she flakes and asks u to call her to make arrangements for another meeting

[pete101]

if a girl flakes on 2nd meeting with no counter offer normally u should next her.

but if she tells u to call her to make another time arrangement is that still technically a counter offer?

i feel as if u should tell her that she should offer a time seeing as she cancelled as oppose to putting it back on you to make the arrangement?

 

[Smartone84]

you never know, i've had girls cancel on me, tell me to call them to set something up for another time, i do it, and then i never get her on the phone again. I'd say your in the clear for another chance at making plans, but I would probably text her, as she hasn't earned enough value for a phone call by flaking for the first date. It was the first date, no?

If she flakes again, its NEXT for sure

 

[pete101]

no u dont follow, i met her already.. she wanted to fvck me on the 1st date but she has a no sex rule on 1st date and i could have if i really wanted to done it but she compromised with giving me head instead and invited me round the next day for the real thing. she works in a highly demanding profession long hours etc so her cancellations on me are p1ssing me off cos i text her the next day for the address she sent it then 2 hours later she cancels saying she's working late. maybe she got cold feet i duno.

she said she'd call me to arrange another meeting but never called the next day.. so i called saturday. we had sunday agreed then she goes and cancels again cos shes working late cos she has a big case the next day and has been working through the weekend and says she'll call me a bit later but never did.

in this scenario i feel i should tell her she should be the one to offer a time, does that make sense?

she expects me to chase her again with another time.. i either just leave it and follow up this weekend or i tell her tomorrow or tonight by text that she should offer me a time not the other way round.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'd use this opportunity the qualify her further. In order to determine whether she is truly interested, I'd call and tell her that I'd like to see her again and tell her to pick a day and plan the activities. If she's willing to do the work of organizing and follows through, it's a good sign that she's interested. Plus it keeps you in the driver's seat.

 

[DonGorgon]

You call her but never ask her out... make her wonder why... make her come to ur house ,.. dont take her on a date..

 

[Gangster Of Love]

You should buy her flowers for giving you head. Then call her and tell her you "respect" her for sticking to her "no sex on the first date" rule, and tell her you would like to take her out to dinner. From there, tell her she means so much to you, and that is why you have called her everyday since. Tell her you don't expect sex from her, just cuddling.

 

[izza]

if a girl flakes on 2nd meeting with no counter offer normally u should next her.

but if she tells u to call her to make another time arrangement is that still technically a counter offer?

i feel as if u should tell her that she should offer a time seeing as she cancelled as oppose to putting it back on you to make the arrangement?

Of course it's a counter-offer.

Use more rapport to prevent flaking. You should not be asking her out until you have an awesome rapport. First of all, why would you go out with her unless the rapport was awesome?

Second, ask what her schedule is like for that week. Listen and then suggest a time for you that fits.

If she's too busy, just wait.

If she ditched you, give her a chance to tell you if she was in the ER or something.

Third, it doesn't sound like you've disarmed her very well.

Check out these videos which cover helping make her a teammate in her own seduction, rather than an opponent, afraid of being called a slut.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153556

Best,
Izza

 

[TheRealSupreme]

((sigh)) this community lives in fear.

Ok let's say her father just got rushed to the hospital and your pissed cause she has to break a date. Listen kid crap happens in the real world out there.

If she is offering for you to call then consider it a real situation and not a flake.

Call her back and set up something else. If she doesn't make that then move on. But let a female breath a bit before you get all symped out over her and start getting desperate.

This type of behavior drives them away.

It's creepy.