She cancelled twice...when do I call her back?

mecca411

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I've been on a few dates with this girl and we had a great time. We had plans for last Friday, but I first had to cut them short and then I pulled out later on that evening when some good friends came to town, but she seemed to be ok with it and we made plans for that Sunday night. On the Saturday night, she went out to party with friends and ended up being hung over on Sunday so she pulled out of our plans, but asked me to go to a movie on the Monday.

On the Monday, she called me from work to let me know that she stil felt like crap and so had to pull out of our plans for that night. She had a pretty busy week ahead of her so she didn't know when she'd be free again. I told her "no worries" and "just give me a shout when you're feeling better".

She called me today (Wednesday) and left a message that she would try me again later. I guess she might want to make some plans.

My question is - should I a.) call her back and/or be available for to make plans with her if she calls back; b.) not call her back for a few days and let her wonder what I'm up to; or c.) (Insert your best advice here)?

M.
 

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call back?

Why dont you send her flowers and a teddy bear while your at it? :rolleyes:

The point of being a DJ is being able to have OPTIONS on your plate so you dont obsess, overanalyze silly sh!t like this.

I will only go so far for a chick, she has to meet me halfway or she is NEXTed!
 

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She did meet him halfway. She didn't flake on calling him back. Call her friday, but not during prime time (when you SHOULD be out). That way you make her sweat a couple of days and still can make plans.
 

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Originally posted by Porky
She did meet him halfway. She didn't flake on calling him back. Call her friday, but not during prime time (when you SHOULD be out). That way you make her sweat a couple of days and still can make plans.
well it's possible she's trying to test him to see if' he's AFC material or not
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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I have a better idea...

Buy a dog amd name him "Penis"

Then you can invite girls come over and pet him. Works like a charm
 

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Originally posted by Don Ronny
I have a better idea...

Buy a dog amd name him "Penis"

Then you can invite girls come over and pet him. Works like a charm
That's a terrible idea.
 

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She called me for the second time today. Should I still wait until Friday or let her off the hook tomorrow(Thursday)?
 

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Originally posted by Don Ronny
call back?

Why dont you send her flowers and a teddy bear while your at it? :rolleyes:

The point of being a DJ is being able to have OPTIONS on your plate so you dont obsess, overanalyze silly sh!t like this.

I will only go so far for a chick, she has to meet me halfway or she is NEXTed!
Um...isn't the goal to actually get dates? How on earth is the guy going to get a date if he doesn't return phone calls to girls who call him? I think you misunderstand the whole phone issue. If she hadn't of called him to see about rescheduling, then it would make sense for him not to call her. But seeing as she took the initiative, and showed enough interest to call him he should call her back.
 

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I can't believe you're asking something so obvious. this girl is already after you and you're over that silly little phone-games stage, so if you feel like calling her, go ahead, she's not gonna think you're less of a man if you pick up the phone and dial her number to set up a date. Think about it, is overanalyzing this the best solution? Do something else with this time...

And when someone leaves a message, beit a girl or your mom, you always call back, it's social etiquette. Not returning phone calls is not polite, like not answering emails.
 

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Originally posted by Don Ronny
call back?

Why dont you send her flowers and a teddy bear while your at it? :rolleyes:

The point of being a DJ is being able to have OPTIONS on your plate so you dont obsess, overanalyze silly sh!t like this.

I will only go so far for a chick, she has to meet me halfway or she is NEXTed!
he does have options on his plate--this one. she did meet him halfway. she seems fairly legit and is courteous enough to call back.

so you're playing phone tag--it happens. BFD. it's not like he's chasing his own tail.
 

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I read your post without reading any replies, thus far......

Umm.... she seems pretty genuine about it.

I think, since you're pretty new around here, that you're taking every little detail and dissecting it because right now, this whole dating thing seems more like a science.

Though it's good to be aware of what is actually going on, you might be over analyzing things.

She's into you, there's no doubt.

This thread would never have been started, if you were a bit more comfortable with the ways of a Don Juan. You've just about got her, so these little things are meaningless.

oh, and to answer your question.

Give her a call whenever you feel like it. The simple fact that she called you, and said that she would try again, later, is enough to confirm that her IL is pretty high.

Don't count your chickens yet, but she's into you.

The Bad Ass Canadian
 

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Never! Let her arse call you now.
thank you!

Glad to see there is somebody on this forum with actual game.

(I was losing hope!)

Keep it real Player.
 

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Never! Let her arse call you now.
Are you kidding me? She has already called him twice, leaving a message. Call her back and ask her out mecca411; unless you want to take yourself out of the picture because you're playing mind games with yourself.

If you called a girl twice, leaving a message twice, and she didn't return the call, everyone here would be parroting "next, next next".
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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Originally posted by Genghis Juan
Are you kidding me? She has already called him twice, leaving a message. Call her back and ask her out mecca411; unless you want to take yourself out of the picture because you're playing mind games with yourself.

If you called a girl twice, leaving a message twice, and she didn't return the call, everyone here would be parroting "next, next next".
Exactly.
 

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Never! Let her arse call you now.
She DID call him and he missed the call. She left a message. She did her part and now the ball is in his court. If he wants to see her again he should call because if he doesn't she will just figure he lost interest and she'll start looking elsewhere.
 

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Never! Let her arse call you now.
shyt man, he did "let" her and she did--twice i believe. what, you want him to kill a hot lead?
 

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The first thing taht came to my mind when I read yoru title is ..................Find a new chick or three
 
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