She flaked on date #3, drop her?

[Trump]

Renegade357 Brother solid advice. I don't mean to crap on everything you came up with, but one minor detail. This baseball game is my 15 year old cousins game not a MLB game. Mostly older mom's some younger girls to flirt with but sometimes not any. I understand to still play it the same way, be polite and say hello, still remain busy etc.

**For when I am sitting back and relaxing, keeping it cool, as an alternative maybe dress real nice, act like I am heading somewhere and get a "phone call" and duck out early? Act like maybe I have a date? Think I can get the same effect, get her thinking "Oh he is dressed up..wait why is he leaving early? Is he going on a date!?" Type of deal?

**After the game on Sunday, DO NOT call her that night? So I would call her Monday?

Bro you need to change your thinking. This is not 2nd down and 6 where you draw up the play in the 4th, this a chick who needs her ego fed by any guy she can get her hands on without giving anything in return.

After the game on Sunday, you say "it was good seeing you, maybe Ill call you sometime" then go hit on other girls.

 

[Renegade357]

**After the game on Sunday, DO NOT call her that night? So I would call her Monday?

Call her Monday. Eh, no reason to scheme out a slick getaway like that. You're there to watch your cousin play not stroke this girls ego. Just make sure you give her nothing but the bare minimum. That's the main point.

 

[Pardner]

Sounds like a waste of time to me despite what the others say. If she wanted to kiss you she would have esp with the touching etc and after two dates you should of been making out

 

[spiegel549]

Straight up, I am staying ghost, NC until I bump into her on Sunday.

Honestly I realized I was more into the idea of having a new chick in my life then actually specifically being into this girl for who she is.

It was cool that she originally approached me and asked me out on a first date but at the end of the day this broads 19, I am turning 27....I gotta find me a woman a little older. Not a girl who just moved to my state, has no car yet, looking for a job etc. It is really a waste of time like most of you stated.

I am more pissed that I didn't make a move then this not working out, now all I keep thinking is how I can get her over to **** her lol...

I guess lets see how she acts on Sunday right?

 

[JohnChops]

Straight up, I am staying ghost, NC until I bump into her on Sunday.

Honestly I realized I was more into the idea of having a new chick in my life then actually specifically being into this girl for who she is.

It was cool that she originally approached me and asked me out on a first date but at the end of the day this broads 19, I am turning 27....I gotta find me a woman a little older. Not a girl who just moved to my state, has no car yet, looking for a job etc. It is really a waste of time like most of you stated.

I am more pissed that I didn't make a move then this not working out, now all I keep thinking is how I can get her over to **** her lol..

I guess lets see how she acts on Sunday right?

Okay that last line heree your still into this.girl. Why not just not care.... best thing you can do . And then go find your girl who is youe or whatever is up to your standards . I'm 19, all the 19-21 year old girls are immature and have no idea what they want and your 27...ore developed mentally it wouldn't mix well. Main point though : find other girls and you won't think so hard about this one. Case closed as nismo would say.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Way too much over-analyzing going on here, but from a learning perspective this is good because it will teach you where you went wrong and help you in the future.

One common theme I always see here is guys posting about how the dates prior to the friction went very well. Understand that is from your perspective. You have no idea how much the girl enjoyed herself because what a woman says and what she does are two ENTIRELY different things. I don't even listen to what women say most of the time now.

Not kissing her was literally your kiss of death.

She now has formed an opinion of you and once a girl has her mind made up its very hard to change it.

I get why the people who have replied are telling you to do certain things such as no contact until the game on Sunday; but honestly that's not going to help you at this point.

No contact only works when a girl has a healthy to sky high interest in you. If you wander off into the abyss it will just make her transition to move on that much easier. Now I'm not saying you should keep hitting her up, because you shouldn't in this case since you will be seeing her Sunday. But just understand in general NC is a strategy used to help you mentally and emotionally move on from a chick. Its not intended to be a strategy to elevate her interest.

You have nothing to lose by asking her to hang out one more time, so I would hit her up a couple days after the game and see how that goes.

I don't like the idea of asking her out on Sunday for Thursday. Asking a girl out too far in advance when she has low interest to start dramatically increases the chance of a flake or cancel.

If I were you, since this is already more or less a lost cause, I would:

-flirt with her hard-core at the game, but obviously don't spend all your time with her.

-would not call her the following week at all..... this MIGHT get her curious again or it might make her forget about you, but I think we all agree this chick thinks she has you figured out, so she's likely expecting you to call a day or two after to ask her out.

-call the week after, just to re-engage contact with her and see how she responds. You should be able to tell right off the bat if her interest has changed for the better.

If it has, ask her out and you might have pulled the rabbit out of the hat.


Mentally I would chalk this up as a lost cause and just go the experiment route and see what you can get to work.











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[spiegel549]

Pimp-sicle Right on brother. It is dead in the water, but...

The best thing about this is acknowledging what I did wrong that made her interest level drop...AND NOT REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKES IN THE FUTURE EVER AGAIN. lol..

Its dead, find a new broad I got it.

As an experiment for future experience I am going to try what you said.

Run into her, act totally fine, act like I have been going out, having an awesome week, be friendly, watch the game and then roll out.

MAYBE just maybe she will say "hmm I thought I had him figured out..maybe I didn't"

On a funny note, unless she calls me begging for me to rail her from behind she will not hear from me ever again, period.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

One common theme I always see here is guys posting about how the dates prior to the friction went very well. Understand that is from your perspective. You have no idea how much the girl enjoyed herself because what a woman says and what she does are two ENTIRELY different things. I don't even listen to what women say most of the time now.

I agree. The only time you know if the date went well is if she accepts the next one... and the next one... and the next one... otherwise, the date you thought went well doesn't mean shiznit.

I don't like the idea of asking her out on Sunday for Thursday. Asking a girl out too far in advance when she has low interest to start dramatically increases the chance of a flake or cancel.

Actually, that's the reason he SHOULD. A girl with high interest will ALWAYS remember a date, no matter how far out in advance it is.

I've set up dates with girls 2 weeks in advance who showed up on time without me reminding them, due to their high interest level; on the other hand, I've also set up dates with girls for the very next day who cancelled last minute or flaked.

The point of asking her out so far in advance, though, is really so that he'll be able to finally get just how uninterested she is in going with him. If it's 4 days out, she should have NOTHING planned for that day. So, if he asks her for Thursday and she starts going "uh, well, um..." it means she's trying to think of an excuse on the spot. That action alone should let him know she's just not interested.

 

[spiegel549]

The importance of spinning multiple plates..

**UPDATE**

Whats up brothers. So this weekend was a real eye opener to me. The importance of "spinning multiple plates," really is extremely important in the dating game.

For those that have been following--> I was so pissed that I didn't make a move on this last broad that when I went out last night, I picked up a girl and banged her brains out at her apartment. I was ****ING ALPHA MALE TO THE MAX...I also ended up getting another broads number that I am going to see next week.

I finally saw that other girl at the game today and man....after last night I didn't give a **** because I had 2 extra plates spinning. She acted like a frigin WIERDO so I just say hello and paid no attention.....NEXT!!!

Seriously guys I now can really see why its so important to spin MULTIPLE plates. I was driving myself insane mentally because I had 1 broad I was working on and when it went down hill I had no back ups.

NOW I SEE how really important it is to keep your A+ Alpha male game 100% of the time...ALWAYS. 1 screw up and she drops her interest in a heart beat.

I am so glad I recovered and am back in the game. Thank you all for your guidance!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Actually, that's the reason he SHOULD. A girl with high interest will ALWAYS remember a date, no matter how far out in advance it is.

Understood, but it was already obvious this girl didn't have high interest. Its not set up to succeed if you are already starting from a deficit and then decide to start out in a deeper hole to test her interest.

Setting up dates so far in advance is never a recipe for success unless the girl is already biting hook, line and sinker.

Its simple, you ask her out, if she can't make it and doesn't counter offer you know she has low interest. End of story; and you move on to your next prospect, in the time that you start working the other girl(s), this one might come back around or she might not.

I've set up dates with girls 2 weeks in advance who showed up on time without me reminding them, due to their high interest level; on the other hand, I've also set up dates with girls for the very next day who cancelled last minute or flaked.

Again I definitely agree and know this is the case with high interest girls. Testing a girl by setting up a date so far in advance when you already know she has low interest is pointless.

The point of asking her out so far in advance, though, is really so that he'll be able to finally get just how uninterested she is in going with him.

You seem to think that asking X amount of days in advance translates into dictating her true interest level because she shouldn't have plans. Its much simpler than that.

If it's 4 days out, she should have NOTHING planned for that day. So, if he asks her for Thursday and she starts going "uh, well, um..." it means she's trying to think of an excuse on the spot. That action alone should let him know she's just not interested.

Big assumption. Don't make assumptions in the dating game.

Watch her actions which will dictate her true interest. There are many girls who have plans 4 days in advance, however there are no girls who will not counter offer for a guy they are truly interested in.






PIMP

 

[Pimp-sicle]

**UPDATE**

Whats up brothers. So this weekend was a real eye opener to me. The importance of "spinning multiple plates," really is extremely important in the dating game.

For those that have been following--> I was so pissed that I didn't make a move on this last broad that when I went out last night, I picked up a girl and banged her brains out at her apartment. I was ****ING ALPHA MALE TO THE MAX...I also ended up getting another broads number that I am going to see next week.

I finally saw that other girl at the game today and man....after last night I didn't give a **** because I had 2 extra plates spinning. She acted like a frigin WIERDO so I just say hello and paid no attention.....NEXT!!!

Seriously guys I now can really see why its so important to spin MULTIPLE plates. I was driving myself insane mentally because I had 1 broad I was working on and when it went down hill I had no back ups.

NOW I SEE how really important it is to keep your A+ Alpha male game 100% of the time...ALWAYS. 1 screw up and she drops her interest in a heart beat.

I am so glad I recovered and am back in the game. Thank you all for your guidance!

Nice bro! Isn't it funny what happens in your brain when you go out and meet more girls?!

You end up looking @the original girl thinking "WTF is so great about her?" LOL








PIMP

 

[spiegel549]

Nice bro! Isn't it funny what happens in your brain when you go out and meet more girls?!

You end up looking @the original girl thinking "WTF is so great about her?" LOL

PIMP

EXACTLY man lol...its great. I look at the first girl today and I go "Man..she isn't even THAT hot."

What did it cost me to sleep with this other chick? BEING AN APLHA MALE was the price haha excellent stuff.

Unless I find a woman who I take out for some good amount of time and I really like her, and SHE asks me to go exclusive....I spin multiple plates.

 

[ARrocket]

**UPDATE**

Whats up brothers. So this weekend was a real eye opener to me. The importance of "spinning multiple plates," really is extremely important in the dating game.

For those that have been following--> I was so pissed that I didn't make a move on this last broad that when I went out last night, I picked up a girl and banged her brains out at her apartment. I was ****ING ALPHA MALE TO THE MAX...I also ended up getting another broads number that I am going to see next week.

I finally saw that other girl at the game today and man....after last night I didn't give a **** because I had 2 extra plates spinning. She acted like a frigin WIERDO so I just say hello and paid no attention.....NEXT!!!

Seriously guys I now can really see why its so important to spin MULTIPLE plates. I was driving myself insane mentally because I had 1 broad I was working on and when it went down hill I had no back ups.

NOW I SEE how really important it is to keep your A+ Alpha male game 100% of the time...ALWAYS. 1 screw up and she drops her interest in a heart beat.

I am so glad I recovered and am back in the game. Thank you all for your guidance!

Quoted because this is the best damn post I've seen in a loooong time

 

[Jitterbug]

That's the funniest flake I've read about. "Has to go out with one of her dad's friends" - who is he, her sugar daddy? Payment time for all the toys and handbags he's bought her this month? lol I'd definitely give her sh1t about it next time if I were you. Btw don't get pissed at women, it's useless.