She can’t ***

[RobNeb]

Hey all,
I found a great lady that I‘ve been seeing and we have lots of good sex, but she rarely cums and I kinda feel guilty that I always do and want her too as well. I do try lots of positions, let her work at it too in her fav positions and also do a lot of foreplay and oral. She’s very quiet and doesn’t say much about the situation tho and I try not to be pushy. Any tips to help me? I appreciate any feedback even if it’s constructive criticism. Thanks.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

See my reply in the other thread. Don't start too many threads in different forums, better to put it in just one.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

This is a hot take but I think trying too hard to satisfy a girl is a form of simping. Lots of guys probably suck at sex, I get it, so you want to stand out and give her a wild ride...but it takes two to tango. She should be putting in effort too. Other times, it can just be a lack of sexual chemistry.

In my experience, there are some girls, call them "nympho hoes" who are horny 24/7 and will make YOU much more turned on which translates into you actually fvcking her properly. For the girls who are more reserved and less horny, it really doesn't matter that much if she orgasms or not.

If you really want her to ***, eat her out or finger blast her.

 

[The Duke]

Op, Statistics say 80% of women don't come from penetration alone. 10-15% never come. Truth be told, the cl!t is where the magic happens.

A guy can only do so much. It sounds like you are doing your part and have good awareness, and understanding.

Rub her cl!t while you are penetrating her. Or have her do it herself.

I had a girl once that only orgasmed once out of 30 times. I tried it all. She told me she only had one guy that could ever get her off on a somewhat regular basis. This chic also didn't get very wet. I suspect she was a frequent vibrator user which desensitizes women and makes it harder to ***. After a few months we broke up. I won't ever date another girl again that doesn't get wet and can't come. I don't know if it's me or not. Doesnt really matter. I see it as we just aren't compatible sexually.

My recent exgf needed some cl!toral stimulation to get off from time to time, She also refused to use a vibrator due to desensitizing issues it caused when she was previously married.

 

[sangheilios]

This is a hot take but I think trying too hard to satisfy a girl is a form of simping. Lots of guys probably suck at sex, I get it, so you want to stand out and give her a wild ride...but it takes two to tango. She should be putting in effort too. Other times, it can just be a lack of sexual chemistry.

In my experience, there are some girls, call them "nympho hoes" who are horny 24/7 and will make YOU much more turned on which translates into you actually fvcking her properly. For the girls who are more reserved and less horny, it really doesn't matter that much if she orgasms or not.

If you really want her to ***, eat her out or finger blast her.

Something else to consider is whether or not the woman you are with is all that into you or not. I think a lot of these stories where men complain about their sexual experiences with women being terrible are when there is no real "chemistry" between the two partners, which is basically just how attracted you are to one another. I'm actually convinced that a lot of these stories of men complaining really just come down to those women not being all that attracted to them. When a woman is into you, she's going to be way more invested into having a good time with you and should be aroused already. On the flip side, if she is luke warm at best she is in a place where she sees it as a chore or is maybe just going through the motions to see if she finds a "spark" somewhere lol.

I personally believe it's as simple as this, they are either are into you or they aren't.

 

[sangheilios]

Op, Statistics say 80% of women don't come from penetration alone. 10-15% never come. Truth be told, the cl!t is where the magic happens.

A guy can only do so much. It sounds like you are doing your part and have good awareness, and understanding.

Rub her cl!t while you are penetrating her. Or have her do it herself.

I had a girl once that only orgasmed once out of 30 times. I tried it all. She told me she only had one guy that could ever get her off on a somewhat regular basis. This chic also didn't get very wet. I suspect she was a frequent vibrator user which desensitizes women and makes it harder to ***. After a few months we broke up. I won't ever date another girl again that doesn't get wet and can't come. I don't know if it's me or not. Doesnt really matter. I see it as we just aren't compatible sexually.

My recent exgf needed some cl!toral stimulation to get off from time to time, She also refused to use a vibrator due to desensitizing issues it caused when she was previously married.

I think you have the correct mindset with this, in that you just say that you aren't "compatible" with these women instead of trying to decipher every little detail about the interaction or begin criticizing yourself.

As for that first woman, it sounds like there was something wrong with her, especially since she says that she had a problem with that......though with the assumption she wasn't lying to make you feel better lol. As I mentioned to @FlexpertHamilton I personally believe that a good chunk of this is the simply the women not being attracted to the men that they are with. However, it doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with the man in question. I'm sure there are some women that have some really weird emotional/mental blocks when it comes to sex or maybe have developed some very strange kinks or rituals needed in order to become aroused. The latter example there you could compare to a man who watches really weird porn that he can't climax without, say something like choking or other really weird **** that is out there.

 

[ez_slave]

Hi
I can advise a youtube chanel of one blogger, you can follow and maybe you will find smth good for you. There are also a Telegram channel, If you don't want to watch, you can read. Good luck.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She definitely can, you simply don't know how to make her.

 

[Mazer]

I dated a chick who couldn’t climax, turns out she was on some heavy meds for depression.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

My playbook
1) make out and fondle
2) tvtty time & finger for about 10 minutes
3) poundtown. Hard. Fast & deep.

Sometimes a girl will give me a 5 minute or so BJ as a warm up & then ride it.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Her problem, not yours. My ex and I had sex at least 2 times everyday for 12 months and she never came