She didn't return my call but this is not over, damnit!

[Rev]

At a club on a Wed night (7/16) to see a friend's band play and saw this chick I knew from HS (she was a couple classes below me). We never knew eachother back then but had hung out a couple of times over the years because of mutual friends. I always thought she was particularly hot. She remembered my face but not my name. Hell, the last time I saw her I was a full-blown AFC.

Anyway, game on. I was sitting at the bar and she had just come in and was behind me. I turned around and said "What's up, Girl?" (I love that simple opener - the 'Girl' at the end emphasizes the fact that our genitalia is compatible). She says hey and then says she's terrible with names blah blah blah. I just smiled and turned back towards the bar. I wasn't about to let her know I cared. She kept going on about forgetting everyone's names and being sorry and blah blah and then asked if she could sit in the seat next to me to get a drink. She sat facing me and Anthony Berger's leg touch thing came to mind (man, that's old school for me). She wanted to buy me a beer to make up for forgetting my name. She had $2 in her hand and I told her to get some more $ out of her purse because I drink the expensive beer. Then I told her she can forget my name anytime and "In fact, I'd rather you not remember my name if it means I don't have to buy my own beer." We talked a little while longer and it couldn't have gone any better. Lots of Kino and C&F, both well received. 2 other buds walked in and came up to me and made me look cool and popular. One of them was praising me for my guitar skills. Thanks Man.

So the show starts and she goes to pee. I stood right by the stage and danced and banged my head, etc. because I'm a fun crazy guy my and friend's band needed my support. She was off to the side so I didn't see her for the whole show, purposely.

After the show I walked past her and she grabs my waist from behind. Without turning around I reached back and tried to grab her tits. She covered them up and giggled like a school girl. Then she's says she has to go home and go to bed. I had my arm around her and she's kissing my cheek and asks if I would like her # so we can get together some time. I thought we were gonna start making out while I was putting her # in my phone. I should have kiss closed but didn't. I kissed her on the cheek and she kissed my cheek some more.

So Brothers, that's what I have to work with.

BUT,

I called her Sunday evening and got her voice mail. She had told me she doesn't answer when she's at home (apparently true) and to leave a message and she'd call right back. I left "Hey. This is Rev. I'm at 555-5555. Give me a call back."

No call back.

She is not in Nextville just yet but when should I call again? How long should I wait? Also, my same friend plays another show this Wed (7/23). Maybe I'll see her there or maybe I should invite her. That's my b-day BTW.

 

[squirrels]

Don't call her back. You left your number...if she's as interested as she seemed, she'll call back. Give it a week at least. Keep doing whatever you'd do anyway. If you see her, do your thing. Otherwise, don't even sweat it.

And yeah, never miss an opportunity to kiss-close. She was kissing YOU, for crying out loud. That's an open invitation if ever I've seen one.

 

[spanky]

28. You must get over your fear.
29. Excellent post!
30. Next her.
31. Here is a better way to do it-----
32. Just ask her out.
33. What have you got to lose?
34. If she’s interested, she will call you.
35. Make it seem like you are busy.
36. Let her wonder what you are doing.
37. If the mood is right, go for the kiss.
38. Wait [insert number of days] before you call.
39. I am having the same problem.
40. By getting upset, you showed her just how insecure you are.
41. It seems like she has low self-esteem
42. I told you to next her five times already!


Hey, squirrels, I see you used #34 from the ready-made responses and a variation of #37. Good going!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by spanky
28. You must get over your fear.
29. Excellent post!
30. Next her.
31. Here is a better way to do it-----
32. Just ask her out.
33. What have you got to lose?
34. If she’s interested, she will call you.
35. Make it seem like you are busy.
36. Let her wonder what you are doing.
37. If the mood is right, go for the kiss.
38. Wait [insert number of days] before you call.
39. I am having the same problem.
40. By getting upset, you showed her just how insecure you are.
41. It seems like she has low self-esteem
42. I told you to next her five times already!


Hey, squirrels, I see you used #34 from the ready-made responses and a variation of #37. Good going!

And people think I know anything about women. LOL

But it makes sense. Whether it's an over-used DJ-cliche or not, it makes sense.

 

[spanky]

But it makes sense. Whether it's an over-used DJ-cliche or not, it makes sense.

Yes, it does.

 

[Rev]

Originally posted by spanky
40. By getting upset, you showed her just how insecure you are.

Actually I was trying to seem indifferent (ie a challenge). I think it worked too!

I also remember telling her when she sat down, "You're going to remember me this time. (Kino to stomach)." That was money cause I sounded so confident when I said it.

Then after the show when we were talking, she called me by my 1st and last name in a seductive tone, and I said "I told you you'd remember me this time." Damn that was money.

And as for the kiss close, the only reason I didn't was because of a friend. She was actually there meeting him and I didn't want to look like I was 'stealing' her right in front of him. He's a real bro. It was hard not to though.

But anyway, thanks for the replies. Your advice makes sense and I'm not going to call her again any time soon. I just can't believe this sh1t!!! If they don't have high enough interest they flake and if they do they play hard-to-get. How the hell can a guy set up a date?

 

[Rev]

bump?

 

[iqqi]

i don't think it is that serious. she is just playing hard to get. its not like you are in love with her, so go ahead and call her, why the hell do you care THAT MUCH what she might think about that?