She asks you advice?

[SHChamp]

One of my plates has shown heavy signs of interest throughout the month, but I am sensing that she is starting to play games, by trying to get me jealous, or rather.. Trying to qualify herself, by mentioning things that appear her to be wanted.

Recently though, she pulled something off where I did not quite know how to respond to. She sent me a text conversation between her and some guy, and it's basically her blowing him off while he is chasing her.. obviously some beta orbiter.

And now she is asking me about my thoughts and if she was too *****y?

Now that I think about it, after typing this down, I sense it's another ploy to show me that she has guys chasing her and that she wants me to chase as well. Just not quite sure how to respond to it.

 

[Mike32ct]

Don't become her advice guy. It's not a good place to be. Women don't F (or don't continue to F) their advice guy.

Casually shrug and say, "I don't know." Then change the subject.

No doubt that may be a weak jealousy ploy. By casually blowing it off, you take away her power on this one.

 

[LMFAO]

Blow it off playfully and change the subject, something like you don't brag to her about all the girls chasing you. You don't want to give her any advice otherwise you'll be going straight into the motherfvcking friend zone (if you're not there already).

Also stop wasting your time via text and ask her out on a date.

Yes means yes, no means delete it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Recently though, she pulled something off where I did not quite know how to respond to. She sent me a text conversation between her and some guy, and it's basically her blowing him off while he is chasing her.. obviously some beta orbiter.

ive had this a few times and its usually a good sign she's extremely interested

act extremely vague towards it and start withdrawing attention towards her

soon her hamster will start spinning so quickly she will be texting you 4/5 times at once

 

[SHChamp]

So, quick update.

I responded by avoiding the subject, and telling her that I don't know, but I had some connections to Dr. Phil.

I continued by changing the subject, since I'm meeting her tomorrow I jokingly said "Are you going to be able to keep your hands to yourself tomorrow? " in which she completely blew up and overreacting acting all offended and ****. I find this quite hilarious, this, the girl that practically showered me with hints to come over to her place.

I responded by saying "I was joking around, but it's a real shame about that attitude. No worries though, I'll leave it at that." and I just went NC.

She responded by saying "Sorry I am really cranky, it's nothing personal. I am sorry if I put up an attitude, it wasn't my intention" I haven't responded since.

This **** behavior is really someting I am not going to accept from her, because I don't feel I need to. Bear in mind I have not asked her out yet, simply due to the fact that one of her friends happens to be one of my plates. But, I kept up the flirtatious contact so I could give it a chance if it did not work out with the other.


What do you guys think?

 

[JohnChops]

So, quick update.

I responded by avoiding the subject, and telling her that I don't know, but I had some connections to Dr. Phil.

I continued by changing the subject, since I'm meeting her tomorrow I jokingly said "Are you going to be able to keep your hands to yourself tomorrow? " in which she completely blew up and overreacting acting all offended and ****. I find this quite hilarious, this, the girl that practically showered me with hints to come over to her place.

I responded by saying "I was joking around, but it's a real shame about that attitude. No worries though, I'll leave it at that." and I just went NC.

She responded by saying "Sorry I am really cranky, it's nothing personal. I am sorry if I put up an attitude, it wasn't my intention" I haven't responded since.

This **** behavior is really someting I am not going to accept from her, because I don't feel I need to. Bear in mind I have not asked her out yet, simply due to the fact that one of her friends happens to be one of my plates. But, I kept up the flirtatious contact so I could give it a chance if it did not work out with the other.


What do you guys think?

Have you had sex with her yet? Also if her friend is your plate that isn';t going to go over very well. She wont bang you if you banged her friend. That is from personal experience, with 2 different girls.

 

[logicallefty]

In my AFC days I would fall right into this, giving her advice and sometimes becoming her shrink.. buzzzzzzzz! Wrong answer McFly.

Now days especially with a plate or a woman I haven't been with all that long, I would try to change the subject but if they kept prying about it and trying to suck me in the advice trap, I would say: "I'm sorry you are having so much trouble with X,Y,Z.. You don't deserve all that drama. At this time I think it would be best if I give you some space and let you get this situation sorted out. Whenever you are in a better position please get in touch with me and we will see where we are and go from there".

Very nice and polite, but also lets them know that you want no part of it and aren't gonna fall into the advice trap. All other posters are correct, once you go there you are a friend forever because you were "so nice" to take your time giving them advice... Forget it.

 

[SHChamp]

I haven't had sex with her yet, but I feel that is just a phonecall and some effort from my part away from happening. However, I have no idea how to proceed from here, she apologized, twice, but the attitude is just a big no-no.

Fair enough though, everyone has their **** moments so I don't believe I should punish her too much for it. I have not responded to her text yet, but I think I am going to leave it at that and then contact her tomorrow as if nothing happened and go from there.

Do you guys agree?

 

[SHChamp]

So, just an update for you guys to let you know how this ended up.

After her bad attitude, I responded (in a neutral fashion) that I wasn't amused by her behavior and from then on I cut off contact. The moment she noticed I was not going to chase her ass for an apology, she texted me twice, apologizing twice about how it was not her intention and that she was in a bad mood.

I chose to ignore this, because I was not interested in speaking to her at that moment. The very next morning, she tried texting me about random bull****, trying to get a conversation out of me. This I chose to ignore as well.

The next day she saw me, due to a group hangout. I chose not to give her any attention whatsoever, because again, I was simply not feeling like it. So, I was paying attention to all the other HB8's at the party, simply enjoying myself till the night ended. She kept trying to make eye contact, but I avoided this.

That next night, she called me.. she explained about how at that moment she got some bad news and due to built up emotions and that she vented it on me. I explained to her that respect is key, and that I am not here for her to vent her **** on me. At this point, she tried giving me some lifestory about why she got mad, but I explained that I am not here to be her therapist.

She agreed, said she missed me and that she is really sorry and is looking forward to seeing me again. I accepted her apology and left it at that.

Two-three years ago, if this same situation were to happen, I would have chased her ass with ME apologizing to her! Thanks for the advice guys, and yes, situations like these I have noticed you really need to stand your ground and best of all just put your focus on other prospects while her hamster goes into overdrive.

 

[Zarky]

Too much drama for a chick you haven't even banged yet.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I haven't had sex with her yet, but I feel that is just a phonecall and some effort from my part away from happening. However, I have no idea how to proceed from here, she apologized, twice, but the attitude is just a big no-no.

Fair enough though, everyone has their **** moments so I don't believe I should punish her too much for it. I have not responded to her text yet, but I think I am going to leave it at that and then contact her tomorrow as if nothing happened and go from there.

Do you guys agree?

"Theatricality and deception are powerful agents to the uninitiated"

Heard that line before, I'm sure? Zarky (above) is correct, but I'd take it further and say that this girl is too much drama...PERIOD. Make no mistake, girls like this are MASTERS at leading you to believe that you are a skip and a hop away from entering into the land of milk and honey. Don't fall for it. Even if you were to get it, she sounds like a total headcase, the classic "I'm soOooOo confused about, like, everything!!" type of nut. Seems clear to me that what she really craved from you was attention. Probably a compulsive liar to boot, and emotionally unstable. Kick this one to the curb.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

One of my plates has shown heavy signs of interest throughout the month, but I am sensing that she is starting to play games, by trying to get me jealous, or rather.. Trying to qualify herself, by mentioning things that appear her to be wanted.

Recently though, she pulled something off where I did not quite know how to respond to. She sent me a text conversation between her and some guy, and it's basically her blowing him off while he is chasing her.. obviously some beta orbiter.

And now she is asking me about my thoughts and if she was too *****y?

Now that I think about it, after typing this down, I sense it's another ploy to show me that she has guys chasing her and that she wants me to chase as well. Just not quite sure how to respond to it.

I've been down this very road before too. Attention-wh0ring 1101 to the core. In my case, the guy's second or third line to her after the initial "hey, what's going on?" was "DTF?" This girl, so so incredibly "disrespected" (as she claimed), proceeded to engage him for another 20-30 minutes, immediately responding to each of his texts "no, actually I'm NOT horny!", "what kind of girl do you think I am!?", "ugh! like I can't even!" If they come around and make it PERFECTLY CLEAR that they want to jump your bones, ok, sock it to her, but it's probably for the best that you steer clear from getting involved with this kind of drama-fiending trash.

 

[SHChamp]

I've been down this very road before too. Attention-wh0ring 1101 to the core. In my case, the guy's second or third line to her after the initial "hey, what's going on?" was "DTF?" This girl, so so incredibly "disrespected" (as she claimed), proceeded to engage him for another 20-30 minutes, immediately responding to each of his texts "no, actually I'm NOT horny!", "what kind of girl do you think I am!?", "ugh! like I can't even!" If they come around and make it PERFECTLY CLEAR that they want to jump your bones, ok, sock it to her, but it's probably for the best that you steer clear from getting involved with this kind of drama-fiending trash.

Now that I see this situation from an outside perspective, yeah, this is too much drama so early on. Not worth it at all, I have no intention of getting sucked into another abyss filled with drama and ****storms.

This type of chick is definitely no LTR material for me, but I have a feeling she's a good ****. So, I'll do just that and focus on my other prospects. Thank you.