She breaks up with you and now hangs around with your friend

[jinda007]

common issue.
NOTE: She's a very JEALOUS and VENGEFUL PERSON


You dated this girl for a while, and while it lasted she seemingly liked you so much. Even your friends all attest that she truly likes you from their conversations with HER. But along the line, issues started coming up from no where....she says you're too proud, a two faced liar(and you can't figure any lie you told her)...totally misjudging you in every area e.t.c
I have a feeling she's scared i would cheat on her if she invests her time dating me in a LTR as she seems to want something serious(as she claims)
Long story short, she broke-up with me and we've not talked for weeks now. And being her type(indicated above), she's doing everything to try make me bitter .....she now hangs out with a particular friend of mine(who's married but dangerous ) that she knows i hang out with a quite a lot, deleted me from y-messenger and her facebook, and added same friend of mine. Before this, i chase her and tried talking with her, but she wouldn't give me a time to stand and talk with her...only accepted to talk over the phone...constantly saying she would only prefer that we just stay friends and nothing more than that(I disagreed to this).
So i decided to suddenly call her up and tell her it's cool we stay friends.....i sounded so happy over the phone when i was saying this....she sounded upset, and we've not spoken since then as i decided not to call her after then. After this, she deleted me from her facebook friends list(lol). Now, is it that she's angry that i got over her quickly or that i agreed to be friends with her so quickly despite the so much love i was professing i had for her. Was she expecting that i would keep chasing her?(another friend of mine that previously tried wooing her, but failed told me she's that kind of person...which i'm not so sure if she is)...but since then i've not had any form of communication with her.

Now, My friend tells me everything that goes on between them(at least he claims to do so....i trust no one ). I still have feelings for her, but they wane as the sun rises daily. This same friend of mine keeps telling me to get back to her, that we're ideal together...but i'm already drifting off.

My friend still thinks i have a chance of getting her back...despite her telling me for three straight times now that we can never be together again.
I'm wondering if i still have a chance at getting her back despite breaking the so-called 'rules of getting the ex-back back' we have all over the web(bcuz i believe those rules don't apply to all....as everyone and every situation is unique. So should i forget about her case cuz i have other options to play with, but despite that, i know i really like this girl cuz i suddenly lost all my insincere sweet talkings and game when i met her....and don't want to play with her(even though she has it at the back of her mind that i want to), and that we've broken up.

Also note: she would still pick my calls if i call her this instant.

Guys what do you think about this scenario?....

 

[goodfoot]

common issue.
NOTE: She's a very JEALOUS and VENGEFUL PERSON

Why do you want this girl?

 

[DonGorgon]

SHE IS A HO LIKE 99% OF ALL FEMALE HUMANS.. GET OVER HER AND IT... go get you at least 3 new F options... never rely on one female for Fs... cause she isnt relying on only you...

 

[Rounder]

Move on and don't look back.

 

[jinda007]

Why do you want this girl?

Bcuz asides those two things she's a very good girl...besides, i feel she's still young(22yrs old) and will outgrow those within a short while. I might be wrong though...reason why i'm seeking the opinion of you guys/gals(i know some r on here) who are outside my clouded head.

 

[Rounder]

Bcuz asides those two things she's a very good girl...besides, i feel she's still young(22yrs old) and will outgrow those within a short while. I might be wrong though...reason why i'm seeking the opinion of you guys/gals(i know some r on here) who are outside my clouded head.

Staying in a relationship because you think they will "outgrow" or "change" is absolutely idiotic.

You shouldn't be in a relationship hoping they will change somehow - you should take them as they are and want them as they are.

People just don't change - you're *hoping* she will and that will then make her your dreamgirl.

You can hope in 1 hand and crap in the other and see which fills first.

Move on.


And the funny thing is - lots of guys come here for advice and then want to argue their point, rather than just take the advice given to them. I think I did the same thing in my first few posts. I sure as hell know better now.

 

[Bluesteak]

First, dont trust the guy, hes most likely not telling you everything. Second, watch out for this b1tch she will try to make it as hard as possible for you.

 

[Bossman08]

Rounder is right. Your a fool if you put up with this crap. Honestly, I didn't even read past the part where you said she was a very jealous and vengeful person. That explained it all along with your thread title. The rest was useless details. You know what kind of person she is, you just want to keep getting the pvssy and your willing to sacrifice your balls to get it. Man up and let it go man. She ain't the only girl on earth.

 

[Mr Autobahn]

It sounds like you may be hurting a little... my suggestion is to never real that side to her. You know better to beg or cry. That will push her further way from you.

Having said all that, you should keep a line of communication open so she feels comfortable contacting you. Just say "Hi" and be open to small casual talks just to catch up on things...

But if she is the jealous and vengeful type... I don't know about that... it doesn't sound like a good person to make any long range plans over.

I have questions about the real agenda of your friend... he might be on the level and he might not... just be careful.

 

[jinda007]

Thanks guys. I appreciate all your pieces of advs. I definitely don't trust my friend who claims to be trying to fix things on my behalf, as i know before i started dating her....he also found her attractive, and if not for the fact that he is married, and knew i was making the move he would have probably made his own move(which he also said with his own mouth)....So i feel he might just be fancying his chance now since she now see's him as a close confidant.
And as someone said above he's definitely not telling me everything which i told him straight to his face that he wasn't.

Rounder, you're right that she aint the only girl, but you know that no matter how hot and suave a dude is..he always meets someone that makes him slip and appear helpless.....that's when you need your last sense or buddies to come fish you out of that drowning act.
And i'm not arguing with your advice....just letting you in more on how the situation is so you can give me the best advice you've got.


@Mr real2
I think the call after the breakup to stay friends really got her pissed as since then we've not spoken, and i decided not to call her any longer. I think that really hurt her back. And trust me, if our paths ever cross again to even date...i won't be treated like **** as i now know where i made mistakes on my path


@Mr autobahn

Thanks man. I really appreciate your advice. I actually made the mistake of showing her that i was hurting and i noticed she was happy about it...more like being happy that she got me in return. So i think when i called her suddenly( in the midst of the calls to to get-back-together) teling her it was ok that we stay just friends as she suggested feeling all happy and all...i think it further pissed her off that i claimed to love her and wanted to get back together so badly and i just threw it all away just like that....cuz i can remember her response was "just like that" and immediately asked that we talk Someother time....that was the last time i dialed her number.