She got mad because of my response. What to do?

[El Payaso]

Two days ago, I was talking with this girl and set up a date with her. I asked her to send me a contact photo and she did.

The next day, she sent this message

Her: Didn't like the picture?

Me: Well, it's hard to make a judgment.

Her: Woahhh ok

Me: Well, I usually use a rating scale and telling you over text would just be creepy. I'd much rather tell you in person.

Her: I'm not sure you're getting an in person invitation with a response like that

Yes, this was obviously somewhat of a sh*t test and I screwed up with a stupid text like that. This was last night and I haven't responded yet.

We were supposed to go out tonight so I want to know if I should stick a fork in this one or if it can still be salvaged. She's actually really pretty but no way I was telling her that over text.

 

[Uncharted]

First - why are you asking for a photo if it's your first date?

Second - plow through - text her back, something like "hey im going to be about 15 minutes late tonight". See what she says back.

If she doesn't respond, it's over. If she meets up with you - DONT BRING UP THE PHOTO. If she does - play it off with a joke.

 

[n52]

Why would you mention a rating scale?????????????????? talk about make it awkward.....

 

[El Payaso]

I knooooooow. I f*cking messed up. I think I was a little drunk. Never texting again while I'm drunk.

 

[TheException]

Her: I'm not sure you're getting an in person invitation with a response like that

Your response: k

Its obviously a sh1t test and the worst thing you could do is backpedal is say something like " omg im so sorry, yes you are so hott". I think your "no response" is pretty good too. Just dont give sh1t tests any real attention. Its either something witty or something short and uninterested.

And about what to do now....I second uncharted.

Second - plow through - text her back, something like "hey im going to be about 15 minutes late tonight". See what she says back.

If she doesn't respond, it's over. If she meets up with you - DONT BRING UP THE PHOTO. If she does - play it off with a joke.

 

[El Payaso]

First - why are you asking for a photo if it's your first date?

Second - plow through - text her back, something like "hey im going to be about 15 minutes late tonight". See what she says back.

If she doesn't respond, it's over. If she meets up with you - DONT BRING UP THE PHOTO. If she does - play it off with a joke.

I've never had a problem with photo. I've done it with tons of other dates before. Just the first time a date ever asked me if I liked it. Yes, I gave two really stupid responses.

That's what I was thinking. I was thinking of just calling her an hour to the date and telling her I would be X minutes late.

My conundrum is is it better to resolve what I meant about my response or just plow through? For some reason, I feel like explaining what I meant would be very AFC.

 

[n52]

You don't need to justify what you did because that's what you decided to do and that's that (learn from it). PLOW THROUGH!

 

[abe0]

Not everything is test! Some women are very sensitive and she probably found disturbing that you were criticizing her picture. You asked for a picture so you can meet her.....all you had to do was say thanks and looking forward to seeing you.
Now...you want a chance at salvaging....I disagree with the above comment. You want to do the hardcore Don Juan and think its a sh*t test...then go ahead don't humble yourself for screwing it up in the beginning.
You want a chance at this...I would tell her it was a nice picture...and that you were just teasing her. You look forward to meeting her tonight.....and then see if you get a response.
You can always show her that you are Don Juan at another time. Your goal at this time is to get her to at least go out and evaluate if she is or is not worth your time.
Do not play the hard ass game at this time....not everything is a test specially if she took offense to your response. One last thing...you can always be late the next time.
Does this sound a little non Don Juan....yep....but what is your immediate goal ? She already thinks you are a pr*ck.....
Best...Abe

 

[El Payaso]

This wasn't a "**** test", chick wanted to know if he found her attractive or not. Yall make the simplest **** on here so damn complicated. Lol @ a scale.... yeah real smoove. :crackup:

Man, I f**ked up badly. There were a million other things I could have said besides that.

 

[JohnnyStorm]

If you meet her I'd bring the photo and hold it up next to her and do a quick visual comparison
And then say something like, "Yeah, I suppose it is you" Or "You can't be too careful with online dating these days "

Just for the lolz

 

[Trump]

Her: I'm not sure you're getting an in person invitation with a response like that

Yes, this was obviously somewhat of a sh*t test and I screwed up with a stupid text like that. This was last night and I haven't responded yet.

We were supposed to go out tonight so I want to know if I should stick a fork in this one or if it can still be salvaged. She's actually really pretty but no way I was telling her that over text.

I would have just said: "I liked the picture, look forward to meeting you tonight."

Sometimes I think this site confuses being a DJ with being a jerk. Yes you shouldn't take any crap from women and live on your own terms, but that doesn't mean be ambiguous and rude.

Your goal is to sleep with her, not to prove you are the King of France.

 

[marmel75]

I like saying "semi cute" and then when they get all up in.arms you just say "well how can I really tell until I see you in person?" And they are usually like "oh, that's a good point" lmao...

 

[thelastmanonearth]

You're in for a world of hurt if she busts your balls over that and threatens to cancel the date. Salvageable but she might not be worth it if she's that touchy. You already gave her a guilt trip card to use on you, and she will!

 

[DragonBlood]

This was not a **** test. You read too literally into DJ-dom and came across as a jerk. I wouldnt bring up the pic again you have attached quite a bit of negativity to her image in a whimsical attempt at a neg.



Her: Didn't like the picture?

Me: Yeah the dress is nice, even better in person I would imagine.


PUSH AND PULL. IT CANT BE ALL PUSH

 

[PlayHer Man]

You are being way too outcome dependent. Remember --> the woman should always care more about the relationship than the man.

If you haven't f*cked this girl yet then there is no reason you should give a sh!t about her at all. All communication should be attempts to f*ck her and nothing more until you do.

Here is where you f*cked up:

"Me: Well, I usually use a rating scale and telling you over text would just be creepy. I'd much rather tell you in person."

After she said "Wooah ok" you should of either not responded or changed the subject to when you can meet up IN PERSON. FACE TO FACE is always your goal. Texting back and forth is for kids in High School. I only text to set up meetings. Time is precious and there are so many vaginas.

 

[lexa]

Two days ago, I was talking with this girl and set up a date with her. I asked her to send me a contact photo and she did.

The next day, she sent this message

Her: Didn't like the picture?

Me: Well, it's hard to make a judgment.

Her: Woahhh ok

Me: Well, I usually use a rating scale and telling you over text would just be creepy. I'd much rather tell you in person.

Her: I'm not sure you're getting an in person invitation with a response like that

Yes, this was obviously somewhat of a sh*t test and I screwed up with a stupid text like that. This was last night and I haven't responded yet.

We were supposed to go out tonight so I want to know if I should stick a fork in this one or if it can still be salvaged. She's actually really pretty but no way I was telling her that over text.

Just leave it a few days and start an entirely different topic if I were you.

 

[El Payaso]

Update: I called her this evening about 30 minutes to our supposed date and said I would be a few minutes late. I did this to see if she was still coming.

She said and I quote "Dream on" and dropped the phone.

So yeah, guys. Don't be an idiot like me and ever tell a girl it's tough to judge her picture or that you use a scale to rate her. sigh.

 

[rascal99v]

Knock of the funny stuff with these chicks. Quit trying to be a smooth DJ when you're not. Acting like a phony will make you S.O.L. with women. Don't ask for pictures either unless she send you one. Then you say you like it. Then she won't get pissed off at you.

 

[abe0]

Knock of the funny stuff with these chicks. Quit trying to be a smooth DJ when you're not. Acting like a phony will make you S.O.L. with women. Don't ask for pictures either unless she send you one. Then you say you like it. Then she won't get pissed off at you.

I second that...being too cute or funny with someone you do not know could back fire. As was said....live and learn we have all been there. You wont make that mistake again....
Best, Abe