She doesnt return all my calls - Need advice

[deeman]

Me and this girl are supposed to be taking salsa dance classes together next week, she is cool, we get along, there is alot of potential.
I met her at my gym a while back and we have talked and hung out twice for dinner.
she seems interested but we'll wait and see.

The main problem is, the chick hardly ever returns my calls! I nexted her a couple weekes ago, but then she called me up and asked me out to join her for lunch. I declined but counter offered for "another time" cuz I was busy.
She called me a few nights later and asked me to join her for dinner, which I did.

This was last wednesday and I called her on friday and left a message, told her to call me over the weekend. Guess what, she never called. It pisses me off. Do you think I should ask her about why she doesnt return calls? Granted, the chick is busy, she has 3 jobs and goes to Uni fulltime....but returning a damn phone call, come on!

Her interest level seems good, but her not calling me back is throwing me off.
How would you guys bring up that issue with a girl?

 

[chlywly]

If she's not calling she's not interested; she's playing... either next her or milk it.

 

[deeman]

but thats the thing tho, she does call, but when its convenient for her.

I felt that if she was trying to send the message that she wasnt interested, she would
a. Never call me
b. Not even think about asking me out.

Actually the way we left things the last time we chat was that she would come over to watch the matrix. I just cant figure her ass out. How can I cut the BS?

 

[Helter Skelter]

Originally posted by deeman

I just cant figure her ass out.

#1 Never try to figure chicks out (It will give you a headache)

#2 In the chick world, especially hot chicks, they don't always return phone calls, it's just the way it is.

She is busy also. Is she interested in you ? maybe.
I would stop focusing on her so much and date some other girls.
If you two were met to be, she'll come around in time.

 

[MisterAl]

Originally posted by deeman
but thats the thing tho, she does call, but when its convenient for her.

That's right, and look how wound up about her it's got you.

That's the game. Wanna play? Learn it. Use it.

Don't call so much. Don't leave messages on Friday nights. Let a few days pass between contacts. You already saw how ignoring her worked once before.

 

[Shadow Dancer]

She's putting into practice what you've come to this site to learn. Maybe you should ask her to teach you. haha

She's playing you, man, but not in a bad way. She's just doing what comes naturally to her through years of practice. If you get all crazy, she'll leave your ass in a second. So chill and start meeting other women. You'd be surprised just how fast you'll forget about this woman once you have others lined up. And when you do, this girl will come back to you. Try it.

 

[JohnJones]

I'll chime in. The nice thing is when you have lots of these kinds of women who just happen to call you for dinner, etc., so that you always (or often) have something to do.

When the others find out about it, it drives them nuts (I have had it happen to me plenty of times).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You know, waiting until Friday to call someone and expect them to call you on the weekend isn't a great way to get together with someone. Most women like to clued in ahead of time. Last minute get togethers should be left to LTRs.

But none the less, a woman with a high IL would get in touch with you and will attempt (maybe unsuccessfully) to make time for you. Its apparent that this one is very busy but doesn't have enough IL to put forth a greater effort.

Start focusing your attention on someone else but keep this one in your hip pocket and give her a cal in two or three weeks ON A MONDAY OR TUESDAY. She will either be interested in seeing you or not. Make your decision to keep her or next her by her actions.

 

[R6rcr]

I have gone through the same situations before. I find about 2 or 3 other chicks to hang out with, and don't call her as much, or at all. It works most of the time, and if it doesn't i still have 2 or 3 chicks ready. So it is a win win situation. There normal response to this is "Don't be a stranger" or "Why don't you call me anymore", or "This works both ways". blah blah blah.