Sharing Your Location Is Major Insecurity!

[soulforge]

So was watching a crime documentary last night and it was about this couple in a LTR.

Anyhow I noticed that both on a daily basis have a rule of sharing their location, so they both know where the other is going.

I also noticed that this is becoming common practice in relationships.

What's your thoughts on this? Is it best to know exactly what you're chick is doing?

Personaly I think a dude is super insecure if he needs to monitor her daily.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

To follow your partner 24/7 is simply not healthy. I get the safety concern but in reality, it often turns into controlling and possessive behavior. And ultimately it will be detrimental to your mental health.

I think there is a subconscious (or sometimes conscious) agenda about sharing a location. So the excuse would be something like: "I do this because I am protecting you and care for you".

This is a practice I often encounter when dating women. They share their location with their friends (and sometimes family) and I respect that. I just think among a relationship this can be more on the unhealthy side than the caring/safety side.

To your question, it is never healthy to HAVE to think about anything. That is compulsive/toxic behavior. If you need to know what your girl is up to and it affects you mentally and emotionally then there is an issue.

If you ever happen to find yourself in a situation where you are in a constant state of mental torture, stop, reconsider, and realign.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I once had a GF that shared her location with me 24x7 of her own accord. She said it made her feel safer, knowing that I could find her should anything ever occur - she drove a lot for a living.

 

[soulforge]

To follow your partner 24/7 is simply not healthy. I get the safety concern but in reality, it often turns into controlling and possessive behavior. And ultimately it will be detrimental to your mental health.

I think there is a subconscious (or sometimes conscious) agenda about sharing a location. So the excuse would be something like: "I do this because I am protecting you and care for you".

This is a practice I often encounter when dating women. They share their location with their friends (and sometimes family) and I respect that. I just think among a relationship this can be more on the unhealthy side than the caring/safety side.

To your question, it is never healthy to HAVE to think about anything. That is compulsive/toxic behavior. If you need to know what your girl is up to and it affects you mentally and emotionally then there is an issue.

If you ever happen to find yourself in a situation where you are in a constant state of mental torture, stop, reconsider, and realign.

I totally agree with this.. I mean if I was in a relationship and I had to track the girl like this, then obviously there are reasons present in the LTR for me to not trust her.

It's better to avoid a relationship like this.

 

[soulforge]

I once had a GF that shared her location with me 24x7 of her own accord. She said it made her feel safer, knowing that I could find her should anything ever occur - she drove a lot for a living.

That was very trusting of her, and I suppose it's a good reason too as if she is traveling alot, it's a good safety precaution

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

That was very trusting of her, and I suppose it's a good reason too as if she is traveling alot, it's a good safety precaution

Yes, I probably should've tied that one down. She was a sweet trusting soul.

 

[jnMissouri]

So was watching a crime documentary last night and it was about this couple in a LTR.

Anyhow I noticed that both on a daily basis have a rule of sharing their location, so they both know where the other is going.

I also noticed that this is becoming common practice in relationships.

What's your thoughts on this? Is it best to know exactly what you're chick is doing?

Personaly I think a dude is super insecure if he needs to monitor her daily.

Is it insecure to put a tracking device on your Lambo too? How about an alarm on your house? Would you let your gf go on a cruise with a bunch of Chad male friends, because it's insecure not to? My gf's usually share their location with me because they want to know MY location and admit they worry I'm out with other chics because they think I'm an fboy. I have no issue sharing my location, I haven't cheated in a relationship for a while, kinda grew up and realized it's really bad, after I hurt someone I should have been with for life. Now I'm stuck in endless **** relationships and dating.

Insecure would be things like oh that guy must be better than me, blah blah blah.

Her making sure you're not doing anything and you her, isn't insecure. You're making sure things are not so relaxed that she can get away with things....frankly I think more couples should do this. Lot's of beta males who think stuff like this is insecure because they've been conditioned so by women who tell them they are insecure if they can't have male friends, take a cruise with a male friend, lust after other guys in front of them, only to find their wife sucking off the best man at their wedding. True story.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Rule #2 of the fightclub: dont listen to what she says, look at what she does

In situations when something smells and you cant kick a woman out of your life just like that, you will want to make sure whats going on in a discrete way.

If slapping that GPS-tracker on a car is insecure, you basically have to wait for her telling she cheated on you.

While i wouldnt have an agreement like OP posted, id rather be called insecure then a cuck.

 

[Gamisch]

I've worked for for an older couple(65+) and they also tracked each others movements. Whenever the man was on the road she could easily tell where he was how long would take ect. It was rather romantic and lovely than creepy or crazy.

So it depends. In a ideal (NORMAL!!!) relationship this isn't a problem. Soon as something's off, it will magnify the issues. Same with lets say double texting. In a normal healthy relationship double texting is never a problem. Or saying goodnight and good morning. Or buyjng flowers for your girl and telling her she's beautiful. Or saying you had a fecked up day and you wanna vent for a second. I can go on and on.

Only when you deal with or are part of a toxic relationship all these small and silly rules suddenly matter.

 

[soulforge]

Is it insecure to put a tracking device on your Lambo too? How about an alarm on your house? Would you let your gf go on a cruise with a bunch of Chad male friends, because it's insecure not to? My gf's usually share their location with me because they want to know MY location and admit they worry I'm out with other chics because they think I'm an fboy. I have no issue sharing my location, I haven't cheated in a relationship for a while, kinda grew up and realized it's really bad, after I hurt someone I should have been with for life. Now I'm stuck in endless **** relationships and dating.

Insecure would be things like oh that guy must be better than me, blah blah blah.

Her making sure you're not doing anything and you her, isn't insecure. You're making sure things are not so relaxed that she can get away with things....frankly I think more couples should do this. Lot's of beta males who think stuff like this is insecure because they've been conditioned so by women who tell them they are insecure if they can't have male friends, take a cruise with a male friend, lust after other guys in front of them, only to find their wife sucking off the best man at their wedding. True story.

I don't totally disagree with you. I mean there is some merit to knowing exactly what you're chick is upto.

However I can see problems arising from this too.

Rule #2 of the fightclub: dont listen to what she says, look at what she does

In situations when something smells and you cant kick a woman out of your life just like that, you will want to make sure whats going on in a discrete way.

If slapping that GPS-tracker on a car is insecure, you basically have to wait for her telling she cheated on you.

While i wouldnt have an agreement like OP posted, id rather be called insecure then a cuck.

I understand what you're saying. However imagine how that conversation would go in an LTR

Hey babe I don't quite trust you, when you're out and about, my mind starts racing thinking that you are out taking diks.

From this point onwards I need to track your movements. How would that go down?

 

[Ricky]

There was a Black Mirror episode where the mom tracked the girl since birth…

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I don't totally disagree with you. I mean there is some merit to knowing exactly what you're chick is upto.

However I can see problems arising from this too.


I understand what you're saying. However imagine how that conversation would go in an LTR

Hey babe I don't quite trust you, when you're out and about, my mind starts racing thinking that you are out taking diks.

From this point onwards I need to track your movements. How would that go down?

This is not for every situation.

If it is just a chick you have been with for a year, just call her out and either she will correct the behaviour that disturbs you or she confesses and you walk away.

If you have ties, marriage or living together, id go for a more covert approach (GPS, audio recorder, cams) with no warning to the suspect.

As Tuco said: "When its time to shoot, shoot. Dont talk."

 

[soulforge]

This is not for every situation.

If it is just a chick you have been with for a year, just call her out and either she will correct the behaviour that disturbs you or she confesses and you walk away.

If you have ties, marriage or living together, id go for a more covert approach (GPS, audio recorder, cams) with no warning to the suspect.

As Tuco said: "When its time to shoot, shoot. Dont talk."

You mean spy on her? Well yeh if I am married or living with a woman then yeh I'm keeping a close eye on her.

It's better to find out the ugly truth than to be cucked by her.

How in a LTR in order to share locations, then that is a conversation that would have to be had with her? And an agreement.

 

[jnMissouri]

Especially if your intention is to marry, you better have access to her phone, social and GPS location. I know mine all want mine.