She has a boy Friend -- should i call her ?

[reza]

There is a girl which i dated for 2 days 19 and 21 and today is 23

the girl has a boy friend so thats my first challeng and i am still not sure which way she is looking at our friend ship . i was looking for a job i went to herbel life and i met her there . i asked her out and tolled her that i am not intrested in the job .

I want to play my cards right cause i dont have much and i cant offord to lose one . its the second day i didnt call her i wanted her to miss me and show that i am busy and have my own life cuase if i wait like an open pakeg which is waiting for her to come and take it thats mostly not going to happen she has a boy friend and and her own life so i must be some thing intresting and different from what she already has . she is beutifull and has many chances .

so when is the right time to call her ? it shouldnt get too long too
and
when shall i make it clear about her boy friend and what u think i should say OR what steps shall i take towards that ?
--- i am 20 she is 21 ---

 

[stevey_2000]

if she has a boyfriend, don't go there mate, simple as!!

also, quit with the y symbols...had trouble reading your thread.

Ste.

 

[reza]

Come on Now

I want her man And she is Not very series With the Boy friend They met for one month So i have some Chances But i want to make best use of them

 

[stevey_2000]

oh!, sorry about that...the y's sort of threw me off path!,

well if they are not serious then go for it but i rarely give info to the opposite sex, LMAO!

 

[reza]

Now thats Gonna help

 

[stevey_2000]

yup!, think i'd make a good agony aunt??

good luck in the situation anyway girlie!!

Ste.

 

[OleRyder]

Originally posted by reza
Come on Now

I want her man

Are you sure you're on the right forum? No... really?

 

[chlywly]

I was playing pool and an old friend of mine came by she had a friend with her who was just fantastic , probably a good 8.5/10 in my books, anyways I was very attracted to her so I went outside and chatted with them a bit, she has a boyfriend and is my friends manager.....

Anyways, my friend said the girl told her she was attracted to me found me very hot and she usually isnt attracted to anyone, she's been with this guy for 1 year and lives with him.

Although its never my style to mess with other peoples girls for respect, I have come to the realisation that in life what happens is meant to be, so you must take your chances.

I'm going to go chat it up while shes working get her #, or give her mine, let her know I dont mean to interfere with her boyfriend I just want to get to know her etc.

If their relationship is meant to be and is strong, I can't come in between, otherwise she's mine for di grabbin

 

[reza]

Do u guys Give advice Or what ?

 

[chlywly]

If you havn't seen the advise, then re-read all the posts

 

[reza]

THanx for that But MY Question Here is

How long if I hold And not call her Will still keep her intrested ?
Cause Till some point she is going to miss me But after that she will lose intrest I am saying How many days do u think that point is ?

 

[chlywly]

Exactly, 5 days, 4 hours 3 minutes and 22 seconds!... Dude, who KNOWS! everyone is different, don't concern yourself with such silly details, be yourself, have fun! enjoy life.

Call if you want, dont if you dont want to, BE REAL with yourself.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by reza
THanx for that But MY Question Here is

How long if I hold And not call her Will still keep her intrested ?
Cause Till some point she is going to miss me But after that she will lose intrest I am saying How many days do u think that point is ?

Use your gut! It doesn't matter if you holdout if this girl interest in you is low. I wouldn't read too much into it because you could be just a "benefit". It's not guarantee that she will miss you either. You have no control over that so if I was you I wouldn't wreck my brain about. You're thinking too much!

If she miss you, great but handles things accordingly.

If not, then move on.

 

[reza]

Look man I dont know how u Deal With Ur ladyies

But one thing I Have learned Is that U have to keep them tersty . And Let them come back for more . I am sure she had a good time in 2 dates But if i keep calling her every day thats not going to do me any good and she can get tired .

Ok forget this now Tell me about second quiestion

How And when Shall i open the conversation About her boy friend ?

 

[bman]

so shes the type of girl who dates other guys when she has a bf and you want to go out with her? you picked a girl up at some store so you shouldnt have trouble picking up girls. go out and try and pick up some better girls.

 

[chlywly]

"How's your boyfriend doing"

About keeping then thirsty, if you have anything to your personality she will be thirsty, you have to be confident.
Obviously if you call her every single day in the beginning she may get bothered by it, why would you want to anyways, you should have a life of your own right?

See being a DJ is also more of a life-style you cant sit on your ass on the computer all day pretending to be someone you aren't.

Go out continue with your life, she will be thirsty, she shouldn't be your priority, YOU are your priority

Give her respect, a little here and there, and she'll be yours.

 

[reza]

I could do that But there is Somthing about her that i like And i am planning to keep her . U just cant move from one girl to another .
I like taking challenges And i Deal with them the best way that i can

 

[T-4ze]

Okay anyways check this out. Stop waiting, you're acting like a damn AFC defined straight out of the DJ Dictionary. You make your own rules to the game, you do what you want, we don't know your situation so we can't help. But I can try to help I guess so here it goes...

So you chatted her up once in person and got her #, she isn't going to miss you buddy. In fact if you wait any longer she'll forget she gave you her digits.

Story Time
I fell into somethin like this where I was attracted to a girl that was taken by this complete AFC LOSER, and one of our friends informed me that she is showing signs of interest (which I already picked up on). So I talked to her for like 3 straight days online (I know I'm gonna get bagged for that, but hey I don't want her anyways), and after the 3 days she almost expected me to be online to talk with her, so here is where I stopped because now I know her life will be empty without me because she told me straight up that her life is boring right now, and she rather be online talking to me than playing hacky sack with her boyfriend in the other room. Now is where she'll miss me.
The End

You get the picture? You're gonna need to spend more time showing her why you're a champion before taking yourself away from her because playing the hard to get game only works when she knows things about you that she's attracted to. So try that on for size?

 

[reza]

I went on 2 dates for 4 hours so So if she is Going to find me inresting she must have done it by now
And if she is not intrested i am not losing any thing casue even if i call i wont get any thing but if i am right and its the other way around i shall get something

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by reza
I went on 2 dates for 4 hours so So if she is Going to find me inresting she must have done it by now
And if she is not intrested i am not losing any thing casue even if i call i wont get any thing but if i am right and its the other way around i shall get something

Quick question:

Do you want this girl for long term? If so, why?