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At this point, it is sincerely difficult for me to give advice. The best I can do at this point, in my belief, is explain who I am and hope you can learn from it.
From my experience, information which is given to you on a silver platter will never be as remarkable as something you must enlighten yourself of.

I don’t do drugs; I don’t really have an interest to. Given, I smoke some pot here and there, and think of that what you will. I don’t have a girlfriend and I have no interest in getting one.

I started off years ago, I believe 3 to 4 years ago, to be more precise. I was no different than most of you are today.

A friend of mine, whose name is irrelevant, realized that I was a chump in dire need of some assistance. He recommended that I went to this website and read-up on how to attract women.

In the years that followed, I slowly became significantly more and more self-confident and popular.

I’m writing this with no plan for how this will go, so I am just going to point something out.

When people start telling you you’re arrogant, as they do to me now, consider it a compliment. When you are ****y and not deserving of such an attitude, they pity you and consider it a joke. No one will take an ugly man seriously when he says “I’m attractive”.

When you ARE attractive and you say “I’m attractive” people will in turn respond “You’re so conceited!” I’m not talking theory, I’m talking experience.

So if others aren’t calling you arrogant, either behind your back to your face – and you’re confident, you can rest assured that you’re confidence exceeds your abilities. Sound grim? Well I lived that way for a year.

People here say “be confident”, and I was. I’ve already written about this, I am aware – but **** you if you are that critical of my posts. I was so confident I was blind of my own inabilities. How does that quote go? “A man should know his limits”. Something like that.

DJing in my opinion is not about dumb things like “you are capable of all conceivable”. DJing should be “expand your boundaries”. Ignore anyone who says you can do anything possible, you’ve got limits just as I do.

Anyway, I indeed have learned a lot in my experience. Let’s see here…

I honestly don’t have much to say, because I don’t follow any plans or secrets or codes or anything of that sort. I don’t even have a concrete mindset. I’m a DJ, one who has expanded his abilities beyond most (in my utter arrogant opinion).

Umm ok.

Let’s say I see a hot girl walking in the hall. What do I say to her? Nothing. What do I have to say to her? Nothing.

What is self-respect? Self-respect is the most solid and concrete value a DJ will ever learn. Self-respect will make you insubordinate; self-respect will make you the envy of your peers who lack the quality. Self-respect is golden.

What is value? Value is essential to respect from your peers -- the more valuable you are, the more respect you shall gain.

Desperation is the antitheses of attraction. It’s been said before, and I’ll say it again because I’ve realized it in my own right.

Desperation directly is not necessarily the most primal factor in not attracting the ladies – it is the persona and behaviors that are associated with possessing the quality that are.

When you’re desperate, **** it, when you are intentionally out there because you feel that you necessitate a girl – you’re acting in a manner that will never be considered nonchalant. Relax, charm, smile – sounds like a good plan. What happens if you do all this when you’re desperate? This was the way I acted for quite some time, and I’m hoping somewhere inside of you, you already know this.

When you’re desperate, you’re aggressive. You are aggressive because you feel a need. A desire and a need are two different things completely; as I am sure you are aware. I desire a woman, not specifically, but I do not NEED a woman. Desperation and need are one and the same, so don’t think because you “need” a girl but are not “desperate” you are exempt from the rule. Necessity of a women and desperation will not attract women!

Fear of women does not exist. I consistently see people trying to help kids with their “fear of rejection” and “fear of approach” and so forth. None of this exists.

The only thing which exists is fear of self (and fear, as the only fear is fear itself :D). You fear for your ego. When a girl rejects you, you’re scared you’re ego will be tarnished. Removal of the ego is the easiest and most comfortable way to go about numbing yourself to “girls” (in reality, to you).

I’ve talked about how to go about removing your ego before, and I’m not sure to the degree in which I need to restate myself. I suppose I can be more specific as per the issue at hand.

Why do you care? Honest, simple question. I can already hear you little kids screaming “I don’t know why I care!! I just do!!” Shut up, you idiots – I don’t take that kind of bull**** like other people will.

I don’t know why I don’t care if a girl rejects me. Why SHOULD I care? It seems illogical. My ego isn’t hurt when a girl rejects me, for others it does – and for a reason.

Dependency. School teaches you that you must rely on another person’s approval to judge yourself upon. Don’t believe me? You have report cards, interims, midterms, and teacher’s letters. Self-evaluation does not exist, and is the fabric in which a DJ holds his value.

A DJ is separate from classroom theory in that you have self respect, dignity, and are able to evaluate yourself without dependency upon a figure falsely viewed as superior. Once you are sincerely capable of trusting your own evaluation, you will cease to care about your teacher’s judgment.

And with this comes what? A distinct lack of apprehension for what a girl thinks of you. Why should you care? You shouldn’t, and you are completely aware of that. I am that way, and it has made things a world easier.

An AFC cares what a girl thinks of him, he is dependant on her opinion – just as his teachers. A DJ disregards both, and realizes the only valid unbiased opinion is his own.

Seems like I’m going off on a limb here? Putting a lot of new ideas into one piece? It’s been awhile since I’ve posted some advice, and all I have been doing is advancing the state of DJ I am in – mentally and physically.

I shall admit my own weakness, as I feel it would be a disservice to do otherwise. Currently, I am an overly defensive person. I want to crack the skull of anyone who looks down upon me. Is it my ego feeling like its being harmed? No. I could not careless of others opinions.

Why I am defensive is because I feel it is my defensive duty. I feel like I am in hostile territory, and the only way to hold my respect with my peers is with my value. My value would diminish if I allowed someone to tear down on it.

Let go of your ego and acknowledge your value. Your value is what other people’s egos interpret your significance as. It would be a beautiful world where there was no ego, a world which simply DOES NOT exist and most likely never shall.

I have no interest in learning any new principals or theories on attracting girls. I know what to do, how it is done, and principals and rules are for those who can’t use their own logic.

An idiot who learns math rules can do complex math problems remembering “Two negatives make a positive” (or something) whereas the real math mathematician knows the logical mathematical algorithm for how something works.

Being an ******* and being nice to those you want to feel ‘special’ is a good trick. Rarity is the most essential value, never forget it.

I’ll continue this when I feel like it. I wrote a lot more than I usually do I suppose. We’ll see where I am in six months, I can’t wait.
 

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This is fuccing bomb ass post i dunno why people are sleeping on this.

Good work man, Kind of long and i think you should have given the little sections or topics there own bolded out titles ala Bible style.
 

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very nice post smooth.


work on not caring so much about what other people say about you tho man, even if it is negative, so what?
 

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Great post dude :)

I myself am trying to rid myself of the ego... but it is so hard. I pump myself at home and everything, but when i get to the 'battlefield' some **** slips through and i begin to 'care' and worry about what others are thinking about me again.

But I am determined, I shall rid myself of this ego, and all bull****s tought to me by society. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
People here say “be confident”, and I was. I’ve already written about this, I am aware – but **** you if you are that critical of my posts. I was so confident I was blind of my own inabilities. How does that quote go? “A man should know his limits”. Something like that.
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I see more and more people catching on to this one and this is exactly what this site was missing before. Ever since I realized it with my post "the truth about confidence," it's taken 150% of my focus. All the external stuff is ABSOLUTELY nothing without the internal stuff.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Smooth thanks for opening my eyes a little wider once again..
 

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Pook has been preaching mindset all along.

That's what it's all about.
 
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