She called at 3 am, hahaha now what?

[alldidas]

She called at 3 am, hahaha, should I tell her straight up that.....

Ok so I have been broken up with my gf for a couple of weeks now. She wanted to be friends and I said I dont do that. So I basically cut her off changed my cell # cause even though she would say I dont want anything serious anymore after being together for a year she would still call me and suck me back in. I called her like 7 days ago from my bros phone to ask her something, she wanted my new number and wouldn't give it to her. Didnt talk to her since then. Then last night like at 3 am she called my brothers phone (i told her it was my aunts house number before) and my brother said he didnt know where I was which was true cause he was sleeping the whole night. But anyways she said she needed to talk to me. My best bet is that she was drunk and wanted to talk to me probably cause she felt unwanted or something when she went out or her booty call wouldn't come through. But anyways the reason why I cut her off was because I knew she would try to talk to me to leave me on the back burner and probably start messin with other guys or soemthing and still talk to me at the same time. But I still love her and everything but Im trying to protect myself from getting hurt and jealous. I want to talk with her still and at the same time protect myself cause I dont like the feeling of just knowing whatever. Im a confident guy and I know I could pull girls but I kind of want to still have her in my life. So should I call her back and what should I say and get her back? If I talk to her again would it be good to say "I thought we were done, the only way I want you is as my gf (not a friend)..etc something along those lines. I dont feel like playing games I just want to be as straightforward as I can. If she says no thats fine too. I am willing to work things out though also.

 

[School]

I think you should follow your heart and not your fear......

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Poison Ivy. Everytime you brush up against it, you get a rash, it itches like hell and wont go away for weeks. Why would you keep going back to the same bush again?

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Why would you keep going back to the same bush again?

TO GET LAID???

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by School
I think you should follow your heart and not your fear......

LOL...Ummm don't listen to that shiat!!! Bro look at the facts:

-don't really trust your exgf because she's shady
-want to protect yourself from getting hurt

So what's the solution? Easy NO CONTACT!! And you made the best decision by changing your # because you know your not in a place where you'd be strong enough to resist her right now. You need time away from her if not permentantly at least for a few months so you can go work on yourself, go out with your bros and meet new byatches. Your emotionally vunerable right now and she can smell it!! Kinda like blood in the water for a shark!! Beware of shady exgfs!!! She's a wolf is sheep's clothing right now and she won't miss the chance to eat you up and tangle you in her web of lust.


MOVE ON!! Its hard but its what needs to be done and I KNOW you know that!


PIMP

 

[Julian]

Pimp-sicle speaks wisely.

 

[Jake-inator]

I agree, anything that says follow your heart is a bunch of crap.

Yes, lets throw away all rationale and just do what our feelings tell us. Hey guys we can be just like girls!!!

 

[frivolousz21]

well...if u can see her and **** her witout it bothering you..then do it!

 

[Lifeforce]

Originally posted by Jake-inator
I agree, anything that says follow your heart is a bunch of crap.

Yes, lets throw away all rationale and just do what our feelings tell us. Hey guys we can be just like girls!!!

What a bunch of crap! What's the reason for living if we don't follow our emotions? As long as we learn from the mistakes and don't make them again and again.

 

[frivolousz21]

if you follow ur heart..

make sure you understand what can and will happen

 

[Lifeforce]

Why care what can happen, if it does it does? Right? Let's deal with that when it happens.

 

[alldidas]

I actually live an hour away from her now I used to live like 5 mintues away

 

[00Kevin]

this girl is trying to use you as an emotional tampon.

Just keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with giving a girl a second chance. if you do let her back again, just be sure you lay down the law with this ho or you will become the "nice guy"

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by School
I think you should follow your heart and not your fear......

useless... when a woman doesn't respect you she won't give a damn about your heart. He nexted that girl for good reasons and he did it the right way.

 

[alldidas]

I think we kind of both nexted each other cause we needed time to ourselves stuff got out of control so we stopped everything. She is an AW but she is cool with me cause she knows not to fvck with me. But I wouldn't really mind if we got back together if stuff was like how it was before all the stupid stuff happened the lead us to break up. In the mean time I will look around.

 

[mapleleaf11]

i feel like writing cause i can relate at present, (almost exact same scenario) ...I look back and regret ****, but if "stupid stuff" happened to cause you to break up in the first place...i don't think you'd ever get the happiness back from that relationship...i know it's hard, but move on, chances are it will never be the same as it once was...even if you so-called "work things out". move on.... as hard as it can be.

 

[the_great_gaia]

ARRIVING FROM THE FUTURE...

My Name Is the_great_gaia.. also known as Mike.

I have come from the future to keep a situation from happening. Take my words carefully but make your own decisions, dig your own grave. I am only going to tell you what WILL happen.

She doesn't care about you like you do about her.

She's telling you things and doing these things to get you back because it repairs her ego. She feels as though she has every right to date and fvck anyone she pleases, but you're suppose to be a "gentlemen" and wait on her to realize she made a mistake and take her back. She's disrespecting you. She's using you. She's manipulating you. Maybe she was bored at 3am in the morning and decided to call you since she had nothing else better to do. She doesn't care about you. Don't think with your heart, because she'll think you're heart is a welcome mat for her to stomp dirt all over. That is what a heart is used for, right? Well, she thinks so. Having you under her control makes her feel better about herself.

There's no doubt that you cutting her off isn't affecting her because it is. But sooner or later, she's gonna try to sell you the story that she isn't affected by your absence. She is lying, indeed. It's killing her that the attention she once got out of you isn't there anymore.. she's so used to you being there that it's draining her that you possibly realized that YOU DON'T EVEN NEED HER ANYMORE. What she wants, like ALL girls want, is to be remembered. But you just act as if you don't know her, and she'll regret that she never even washed your boxer-draws. Trust me. She doesn't want to go thru this. Her attention is like a fix of crack, and she's a junkie. Oh sure, she can get anybody to give her attention or perhaps even FVCK her living brains out.. but she can't get YOUR attention, something she had no problem having for one year. She feels useless inside, she's lying to herself when she looks in that mirror and tells herself that she's happier without you. It's a lie. Girls will lie to themselves and believe it. You have urges to just call her sometimes, don't you? But guess what? If you ever give in, it'll never go your way; it'll go her way, and that's not what you want. She's playing mind games. She really doesn't care if you call her or not, she just wants to see if you'll do it. I swear she'll try to poison your mind with her lies and body language. I bet you never thought about how much practice she's getting on using this outstanding force of evil against you. Don't give in... you'll disappoint so many, including yourself.

*returns to the future..*

 

[undesputable]

Originally posted by spider_007
TO GET LAID???

getting back with this girl to get laid is not worth it....move on, dont even think about her, find a better girl.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by undesputable
getting back with this girl to get laid is not worth it....move on, dont even think about her, find a better girl.

I believe you should only want to get laid by girls that have earned your time. This one, clearly has not.

 

[npina]

emotions vs reason

why the clash? if your emotions tell you one thing but your logical mind tells you another you have to reconcile the 2. you do not blindly follow your emotions. what if you had a toothache but your emotions told you to skip the dentist cause you were afraid.

if your emotions tell you to go after the hiv positive chick cause shes so hot. your logical mind should stop you.

if your emotions tell you to go after the hot chick with the great personality then your mind should agree.

if your emotions tell you to avoid the fat chick your mind should agree.

the 2 should always be in line . if not there is a contradiction.