Sexual Intent?

[Packers2010]

hey hows it going?

I have a long winded set last night that I was wondering if I could get some clarity on it.

I went out to the club with some friends last night for a friends birthday. I haven't been gaming in a good 4 months and I had NO desire to game that night either. ( I game sober, I was drunkish. not slurring my words but I had a good buzz) I was talking to my friends when I turned to the girl next to me and started talking to her ( she wasn't in our group)

she was a cute redhead and liked music so we started talking to her about all the bands we liked and thing. the set went well and I was up in on her for most of it. she pulled away and I pulled her back into me, things like that. I'd say she was drunk but not THAT drunk.

anyway, after awhile, she said she had to go find her friends. ( me being drunk and an idiot, thought the set was over). Before she left she gave me a kiss on the cheek. I looked at her and said. " that was ****" so she kissed me on the lips. At this point, I figured I better number close. I told her we would catch up and listen to some records sometime. I asked for her number and she put it in with no hesitation. I gave her then " this better be your number line" when I called her and it was the wrong number. ( i put this down to her being drunk lol)

she told me her real number and I called her to confirm it. ( she showed me her phone) after that, she gave me a big hug and I spanked her ass and told her to get out of her.

My question which stems from this set is: I think she got bored. It just seemed to me like at some point I bored her and she didn't like me anymore. I also felt ( looking back at the set with hindsight) that I didn't have enough sexual intent. I didn't communicate effectively that I was into her.

I put this down to mostly not being there not to pick up, being drunk, but ultimately it stems from a time when I was 15 and had a girl who told me she was pregnant and I sexually abused her. ( which at the time was a huge lie, though it still has an effect on me today)

what would be the best way to convey sexual intent? I did drop a lot of sexual innuendo and things like that. ( was telling me she would **** steven tyler lol)

also, what would be the best way to get over the past? I feel like it's holding me back when I game like I'm not giving myself permission to SHOW intent to this girl, like I'm not allowed to like someone, or want to have sex with them.

it's like I was all over the girl, but when I'm talking with her, I come off as bland and not into her. I know it's a response I have. it's like I'm self-sabotaging myself.

I did text her the old. " hey was nice to meet you hope you get home safe" text, but I didn't hear anything back.

so I might text her later ( seems like a dead end though I don't know)

thanks for replying.

Luke

 

[lizardking82]

Mistake 1: texting her "hey, I hope you get home safe". No, don't do that again. That's a very feminine like message. You take her number, you go on about your stuff for a couple of days and then you give her a call, no longer than 2-3 minutes. You already have a date, time and place in mind and they are fixed. You tell her that. If she flakes, **** the ***** and her attitude. You move on. If she doesn't flake, well, you got yourself a date. It is not a crime and there is nothing wrong with showing sexual intention, just stop doing it in such a "daddy" way (slapped her ass and told her to get out of here). Personally, I woulda slapped her ass anyways, but would tell her "Imma go have some more fun now, bye bye, sweety". And on you go.

 

[Packers2010]

Mistake 1: texting her "hey, I hope you get home safe". No, don't do that again. That's a very feminine like message. You take her number, you go on about your stuff for a couple of days and then you give her a call, no longer than 2-3 minutes. You already have a date, time and place in mind and they are fixed. You tell her that. If she flakes, **** the ***** and her attitude. You move on. If she doesn't flake, well, you got yourself a date. It is not a crime and there is nothing wrong with showing sexual intention, just stop doing it in such a "daddy" way (slapped her ass and told her to get out of here). Personally, I woulda slapped her ass anyways, but would tell her "Imma go have some more fun now, bye bye, sweety". And on you go.

thanks, man. I only texted her cos I've had success doing so same night. she did reply to my text yesterday, but when i asked what she was doing for easter she didn't reply. will hit her up again tomorrow like nothing happened.

 

[devilkingx2]

it sounds like you did a pretty good job to me

 

[Krueg]

What are you crazy!? You cant text her the same night, you come off as being needy! This is basic stuff, you gotta wait a couple days and call her for the date. Maybe you had success in the past with a Hor, but they spread their legs for anyone!

 

[Packers2010]

it sounds like you did a pretty good job to me

thanks man... i texed her on sunday and se replied once. i texted her after that and nothing. I text her to come over on Friday (shouldn't have done that but it's done one. should have warmed her up first then hit her with it.) and she not responding. so. might text her again friday and see whats up.

have no idea why she is flaking. all i did was ask her if she had any planes for easter

 

[devilkingx2]

thanks man... i texed her on sunday and se replied once. i texted her after that and nothing. I text her to come over on Friday (shouldn't have done that but it's done one. should have warmed her up first then hit her with it.) and she not responding. so. might text her again friday and see whats up.

have no idea why she is flaking. all i did was ask her if she had any planes for easter

That's what women are like, they flake for no reason and give their number to people thry don't want to speak to

 

[Glassguy]

I do the "let me know you made it home safely" text after an actual date if I am into the chick or if I banged her......for obvious reasons.

Never on a chick that I just got a number from.

She has your hamster spinning when it should be the other way around. The only thing you do now is nothing......if she is interested and she feels as though you are going the other way she will text you.

If not, no big deal.

 

[unknowncitizen]

The fact that she replied at all is a miracle and I feel as though you made a huge mistake asking her what she's doing for Easter...something happening in a week. That and the "hope you got home safe" text indicate low sexual interest from you and more of a friend vibe, something that is usually impossible to come back from.

 

[Packers2010]

That's what women are like, they flake for no reason and give their number to people thry don't want to speak to

yeah... i'm 27 now man... like i have no time or patience for this **** any more. just come out, lets have a good time. you know?

 

[Packers2010]

I do the "let me know you made it home safely" text after an actual date if I am into the chick or if I banged her......for obvious reasons.

Never on a chick that I just got a number from.

She has your hamster spinning when it should be the other way around. The only thing you do now is nothing......if she is interested and she feels as though you are going the other way she will text you.

If not, no big deal.

yeah, I guess i'm just pissed cos she is hot and into music something i like...

also, I'm not really going out and looking. mostly i've been trying to work on other areas of my life and my wing is on night shift right now so.

 

[Packers2010]

I do the "let me know you made it home safely" text after an actual date if I am into the chick or if I banged her......for obvious reasons.

Never on a chick that I just got a number from.

She has your hamster spinning when it should be the other way around. The only thing you do now is nothing......if she is interested and she feels as though you are going the other way she will text you.

If not, no big deal.

yeah, I guess i'm just pissed cos she is hot and into music something i like...

also, I'm not really going out and looking. mostly i've been trying to work on other areas of my life and my wing is on night shift right now so.

The fact that she replied at all is a miracle and I feel as though you made a huge mistake asking her what she's doing for Easter...something happening in a week. That and the "hope you got home safe" text indicate low sexual interest from you and more of a friend vibe, something that is usually impossible to come back from.

hmmm.. i didn't realize it what that bad? i won't do it again i guess but i'm sure i saw rsd brad ( or someone) do it ahwile back. ( it's been awhile since i got a number so my text game gunna be off)

why is it a bad thing to ask what she is doing for easter? it is this weekend and it is a relevant topic. i guess she just wanted my validation?