She backed out at the last second!!

[Moe Szyslak]

So anyway I had a date with this girl for tonight and she called this afternoon and told me she had to cancel. She told me she was really tired and if it was ok with me she'd like to pass. It went something like this.

Her:Hey cutie how's your day going?

some small talk and then:

Her:I need to ask you a really important question.

Me: Ok shoot.

Her:I was hoping you wouldn't mind if I cancelled our date for tonight.

Me:Silent

Her:Moe are you there?

Me:Still silent

Her:Moe, hello you still there?

Me:I give her an pizzed off sounding uhuh.

Her:Listen I'm really sorry. I really want us to get together but I'm just really tired.

She starts to stutter by this point.

Her:We'll hook up next weekend and go to a movie okay? I do wanna get together with you so don't be mad.

Me:Ok that's fine, just give me a call when you get some free time in your busy schedule.


Her:Ok I'll talk to you later.

Now granted she has been working some really long hours, so was this just a test to see if I had a backbone. She seemed really interested up till now so I'm taking it since she counter offered that she is really just tired.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Originally posted by Moe Szyslak

Her:We'll hook up next weekend and go to a movie okay? I do wanna get together with you so don't be mad.

She counter-offered which is all that matters. I would give her the benifit of the doubt and 1 more chance.

 

[DEKKA]

Re: Re: She backed out at the last second!!

first off never sound like what a b!tch does phazes you in any way. don't give her the satisfaction. if she cancels shes either not interested or playing games. assume the latter. in which case you have to stand your ground and game her back.

in this situation as in life. NEVER SHOW EMOTION. it doesn't help your game. really you shoudn't give a flying sh!t if a b!tch cancels on you... thats what it all boils down to.

good luck playa

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: She backed out at the last second!!

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
She counter-offered which is all that matters. I would give her the benifit of the doubt and 1 more chance.

She didn't give you an explanation nor did she sound too apologetic. Plus her counter was lame because it wasn't specific.

It doesn't sound like her IL is too high. I wouldn't sit around waiting for her call, I'd make plans with another HB. If your girl wants to see you, she'll adjust her schedule next time.

 

[Ice Cold]

IMHO it was handled rather well.

You gave her the silent treatment which made her uncomfortable and therefore emotional. Emotions are good, she'll think about this for a long time.

She counter-offered quite specifically with a promise to hook up. So make sure you have rubber next time.

Take her up on her promise.

 

[Moe Szyslak]

Well the thing that blows me away is that she is the one who contacted me. She heard that I wanted to meet her and she did the rest. Unless I said something that pissed her off, I'm baffled. This article came to mind after this happened.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/persistence.htm

 

[TesuqueRed]

The two things I heard that stood out were that you sounded like a you had your feelings hurt (like a little boy) and that the counter-offer was lame.

I'm not saying this to be a dyck, I think that's what she's thinking and treating you like. Partly because your silent treatment and pissed-off sound comes across like that.

Next time that happens, just roll with it--it doesn't affect you, right? You're going to have fun that evening no matter what happens--with her on a date or with your friends shooting pool. Don't sound pissy.

And the counter-offer sounded like she thought you were acting like a hurt little boy and so she replied like people normally do when they have to break a promise to a kid -- "oh! but we'll go do something else next week, I promise! Don't be sad, there there little guy...are we still friends? Good! I knew you'd understand."

If I'm right--and I may not be--if someone treated me like that, I move on immediately and keep them at a long distance after that.