Actually the last 2 girls ive dated always tell me that I am so mean to them. It has to be my C&F, i dont take it too extreme, its just constant. They tell me that they can never tell when im being serious or joking, so I tried to explain to them that im joking about 97% of the time. I said, "when im serious, youll know." yet they continue with "youre so mean to me" followed by a hit to the arm, pinch to the inner thigh (ouch) or slap on the stomach, etc. So should I just continue with being "mean" (which I think I should), or tone it down a bit? Obviously they keep coming back for more (cept for one of them, dont know what happened to her).
she always says "youre so mean to me" ??
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Starman
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ABSOLUTELY.
I had girls tell me this all the time..and then I would bust them on not having a sense of humor. They are trying to tame the beast in you..and once they do..they are gone. Keep them on their toes.
I had girls tell me this all the time..and then I would bust them on not having a sense of humor. They are trying to tame the beast in you..and once they do..they are gone. Keep them on their toes.
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I hear that all of the time. I've toned it down some if I toned it down alot I wouldn't be me.
Girls always say to me I don't know when your playing or your being for real. They also say I play at the wrong time. I also act sarcastic. Sometimes it works in my favor other times it doesn't.
What I learned is if you do it every now and again. If you do it 97% of the time it's way too much. That would really get on somebody's nerve. So if you just cut it down to every now and again you will see how girls start act towards you.
Girls always say to me I don't know when your playing or your being for real. They also say I play at the wrong time. I also act sarcastic. Sometimes it works in my favor other times it doesn't.
What I learned is if you do it every now and again. If you do it 97% of the time it's way too much. That would really get on somebody's nerve. So if you just cut it down to every now and again you will see how girls start act towards you.
She likes you despite your ****y attitude, not BECAUSE of it. If she's into you, she's into you. You don't have to bust her balls for that to happen. Just be yourself, have fun, enjoy each other's company. With every joke and smart a$$ remark you are damaging a little bit of rapport. How can you expect her to be comfortable with you if when she takes a chances and puts herself out there in conversation you make her feel bad about it. She likes you. If you don't want to stop teasing her because you like the way it feels for her to care about you and to want you to stop making HER feel bad, then you have an ego/self esteem issue. Work on that first because THAT is going to be the root of your problems, not that you're not "doing" ****y/funny correctly.
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Umbra
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I'm with Starman on this issue. I hear it all the time, and they smile, they laugh, and they take me home. It's an expression that girls use very frequently. It's one of the expression you WANT to hear unless she's crying or something while she says it. If she's laughing, you're ok.
Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Starman
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I think when a girl says "You are so mean to me!"
she isnt saying "Start treating me better!"
I think she is saying "You are so mean to me! do you like me or not?"
its almost a test to see how big of a wuss you are to bow down to her requests to be nice..and where do nice guys always end up?
she isnt saying "Start treating me better!"
I think she is saying "You are so mean to me! do you like me or not?"
its almost a test to see how big of a wuss you are to bow down to her requests to be nice..and where do nice guys always end up?
when she says youre so mean to me, i usually reply with something like "do I beat you up?" she replies "no" so I say "see If I was mean Id beat you up, and I dont". That makes her laugh. I wasnt about to tone it down, maybe less frequently, because I do have the ability to make a joke or c&f comment to anything and everything. I do mess around alot and I think thats why the last girl bailed. Oh well, met a new one today at work.
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A few of the girls I know get that look on their face when I say the right thing, then let me have it in the arm 
Golden example, this girl showed me her pictures from prom. She had a dress that exposed her shoulders and arms. She is a swimmer, so she's got a bit of muscle. I said "Wow Laura, your guns are bigger than Kurt's!" She says "OMG shut up!" half yelling half laughing and hits me in the arm.
Don't worry about it. If she has a smile on her face it can't be all bad.
Golden example, this girl showed me her pictures from prom. She had a dress that exposed her shoulders and arms. She is a swimmer, so she's got a bit of muscle. I said "Wow Laura, your guns are bigger than Kurt's!" She says "OMG shut up!" half yelling half laughing and hits me in the arm.
Don't worry about it. If she has a smile on her face it can't be all bad.
heres one of my examples: Im at work today, (im working a different shift now so i havent worked with her since I first started back in March) and this girl comes in to start her shift. She is very attractive, but pretty short, so I have to bust on her a bit. I walk up when no customers are around, and say "you look pretty bored" she says "yeah Im pretty tired", I said "well take a nap then, you could probably fit under there, I wouldnt tell anyone" as I pointed under her register. She said "shut up" and gave me that smile. I had her number a few minutes later.
My girlfriend calls me mean all the time also.
She'll say 'your a meany aren't you' I just look at her with serious look on my face and then she'll kiss me. Like mystik said women don't make sense.
A couple of weeks ago I tried a little experiment on her and stopped busting on her for a day and started being all nice to her.
The day after she asked me what was wrong the day before, she said I was all 'wishy washy'. I asked her if she'd like it if I was like that all the time?? In a joking way of course!! She actually admitted that she wouldn't.
She has told me that she doesn't like guys that are all nicey, nicey!!
She'll say 'your a meany aren't you' I just look at her with serious look on my face and then she'll kiss me. Like mystik said women don't make sense.
A couple of weeks ago I tried a little experiment on her and stopped busting on her for a day and started being all nice to her.
The day after she asked me what was wrong the day before, she said I was all 'wishy washy'. I asked her if she'd like it if I was like that all the time?? In a joking way of course!! She actually admitted that she wouldn't.
She has told me that she doesn't like guys that are all nicey, nicey!!
I get it all the time.
I pick my girl up from work once in a while.
She ALWAYS says (as soon as she gets in the car and checks her face in the mirror) "God I look awful today"
Me: "yeah, you've looked better" with a smile.
Her: "You are so mean"
Me: "you got that right!" still smiling...
And of course she smiles....I love it...
Of course don't bust on her looks if she doesn't have a sense of humor...
I pick my girl up from work once in a while.
She ALWAYS says (as soon as she gets in the car and checks her face in the mirror) "God I look awful today"
Me: "yeah, you've looked better" with a smile.
Her: "You are so mean"
Me: "you got that right!" still smiling...
And of course she smiles....I love it...
Of course don't bust on her looks if she doesn't have a sense of humor...
duke007
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Here are two of mine:
Girl: I have to be on time for acting class before the teacher locks the door.
Me: So you use up all your punctuality there, do you? (she's always late)
* Hot Indian waiting outside classroom before class starts*
Me: Why are you waiting out here?
Hot Indian: It smells like BO in there! I can't stand it
* I walk into room *
Me: Well it smells better in here than it does out there (the corridor)
She said "Hey!!" and opened all the windows. Those were the very first words i spoke to her. My presentation was that day - I kicked arse and she loved it!
Girl: I have to be on time for acting class before the teacher locks the door.
Me: So you use up all your punctuality there, do you? (she's always late)
* Hot Indian waiting outside classroom before class starts*
Me: Why are you waiting out here?
Hot Indian: It smells like BO in there! I can't stand it
* I walk into room *
Me: Well it smells better in here than it does out there (the corridor)
She said "Hey!!" and opened all the windows. Those were the very first words i spoke to her. My presentation was that day - I kicked arse and she loved it!
voodoolover
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Great to read through this thread, guys, as I've just been hit with the exact same dilemma.
To cut a long story short, I met a girl two weeks ago. Had her eating out of my hand after a week using pure C+F. She kept telling me how much she liked me, but how I didn't like her and was just using her etc. We were both having a great time!
Then, out of the blue, she suddenly doesn't answer my calls any more. When I finally speak to her, she tells me I'm too ****y, and she doesn't wanna see me any more. I say to her that she KNOWS I like her, and that I was only playing around - but she's made her mind up. And that's that!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. But I'm not entirely sure what to take from the experience, if you know what I mean.
Where do you guys think I went wrong? Was I genuinely too ****y? Or maybe she was testing me, and I failed by admitting that I was into her?
Any comments much appreciated, this one's spun me right over!
VL
To cut a long story short, I met a girl two weeks ago. Had her eating out of my hand after a week using pure C+F. She kept telling me how much she liked me, but how I didn't like her and was just using her etc. We were both having a great time!
Then, out of the blue, she suddenly doesn't answer my calls any more. When I finally speak to her, she tells me I'm too ****y, and she doesn't wanna see me any more. I say to her that she KNOWS I like her, and that I was only playing around - but she's made her mind up. And that's that!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. But I'm not entirely sure what to take from the experience, if you know what I mean.
Where do you guys think I went wrong? Was I genuinely too ****y? Or maybe she was testing me, and I failed by admitting that I was into her?
Any comments much appreciated, this one's spun me right over!
VL
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posted by juaneo
She'll say 'your a meany aren't you' I just look at her with serious look on my face and then she'll kiss me. Like mystik said women don't make sense.
couple of weeks ago I tried a little experiment on her and stopped busting on her for a day and started being all nice to her.
The day after she asked me what was wrong the day before, she said I was all 'wishy washy'. I asked her if she'd like it if I was like that all the time?? In a joking way of course!! She actually admitted that she wouldn't.
She has told me that she doesn't like guys that are all nicey, nicey!!
Read this whole thread again. Especially that last sentence above in bold.
This should tell you all something.
Number One:
The guys who have girlfriends and keep them, are always being accused by these girls of being "mean"
Number Two:
C & F works really well on women. It makes you just the right kind of challenge all the time without being an abusive jerk. And the best part is that it's a natural part of your personality as a man.
I just wanted to point out the fact that these guys all hear, "You're so mean". . . from their girlfriends. You never hear, " You're so nice" or " You so good at just being yourself."
Think about it.
She'll say 'your a meany aren't you' I just look at her with serious look on my face and then she'll kiss me. Like mystik said women don't make sense.
couple of weeks ago I tried a little experiment on her and stopped busting on her for a day and started being all nice to her.
The day after she asked me what was wrong the day before, she said I was all 'wishy washy'. I asked her if she'd like it if I was like that all the time?? In a joking way of course!! She actually admitted that she wouldn't.
She has told me that she doesn't like guys that are all nicey, nicey!!
Read this whole thread again. Especially that last sentence above in bold.
This should tell you all something.
Number One:
The guys who have girlfriends and keep them, are always being accused by these girls of being "mean"
Number Two:
C & F works really well on women. It makes you just the right kind of challenge all the time without being an abusive jerk. And the best part is that it's a natural part of your personality as a man.
I just wanted to point out the fact that these guys all hear, "You're so mean". . . from their girlfriends. You never hear, " You're so nice" or " You so good at just being yourself."
Think about it.
Hehe, keep up the C&F I say! C&F to the death!!
You guys read my bowling date post? Long story short, she was supposed to meet me at a bowling alley, but her friends decided to go to a different bowling alley, because it was "Special Night" at the bowling alley we were SUPPOSED to meet at.
"Special Night" is comprised of a bunch of mentally handicapped persons congregating and having a gay old time.
The chick that was supposed to meet me didn't have my phone number, and thus couldn't tell me about the changes, so I was stuck at the alley on "Special Night."
Well I called her back, ready to lay into her. I thought she had played a mean trick on me by stranding me with the "Special People."
Me: For a while I thought you were playing a trick on me.
Her: Haha, no, I'm not smart enough to plan out something like that!
Me: Yeah... I should have figured that.
*she laughs*
Me: You should have gone to Special Night! You would have fit right in!
*she laughs*
Her: You are so mean to me! And you're so sarcastic!
[Back to the present]
SCOOORE! This marked the first time any chick had ever told me that. Only 5 months ago, my one-itus was telling me how nice I was to her. I felt so relieved to hear this from her. Oh and there's more.
I pretended to be pissed at her and she said that she was REALLY sorry and that'd she'd make it up to me...by buying me a game of bowling or tying my bowling shoes.
I told her she'd do both and the velcro shoes don't count!
Man, she really cracked up!
She told me how bad she sucked at bowling and I busted on her for that too. I suggested that I help her with her form, and she responded veeery positively. I'm grinning as I type this
David D. is RIGHT ON THE MONEY with what he says in all those newsletters. C&F is magical. Don't try to analyze why it works; it just works! Accept it!
Also, I suggest visiting the the Appendices of the DJ Bible and looking up The Definitive Neg-hit Post.
You guys read my bowling date post? Long story short, she was supposed to meet me at a bowling alley, but her friends decided to go to a different bowling alley, because it was "Special Night" at the bowling alley we were SUPPOSED to meet at.
"Special Night" is comprised of a bunch of mentally handicapped persons congregating and having a gay old time.
The chick that was supposed to meet me didn't have my phone number, and thus couldn't tell me about the changes, so I was stuck at the alley on "Special Night."
Well I called her back, ready to lay into her. I thought she had played a mean trick on me by stranding me with the "Special People."
Me: For a while I thought you were playing a trick on me.
Her: Haha, no, I'm not smart enough to plan out something like that!
Me: Yeah... I should have figured that.
*she laughs*
Me: You should have gone to Special Night! You would have fit right in!
*she laughs*
Her: You are so mean to me! And you're so sarcastic!
[Back to the present]
SCOOORE! This marked the first time any chick had ever told me that. Only 5 months ago, my one-itus was telling me how nice I was to her. I felt so relieved to hear this from her. Oh and there's more.
I pretended to be pissed at her and she said that she was REALLY sorry and that'd she'd make it up to me...by buying me a game of bowling or tying my bowling shoes.
I told her she'd do both and the velcro shoes don't count!
Man, she really cracked up!
She told me how bad she sucked at bowling and I busted on her for that too. I suggested that I help her with her form, and she responded veeery positively. I'm grinning as I type this
David D. is RIGHT ON THE MONEY with what he says in all those newsletters. C&F is magical. Don't try to analyze why it works; it just works! Accept it!
Also, I suggest visiting the the Appendices of the DJ Bible and looking up The Definitive Neg-hit Post.