She dumped me cause of cheating and i never did, now i did this is she gonna call?

[Plain & Simple]

Ok well my GF of 1yr and 1 month dumped me cause she thinks that im cheating on her, basicly this is what happens, we was at my place with some of my buddies (they came unexpexted) and we were all watching tv, i went to the bathroom to get cleaned up and ready to go, and this girl texted me on my phone.
My friends told me that she picked it up looked at it and then crossed her arms and shaked her head in dissapointment.

Now the message was a regular one it was that it was from a girl so she got mad cause of that.
Now that happened like a week ago and i talked to her and fixed it and we were good but then like last thursday while on the phone she bought it back up. I told her "this aint gonna work" i didnt finish the sentence, i was gonna say "this aint gonna work if u keep being so unsecure and jealous about a single text" but before i finished she said "yeah this aint gona work cause u cheating" and she hung up, since then i aint hear from her.

The day after was her bday, i called her but her phone its "outta service" at least thats what the operator sayswhen u call it.

So yesterday i bought a 4 foot bday card, a teddy bear, flowers and some chocolate, and this is where it gets interesting, Im an artist, so i made a song over her favorite beat/instrumental, about her, i took all that and dropped it at her front door. I wrote how i never cheated on her and that i really care about her etc...

That was last night around 10 pm by know somebody has had to come out the house, either dad, mom brothers or her, so im sure that she has taken a look at the stuff and listened to the cd.

Yet she still hasnt called, my friend came with me, he said that chances are that shes not gonna call that same night but the day after, he also said that she has to call, one way or another wether is good news or bad news she has to call to let me know the deal.

What do you all think, is she gonna call me today? It'll be messed up if she doesnt

I know this might be kind of AFCish but i dont think so at least in this situation

 

[white cloud 8]

I think you should stop worrying about this sh*t and continue on with your life .

 

[\O/]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple

So yesterday i bought a 4 foot bday card, a teddy bear, flowers and some chocolate, and this is where it gets interesting, Im an artist, so i made a song over her favorite beat/instrumental, about her, i took all that and dropped it at her front door. I wrote how i never cheated on her and that i really care about her etc...

Howcome you feel she deserved all THAT after getting pissed at you 'cause a girl texted you? Clearly she is very jealous and controlling and this is probably because you have let her act that way.

Afterall it was her birthday, so you could get away with some of the gifts, but due to the fact that she was already pissed at you at that point and you still "rewarded" her does NOT work in your favour. She has the upperhand and she definately knows it.
I think you should have dropped the birthdaygift all together to show her that you don't accept that kind of behavior.
A call or maybe a simple card would suffice. Afterall, she agreed that it wouldn't work....

Stay away, see what happens. She'll contact you, otherwise..next!

 

[arlanda]

1. She doesn't trust you = the relationship is doomed

or

2. She's looking for more attention

or

3. She's looking for an excuse to dump your ass

So, which one is it?

 

[Plain & Simple]

Originally posted by arlanda
1. She doesn't trust you = the relationship is doomed

or

2. She's looking for more attention

or

3. She's looking for an excuse to dump your ass

So, which one is it?

yeah all this three things went thru my mind a lotta times too, im preety sure that it is number 2 and a lil bit of number 1 number 3 could always be the case too but i think its number 2 really.

But the only reason why i did all that is cause i actually "love" this girl, i mean... i guess i do, she is wifey material and know in days its very hard to find one like that, but to be honest with yall if she doesnt call me or contact me after the song i made her and the gifts i gave her, ima really just move on there are a lotta girls trynna get with me and i have rejected them cause of my respect and love towards her, and she pulls one like this?...

Hmmm my next step would be to go to her job just so we can confirm the break up or call it on the house phone since her cell is down...

What yall think though, im just looking for some advice , and do yall think that she will call? like i said it'd be very greedy and immature in her part not to...

 

[\O/]

Don't go to her job and don't call her house. You've already done too much. Now lay back and let her contact you. She will...and when she does, don't act too exited about it. Stand up for yourself. If she gets away with this and with an apology even, you're in for a bumpy ride.. She'll keep acting like that and see how far she can push it. Then it's right back to chumpytown!

 

[Lost In Translation]

Plain & Simple learn an important rule of pimpin'

NEVER EVER EVER let a woman look through your phone

and that includes leaving it sitting in a lounge room full of people


yes you should have taken it to the bathroom with you


my cars keys and my phone go where i am


i wouldn't care if i was at my parents house i would still take both car keys and phone with me


so many fights start when a girlfriend looks through your phone and finds a number from 2 years ago or a message that is 3 months old

GIVE THEM NO AMMUNITION

ok now to your post

Plain & Simple
So yesterday i bought a 4 foot bday card, a teddy bear, flowers and some chocolate, and this is where it gets interesting, Im an artist, so i made a song over her favorite beat/instrumental, about her, i took all that and dropped it at her front door. I wrote how i never cheated on her and that i really care about her etc...

dude buying her stuff won't fix the problem

it will make it worse

maybe she will think you are trying to buy your way out ?

maybe she will think buying her stuff SHOWS YOU FEEL GUILTY and therefore must have cheated on her

you have also given her these gifts which she will use as EVIDENCE that you cheated by showing them to her parents and friends saying "look he did cheat and feels bad because he bought me all this stuff" meanwhile the card that says "i didn't cheat" gets thrown in bin. it has no use in her plan.

Plain & Simple
That was last night around 10 pm by know somebody has had to come out the house, either dad, mom brothers or her, so im sure that she has taken a look at the stuff and listened to the cd.

Yet she still hasnt called,

ofcourse she has the stuff. it is on display as evidence of your guilt.

Plain & Simple
my friend came with me, he said that chances are that shes not gonna call that same night but the day after, he also said that she has to call, one way or another wether is good news or bad news she has to call to let me know the deal.

has to call ? your friend is a n00b.

she may call but there is no HAS TO

Plain & Simple
What do you all think, is she gonna call me today? It'll be messed up if she doesnt

buying her stuff doesn't mean she owes you a call

Plain & Simple i think maybe she is mad and needs to calm down OR she is looking for out of the relationship and needs an excuse

cheating is a great excuse because she has been with you so long she can't have her social reputation take heat because she acts flakey

so by the "your cheating" story you give her the perfect out. her parents will understand. her friends will understand.

people will pity her and feel sorry for her and show her special attention

and let her get away with more flakey behaviour than usual

heck she is becoming a celebrity already

and cheating on her before her birthday gains her an extra 50,000 attention points and AFC killers on your trail to avenge said princess

every girl dreams of this much attention

you think she is going to give all this up by going back to you ?

and you come over for dinner and her dad looks at you like he wants to kill you and you explain you are innocent ?

NO WAY SHE IS GOING TO ALLOW YOU TO CLEAR THINGS UP AND SPOIL HER PARADE

but all hope is not lost. maybe she is just mad and needs to calm down


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: Pook
“Many girls merely upgrade their boyfriends and never become single “

Quote: Don Juanabbe
“ What are you Vanilla-bloody-Ice? “

 

[GirlCrazy]

Wow, that was almost physically painful to read.

She violates your trust, and you reward her for it. Maybe if she sleeps with your best friend you'll get down on one knee and give her a ring!

Hmmm my next step would be to go to her job just so we can confirm the break up or call it on the house phone since her cell is down...

Acting like a stalker isn't going to help you one bit. I've never understood that whole "hey maybe if I shower her with gifts, call her 50 times a day and show up at her work, that will show her what a great guy I am!"

Bottom line: You've already blown it hardcore, and your best option is to use this as a learning experience by moving on and never contacting her again. I know I'm sounding harsh here, but it pains me to see my brothers falling into this supplication trap over and over. Nothing good ever comes from this sort of behavior.

 

[Plain & Simple]

I see what you saying, but those gifts were basicly for her Bday, i didnt buy them with the intent of "im guilty so ima do this and that" Im not guilty, i never cheated on her, so my mind is clear, its all her, she just looking for an excuse, thats how she is too, she tries to find the smallest thing to get mad at you.

All i care about is that she has my white gold chain and jesus piece, how ima get that back? lol

But really she dead wrong for this, she just suspecting that im cheating cause of a sms, wich said nothing, she is just too insecure.

I havent called her at all or text her i only tried calling 2 times on her bday and her phone was outta service, so i texted her sayin g happy bday, since then i havent called text or nothing, and what i did yesterday, is the last ima do for her, if she calls we might fix it if she doesnt its a wrap, but me im not doing no more, **** why should i, i didnt even do anything.

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by Lost In Translation
cheating is a great excuse because she has been with you so long she can't have her social reputation take heat because she acts flakey

so by the "your cheating" story you give her the perfect out. her parents will understand. her friends will understand.

people will pity her and feel sorry for her and show her special attention

and let her get away with more flakey behaviour than usual

heck she is becoming a celebrity already

and cheating on her before her birthday gains her an extra 50,000 attention points and AFC killers on your trail to avenge said princess

every girl dreams of this much attention

you think she is going to give all this up by going back to you ?

and you come over for dinner and her dad looks at you like he wants to kill you and you explain you are innocent ?

NO WAY SHE IS GOING TO ALLOW YOU TO CLEAR THINGS UP AND SPOIL HER PARADE

but all hope is not lost. maybe she is just mad and needs to calm down

Great post LIT.

I also like to point out that there is a possibility that she was herself CHEATING.

She was prehaps looking for a way out and what LIT just said pretty much sums her scheme.

She was cheating on the low. Nobody knows and therefore after this "victim" feels vindicated and loved by her peers she reveals that she is seeing someone new and thus she is admired once again instead of being labeled a cheating slvt.

Cheating its just like stealing to these women: Its not cheating unless you get caught.

The length of games some women go for these days is mind blowing but they do it to save their fregile reputation.

Originally posted by Pook
Many girls merely upgrade their boyfriends and never become single.

DjDamage

 

[GirlCrazy]

Her phone is out of service because she doesn't want to talk to you.

It doesn't matter if the gifts were for her birthday or not. You're still rewarding her for treating you like sh1t. All you're doing is training her that not only is there no consequences for treating guys like that, but she'll actually get rewarded.

Hopefully you'll come to the conclusion that she's a lousy GF and move on. You can do better than her. Otherwise I see more pain in your future.

But really she dead wrong for this, she just suspecting that im cheating cause of a sms, wich said nothing, she is just too insecure.

She had no business looking at your phone. Hell I'm married, and my wife would never pull that crap. LTR's don't work without mutual respect. If she doesn't trust me, she knows where the door is.

All i care about is that she has my white gold chain and jesus piece, how ima get that back? lol

Cost of doing business! If she returns it on her own, fine, but don't pursue it.

I havent called her at all or text her i only tried calling 2 times on her bday and her phone was outta service, so i texted her sayin g happy bday, since then i havent called text or nothing, and what i did yesterday, is the last ima do for her, if she calls we might fix it if she doesnt its a wrap, but me im not doing no more, **** why should i, i didnt even do anything.

She deserved 0 phone calls, 0 text messages and 0 gifts.

 

[Desdinova]

So yesterday i bought a 4 foot bday card, a teddy bear, flowers and some chocolate, and this is where it gets interesting, Im an artist, so i made a song over her favorite beat/instrumental, about her, i took all that and dropped it at her front door. I wrote how i never cheated on her and that i really care about her etc...

That was dumb. You rewarded her for treating you like 5hit. You would have been better off to get her NOTHING and then she'd wonder why you didn't get her anything.

I don't think this woman is worth your time. Is she going to ditch you everytime you talk to a female? She's being a jealous, controlling cvnt. Take back your freedom and kick her to the curb.

 

[Rec_rejection_phobic]

first of all, haw old are you?? just asking because this stuff sounds like it's from second grade.

You don't deny that you cheeted, you lay down the law.

you should have told her: "listen up, your here because i like YOU, not anybody else. YOU!!!!!! if your gona be an insecure brat, there is the door."


get your gurl "friend" to call her and explain averything to her (if you want her that bad.)
And then if she calls you back, let her hang. don't go back to her so fast. teach her a lesson....

 

[MacAvoy]

She pulled the old trick i'll accuse you of cheating on me and dump you because I'm really cheating on you trick and don't want to tell you, so I'll make you look like the bad guy, that way you act AFC and I can have you back if it doesn't work out w/ the guy I've been cheating on with you.

 

[flexion_]

I think you are watching too many Adam Sandler movies for gift ideas.

But beside this, I agree with others that you never reward someone for bad behaviour - it only justifies the situation in her mind and makes you look weak. You should have not done anything for her birthday.

Ultimately you two aren't going to work out - thats obvious. So I'd suggest just moving on and find a girl that trusts you. Why be in a non-trusting relationship?

 

[Boner da Stoner]

Damage said it perfectly... "It's not cheating unless you get caught"

I am still looking for that perfect girl, I know she will be loyal, but she will not cheat on me. I don't know the rest of it. Time and time again I've met girls who have boyfriends, and I go all gaga over them, I know I won't want an LTR with em so I game em, try and sleep with em, than I can play with their heads. I've made so many guy friends by doing it it's nuts, I love to point out the sluts.

It especially happens in relationships where the girls CONSTANTLY ask their AFC friends if their BF is cheating on them, they egg you out. Than after all is done and the gig is up, they start to cry about how their future plans with so called mr perfect are now ruined.

Two weeks later, just find out who shes ****ing from one of her drunk slut friends and loose lips are greased up and the BS, sob stories, and **** buddy stories come pouring out. I hate to hear about my friends being duped, but heck my friends cheat on their gf's anyways.

 

[uzio]

Let me get this straight.

A chick broke up with you using a blatant lie, therefore disrespecting you and...

...you give her presents?

What sort of a moron are you?

Anyhoo - if you really want this pussy back you kinda-sorta have to get a hotter chick and use good 'ol female jelousy (and don't try to inform her of this - she'll know, trust me).

OFC once you have a better chick - do you really want the old one back?

 

[DonJuanMonk]

LOL, go look for a new girl. A girl once did this to me, I would go AFC apeshiat on her then thinking about it now, man.. what a fkkn waste of time - a new girl is better than someone who already has thought of you as someone less than a boyfriend.

 

[fyrefly]

Re: She dumped me cause of cheating and i never did, now i did this is she gonna call

Originally posted by Plain & Simple

So yesterday i bought a 4 foot bday card, a teddy bear, flowers and some chocolate, and this is where it gets interesting, Im an artist, so i made a song over her favorite beat/instrumental, about her, i took all that and dropped it at her front door. I wrote how i never cheated on her and that i really care about her etc...

OH GOD YOU JUST APOLOGISED FOR SOMETHING YOU DIDN'T EVEN DO, WAY TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG DOOFUS.

Seriously we're here to help but man, you are so blind, SHE IS THE ONE IN THE WRONG NOT YOU, STOP ACTING LIKE IT'S THE OTHER WAY AROUND. You bought her presents because she accused you of cheating, you are sucking up because she won't believe you when you're being honest. SHE SHOULD BE BUYING YOU PRESENTS.

Can you hear that screaming in the back of your head, it's your logic brain and it's telling you you're lookin at this the wrong way.

Here's what you should have done:

simple txt or letter in her letterbox

"I didn't cheat on you, i love you, if you want to throw me away for a reason that doesn't even exist then go ahead, but at least remember this, i never cheated on you"

 

[BrotherAP]

First of all, there is nothing wrong with giving her birthday gifts - but, considering you two are more or less broken up, she's being a ***** about something you didn't do, and she avoided you on her birthday, you should have kept them to give to her provided things went on the upswing.

Since you've been dating for as long as you have, getting ahold of her should be easy. You don't have to talk to her to figure things out. Why are you letting her make all of the decisions? You should always know where the relationship stands. If you don't, make up your own mind about it.

You should be quite pissed off that she's being such a *****. I would probably send her a text message, voicemail, or email saying something along the lines of

"Are you seriously doing this because you claim I'm cheating on you? That's pretty low class of you to assume that... I don't know what you were doing snooping anyway, unless you just wanted to think I was cheating and were looking for something to help you believe it. In any case, just hanging up on me and disappearing is quite a cowardly move. The least you could have done is stay on the phone long enough for us to decide what we're doing. In any case, I've made up my mind. I can't date somebody who would pull this crap, so I really hope what you wanted was to be broken up. I do need my silver chain and Jesus piece back. You can feel free to drop it in my mailbox if you don't have the gall to actually talk to me.

p.s. Considering I didn't cheat on you, it's especially trashy of you to tell people that I did. Don't talk out of your ass"

If you really have other girls chasing you, start dating. She'll probably know about who you're fvcking before you do. Ex girlfriends always find out everything. Just today I learned a few things about my roommate/good friend from his ex girlfriend about the girls he's been seeing since. Things she's not even supposed to know.

Anyway, you need to turn this around right now. If you do any more chasing, you'll be chasing her away. You've already spent your grace points for neediness on those gifts - not that birthday gifts are needy, but the circumstance made them so.

Chasing her will not work. She's expecting that, and probably waiting around with her friends with a smirk for the next "I miss you" text message. Just send her one message finalizing the breakup, in the spirit of the one I wrote above (as an illustration of how I might deal with a girl). Yes, it is rude. It should be - I'd be pissed off! It also establishes that you're ok with the breakup. This will knock her right on her ass, after those gifts. When you take away her advantage, the lack of control will panick her.

But you can't do it is a bluff. Cut her off right now. If you make no attempt to contact her (hell, emailing her now is even not necesarry) she will try to initiate contact with you. I am so sure of this that I would bet money on it. However, this can be her way of calling your bluff. If two weeks from now she sends you a txt saying "Hey, how are you?" and you reply enthusiastically, she'll know you're trying to get back - and that's when the games really start. You have to remain cold, and let her prove that she really wants you back and she's not just fishing for your attention. This way you wont waste your time and risk your heart for a girl who's just mad that her ex isn't acting like an AFC wimp.

DO NOT REWARD HER FOR BAD BEHAVIOR

Accusing you of cheating and dumping you is very bad behavior. She should have to work to get you back.

If she doesn't try and get you back - well, no sweat. Not only have you already decided that you guys shouldn't be together, you have other girls already.

If you think I'm telling you to be an ass-hole, I'm not. I'm telling you to be realistic, and to stick up for yourself. An ass-hole would do exactly what I told you do, but then use her for sex when she came crawling back but keep fvcking other girls. She might tell her friends you're an ass-hole - but we all know how girls feel about 'ass-holes'.


BrotherAP

-The Don Juan Pickup Artist-