She does not initiate...should I?

bario

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I used to chat to this girl on FB once a week for almost 2 months, of most I was the first to initiate, with only one exemption she did. (Both lives in different states)

Lately I became a little busy and did not contact her. It's been 3 weeks since last conversation, and the girl did not send anything.

Should I assume she is not interested? I mean she is cute and seems a good girl, but I don't want to seem desperate (if that is right to say).

Your valued opinion on this guys?
 

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In this case you should assume she isn't interested. Do not initiate the convo. If she was interested she would initiate the convo even more than you did.
 

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In this case you should assume she isn't interested. Do not initiate the convo. If she was interested she would initiate the convo even more than you did.
Yeah thats what I thought too, but could it also maybe a shy girl?
 

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What is it you want with her? Continue being pen pals? Then by all means write to her...
 

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In this case you should assume she isn't interested. Do not initiate the convo. If she was interested she would initiate the convo even more than you did.
Agreed. I tested this out not too long ago. I linked up with a smokin hot chick I use to know. We talked about doing this that and the other in NYC. Then She just dropped off..lol After not hearing from her, I followed up the next week and was basically blown off :D Never heard from her again after that. When a chick is into you, she’ll find a way to be around
 

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IMO 2 months in and you guys aren't casual enough to not worry about who initiates, there's a power struggle going on to see who holds frame.

If you can't take her out legitimately, don't worry that she hasn't messaged you. Focus on females that you can actually touch.
 

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Yeah thats what I thought too, but could it also maybe a shy girl?
Even a shy girl would initiate at least once with a simple "Hey". There are girls out there who will move mountains for you brother and you will meet them, but this girl isn't one of those.
 

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I used to chat to this girl on FB once a week for almost 2 months, of most I was the first to initiate, with only one exemption she did. (Both lives in different states)

Lately I became a little busy and did not contact her. It's been 3 weeks since last conversation, and the girl did not send anything.

Should I assume she is not interested? I mean she is cute and seems a good girl, but I don't want to seem desperate (if that is right to say).

Your valued opinion on this guys?
Well chatting , text messaging, social media and all that (In Your Case) is not going to get you affection and getting laid (Out of State / Long Distance). Just a serious case of blue balls.

You need to spent time with the lady in Person ( Hang out, Have Fun and Hook Up)

Don't waste your time on long distance , try local

She is probably dating guys in her area. What is your goal with this lady becoming her BFF because that all you are going to be at the moment. She has plenty of those

Your Assignment

#Ghost (Move On - don't reach out) that Lady Until or if she reaches out
#Hit up the local spots and build up your team
#Jump on POF and chat some ladies locally and organize a couple of dates
 
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