She forgot our date?

[MoreThanSmooth]

I love how she added “I have a lot on my plate so we should put things on hold” as if it’s all her decision whether she now gets a date or not after literally standing you up. Wtf.

Was this from online dating? I think I’m pretty much done with OLD, it’s so insanely skewed against you if you’re a man, many women on there seem incredibly entitled and unless you’re 10/10 Chad Pitt with flawless banter you’re going to get treated like s***...

 

[Sorae]

I love how she added “I have a lot on my plate so we should put things on hold” as if it’s all her decision whether she now gets a date or not after literally standing you up. Wtf.

Was this from online dating? I think I’m pretty much done with OLD, it’s so insanely skewed against you if you’re a man, many women on there seem incredibly entitled and unless you’re 10/10 Chad Pitt with flawless banter you’re going to get treated like s***...

o nah i knew her since i did martial arts like 12 years ago. We reconnected like last year

 

[derby1]

I wouldnt block OP and my below advice is because you know this woman and will cross paths again?

dont do any moves "SHE CAN SEE" .....dont give her the satisfaction of knowing shes under your skin

when she does message you which she will.......you reply half a day later cause your a busy guy.....with replies in your direction only

her: Hey How are you (aka just checking you still desire me)
you: Im Good thanks
Her: What you up to
You: Just getting ready to go out with friends.....

then radio silence for 12 hours to whatever she puts cause shes not interfering in "FRIEND" time.... . with I MISS YOU ,, THE DOGS DIED

your actions will teach her you have no time for her but you have remained courteous SHE HAS NOTHING ON YOU so when paths cross you can remain polite as if nothings happened..............she will also take the hint and FCK off after a few text interactions,

if she says she wants to meet up you say "kinda busy maybe some other time"

if you wont come across her again ...disregard above advice and fully ignore

 

[Dash Riprock]

I've double-booked/no-showed plenty of dates and I could care less what message it sends to women.

A person who flakes is doing so because they are living and thinking from a position of abundance. The person being flaked on, as evidenced in this thread, spends his time and energy analyzing and complaining about how he was wronged.

In my opinion it is liberating and Powerful to flake on a woman.

Ok, my guess is you're around 18-20 years old. I'm not putting you down. When you mature you'll learn MEN keep dates as planned and show up because they are responsible adults or cancel in advance if they need to. That is what a DJ or Alpha does because they don't have to play silly mind games as you're suggesting. Your mind games actually communicate you cannot get or hold a girl's attention straight-up so you need to resort to trick plays. I think you've over-analyzed your dating technique/strategy/mind map plan way too much.

It does NOT show abundance, it shows you're an immature male who cannot keep a commitment or tell time.

MEN do what they say they will do--period.

Good luck with that.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

With Riprock on this. You show you have abundant options with your behaviour when not on the actual date. Stuff like not coming across as desperate, not talking too much (my problem), keeping things casual. Showing restraint.

However if you arrange a date with someone, you should always follow up on it IMO. If you don't you're not showing off manly qualities; you're showing unreliability, laziness and the inability to commit to an arrangement you've made.

There's being confident and being assertive/"powerful" and then there's just playing games for the sake of it. Dates should be concrete arrangements once they're made, whether you're male or female. Standing someone up or being excessively late just makes you a d*ck.

 

[derby1]

It does NOT show abundance, it shows you're an immature male who cannot keep a commitment or tell time.

MEN do what they say they will do--period.

Have to agree with this, leave women to pull off the discourteous stunts

 

[marmel75]

I've double-booked/no-showed plenty of dates and I could care less what message it sends to women.

A person who flakes is doing so because they are living and thinking from a position of abundance. The person being flaked on, as evidenced in this thread, spends his time and energy analyzing and complaining about how he was wronged.

In my opinion it is liberating and Powerful to flake on a woman. When you fvuck around with women, flaking is inevitable, and it should pertain to both women and men.

Sorry I completely disagree.

Personally i feel that people who do this have other deep seated character flaws and shouldnt be trusted. They are also likely to be self-absorbed and self-centered.

I doubt many people are anywhere close to as "busy" as I am, and I would never do that as a matter of principle...it would be like if you were in sales and set up a bunch of appointments and then just decided to not show up to some of them. It shows poor character and poor taste.

 

[devilkingx2]

I've double-booked/no-showed plenty of dates and I could care less what message it sends to women.

A person who flakes is doing so because they are living and thinking from a position of abundance. The person being flaked on, as evidenced in this thread, spends his time and energy analyzing and complaining about how he was wronged.

In my opinion it is liberating and Powerful to flake on a woman. When you fvuck around with women, flaking is inevitable, and it should pertain to both women and men.

Imo it depends on if you wanna be the good guy or the bad guy, and what the woman is like.

We all know heartless b!tches that like to play games, have attitude and treat people badly, when going out with a girl like that, show up 30+ minutes late if you feel like it.

Whilst there's plenty of girls out there who most likely haven't done anything to warrant such treatment in a long time.

In the same vein, if you care about being a good person of strong moral character, being a d!ck to randoms because you can is not the way to go. Women being b!tches isn't an excuse for you to sink to their level (kind of like why "he hit me first" usually doesn't work to get out of punishment)

But if you don't care about that you can do whatever you want

 

[Murk]

I may flake leading up to a date, but always give notice and make sure she's not got all ready for me, usually the day before latest I'll cancel.

Do some of you guys not have a heart? A conscience?

These girls got you guys robbed of empathy out here. Always be a man of your word and treat women with respect (except when they are hb5's that steal from you).

 

[Sorae]

Why are you lol'ing and hahaha'ing over being stood up?

She doesn't respect you. And you aren't respecting yourself.

i completely agree with you, i feel like a beta faggot

 

[Roober]

Something similar has has happened to me twice. And from both experiences, I learned from them.

1. Early on, a woman texted me at 705 for a 700 date that she was still at work... Blah blah blah... Asked me to meet her closer to where she was. So I met up with her, she was very apologetic and the date was okay. I just wasn't feeling it, so I didn't contact her afterward.

2. Another time. I had a woman not show up at all. 15 mins after, I texted "well, I've waited 15 mins. I'm headed home. Good luck to you". She then responded with "you didn't confirm" and more b.s.. I probably would have seen tried again, but I simply just forgot about her with other things.

Point is, people make mistakes. Sometimes people forget, so I think how they respond determines if they deserve any more of my time. So what do you do? Set standards for yourself. For example
1. She better apologize, if she doesnt, I won't even give her a chance.
2. Set limits. I only wait 15 minutes till I head home or text to cancel.
3. Make dates at places you enjoy. I like food, so I tend to pick places with good food or drinks.
4. Don't arrive early. If your early, sit in your car or go get coffee or something.
5. If she doesn't confirm that day, don't bother going. Or just do something nearby, and wait for her to text/call.

The main thing to remember is that a man's gift is his time. Is a woman you barely know worth much of it? Does a Prince give ample time to commoners he barely knows? No! He is courteous and respectful but understands that he can't spend time with everyone.

 

[MatureDJ]

As long as the chick is keeping me informed about being late, it doesn't bother me too much; most women are ALWAYS late. It's the ones that just don't show up, and then don't answer the phone that ticks me off (and requires them to do something that motivates me to take them out of the doghouse). Yes, it's a double standard, but we prize the 'tang more than they prize the wood.