try it.

INeedHelp are you a troll? You keep talking about this expert in all your posts. You seem like you know enough about this expert that you shouldnt' be having these issues.

 

[ryannath]

Yeah, I agree with the guy that said having sex with a girl with a bf or husband is more common than finding a single chick. I've had sex with 4 girls, and every single one of them were married. Funny how that works.

 

[Ratisson]

legendary lagume, I have a question for u. When u asked her if u could have added her to facebook why didnt u just ask her for her home phone number. What were u thinking? Im sorry to tell u this but u made a very weak close. u could have cut through all the hassles of finder her on facebook and finding out she has a boyfriend, by asking her for her number. Facebook is not a great way to communicate with a girl u want to fvck. u should have asked for her number, what do u have to lose? If u did ask her for her number,u woulndt be in this situation wondering whether u have a shot with her or not. So next time ur in this situation grab a hold of ur fvcking balls and say "whats ur home phone number?"

 

[legendary_legume]

I see what yo mean, and I think I will wait a few more days before asking for her number to see if I can read her a bit more, but it was just like "Can I add you to facebook"
I was helping her with her lab prep, and she wrote her name on the top of her page, and I was like "Ha ha now I know your last name, I can add you to facebook" and she was kinda like "okay well I guess I'll accept you"
It wasn't really important except for the fact that if I hadn't said that I would've never found out she was "In a relationship"

 

[Last Man Standing]

Hmmmmmm, if my girl was as upfront in meeting new acqauiatances then I would think she is ready to open her legs to a new pimp - you may be that new pimp!!!

 

[Raikojo17]

come on guys. dont ya'll have more respect for another man than to intentionally try and steal his girl away from him? u guys have no morals at all.

first, why would u want a taken chick, when single chicks are so easy to find? they're everywhere! everywhere! a majority of the girls u see and talk too are single. sometimes that bf thing is just a defense to get u to stop talkin to them. single girls are alot less trouble and drama to get with than taken girls. taken girls that are attention wh0res jus like to play games and start drama. dont feed them!

second, stealing taken chicks is not even worth it. they are like monkeys. they hang on to one branch until a better branch comes along then they move on to that one. Jus because u steal her doesnt make u a man, ur jus a pimp who happened to give her wat her current bf or hubby did not. and when she's with u, it will only be a matter of time before a better pimp comes along and gives her something good, then she will be gone as easily as she came. so when that happens to u guys, dont come b1tchin on here about it because u knew it was coming.

come on, i beginning to loss all respect i had to u guys who are more experienced

 

[Raikojo17]

I see what yo mean, and I think I will wait a few more days before asking for her number to see if I can read her a bit more, but it was just like "Can I add you to facebook"
I was helping her with her lab prep, and she wrote her name on the top of her page, and I was like "Ha ha now I know your last name, I can add you to facebook" and she was kinda like "okay well I guess I'll accept you"
It wasn't really important except for the fact that if I hadn't said that I would've never found out she was "In a relationship"

and bro, from wat im reading, she doesnt seem like she wants u. she's jus talking to u now as a friend and being friendly.

"ill guess ill accept you"? that doesnt sound like genuine interest to me. more like reluctant friendliness to get u to leave her alone for awhile.