she broke up, finally confronted me.

[sadonomspa]

So after almost a month of not contacting me because she was "busy" at her overseas medschool, she tell me last Tuesday that she is not sure of what she wants and said it would be unfair to have me wait for her back in the states because she is so "unsure".

She use to be in a relationship with a woman for 4 years. Always gave me a different excuse as to why it ended. They seemed miserable together constantly trying to make each other feel like crap.

Soo now as I am talking to my ex she says her internet is spotty. So she tells me she learned a lot about herself and people and that will not work out.

I took the cool route and just said "okay" "yea it is messed up you never returned my calls or said thank you that I tried email and calling you for your bday but you never responded"

I basically agreed this is not how things should go down, so now the internet dies on her so she texts me "how does that make you feel"?. I just simply told her "thank you for telling me how you feel I really appreciate it" she responded "it was long over due"

So her internet goes back up an hour later and she just says "iam back". I did not respond, then the next day she messages me and asks "are you okay"?. I still did not respond. So later that night she changes her fb status to single and has a new pic of some girl and her hugging. I changed my status the next day.

Now its been 4 days and I refuse to go on her fb. She has not attempted to contact me either.

Part of me wants to talk to her but I know that will be wrong for my ego and sanity.

Iam on the hunt for other girls now but will that really help? Another thing that's messed up is if I found another girl and she tried to come back it would make me feel guilty(I know stupid).

She def has daddy issues and is manic. Takes a few diff meds to keep her adjusted. Any advice?

 

[betheman]

Oh come on now???? what the hell do you want from this?

you were never her priority, you werent even her preferred gender. she has messed you around and probably ate some rug at the same time (you didnt even get pictures). delete her FB and block her, she will onyl start messing with your head and you will be back here ina month asking "what should I do...."

this is a classic case of needing to go NC for your own sanity and wellbeing and not to even remotely attempt to get her back or get back at her.

do yoruself a favour man and learn to live without her and eventually forget her

 

[sadonomspa]

Thank you. I need to hear this.

 

[sadonomspa]

we always like to think our situation is unique but it really isn't. Nc it is.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

You messed up by getting in a relationship with a bisexual. What were you thinking? These girls can't even choose what gender they like. How are they going to choose what mate that like. Not to mention you guys went long distance too. What the hell were you thinking?

This girl straight up ignored you for a month! If my girl ignored me for more than an hour I would have been bounced. She better have a good reason too just for that one hour.

This girl was over their eating coochie while you were waiting by the phone singing some Brian Mcknight. Shame on you!

 

[sadonomspa]

Hahahah Brian McKnight. Yea I learned from this site after my bpd exwife that Bi girls are a big red flag.

I conciously chose to ignore this because I thought " oh this girl is different" " she says she's family oriented" " wanted kids with me" (later on).

Another flag was when she said she was taking head meds so she wouldn't be like her mom. That woman constantly berates her husband until he found out she was cheating and left her straight up. Its funny because her mom talks to me like nothing happened and that she was faithful and would have made it work.

You are right, I played with fire got burnt. Damn, you guys are right. If I have a situation which I have no experience I am coming here.

How is it that this is all the same story but different characters? Is this a flaw in modern society or is this just human nature? I know about "game" and "sh tests" but its ridiculous how amazingly accurate this forum is.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

This woman is selfish and can't give you the time of day or a 10-character digital response. She isn't worth anything man. I know in your mind you think she is--but EVERY action here indicates Low Interest and a lack of Concern for you. Go NC totally and remove this poison from your mind.

Brian McKnight would sing, "one your like a dream come true, two just want to be with you, three oh its plain to see this b1ch be fvckin' with me"!

 

[yuppaz]

Ya if she was actually in a relationship with a girl for 4 years chances are she is not great relationship material. Not being a **** but most of the lesbian / bi chicks I've known all had severe daddy / mommy issues and weren't quality for an ltr.

 

[sadonomspa]

Yea, I knew this was coming. I let it happen twice before and I should have just let her walk the first time.

Trust is over. Like trying to fix a mirror.

But the emotional torment is horrible. I thought this girl was a kitten compared to my crazy ex wife.

Not the case, I underestimated her. When I started showing feelings and not treating her like everyother hoe was when she changed.

I became her she became me. Need to dig up the oldself but with new principles again.

 

[sadonomspa]

Yuppaz, she doesn't even talk about or dad. She hates him. Yea the first thing she told me was "why don't ment stay with me for motr than two weeks, its their faults"..and that I was different yadda ya

 

[pinkfl]

Most relationships where one party goes to medical school ends up over within the first six months to a year. That's already working against you because the workload is incredibly intense and it's very hard to juggle a long distance relationship on top of it. My roommate is making hers work, but it's ONLY because both her and her significant other are very committed and secure with themselves (he has steady work and visits often, and she makes time for him whenever she isn't bogged down with exams).

She's moved on. Probably didn't want to cheat on you, so she decided to breakup with you first. Just move on. Take this time to improve yourself. Good Luck.

 

[sadonomspa]

Nah she was a bi**h about it. Constatly said I could come than said no.

She wasn't even nice about it. Or commited now that I look back, a year and a half wasted

 

[yuppaz]

Dude you need to be careful about who you have felings for. It's goos to remember that there are **** tons of good girls out there and sh*t tons of bad ones. Look for healthy, well adjustes queues regardless of itthey are hotor not. There are hot available and healthy women out there.

 

[sadonomspa]

Yea youre right.

She texted me last night wishing me a Happy Holiday to me and Fam. It's like she knew exactly what time we were going to have it.

I did not respond. My bro was there and said "if you respond be mentally prepared she might throw some emotional curve balls your way"

I am listening to everyone else on this, everyone else sees the crap. I need to listen to my gut again

 

[Purefilth]

Yuppaz, she doesn't even talk about or dad. She hates him. Yea the first thing she told me was "why don't ment stay with me for motr than two weeks, its their faults"..and that I was different yadda ya

Funny thing is she doesn't realise that SHE is the common denominator there.

That was the first red flag.
Translates to = (No men think im worth more than a pump 'n' dump)

So Mankinds general consensus there is true at least.

Next red flag = 4 years with another woman.
THIS IS HER PREFERRED GENDER - you'll never hit the same buttons that a girl did.

No contact / no response is def. the way to go - clean break, find some sluts and bang them while you screen thouroughly to find a decent girl.

 

[sadonomspa]

Yes, but why play more head games if you like girls? Wouldn't you want to shi*test the new girl you were with?
She use to always accuse me of being gay and said "id let you go because I can't compete with another man" so I am taking her advice, I can't compete w other women so why try and stay in my life?

No reason for head games, I haven't seen her in 6 months!