Sexual activity but no real sex.

[Doc Holliday73]

I met this 28 YO girl 5 months ago. We have had sexual activity, about 7 times, including me kissing her breast, she giving me a BJ more than once, about 3 times. We have even gone into motel. I have even masturbated her as she got totally nude while I was driving at night on the highway.

She started to play hard to get about 3 months ago.

Im a married man and she says she doesnt want to be just my lover but she wants to be the real thing. Eventhough she says that she still let me taste her breast last sunday night, but again no sex.

She called me last Sunday and then on monday (late at night around 1020pm) and then she returned me a call on thursday. Im mentioning this since I think no woman calls you if she is not interested.

Last time we spoke/txt was friday as she is on hard to get mode again.

What should I do to finish the job. I think she likes me a lot, but I also think she is very proud of herself and she is not willing to give up that easy.

She has stated very clear more than once that she is not willing to share me with my wife, she wants me with her and only her. In other words, looks like she is saying if you dont get divorced, you dont get to taste me completely.

On the other hand she is always busy when I ask her out and lots of times doesnt answers my calls. She also takes her time (20-40 minutes) to answer my text messages on Whatsapp.

Need directions here please, on what to do.

Does this sexual activity translates into a very strong interest?

Should I stay away and let her look for me?

What are my chances to get this girl as a lover if I dont do as she says?

 

[bigneil]

As someone who has passed up a handful of golden opportunities with married women I don't respect someone asking for advice on how to cheat in a public forum.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Screw that, To each his own.

Listen brother, I know your married but even being married you need to make sure that your game is crisp. You have known this girl for 5 months and you never even hit it? This is what I like to a call a tease. This girl is teasing you and boosting her ego while she is with the next dude.

Regardless of whatever reason she says if she wanted to have sex with you she would. Girls run off emotions. It's not because you have wife, but it's because your slipping on the pimping. The best time to have sex with a girl is within 3 days of chilling with her. If you do not get it after those 3 days then it is less likely that you will actually have sex. You gotta think with your third eye. What is this girl getting from messing with you? Because it is certainly not your game.

This girl is using you for an ego boost while she is getting plowed through with some other dude. This explains all the flakiness and distance. I know your a married man but still make sure you game is crisp.

Peace,

Pretty Boy

 

[Doc Holliday73]

Keeping me around for 5 months just for ego boost?

Would you do that with a girl?

I think that doesnt add up. After a month she would have said........enough, bye bye.

And there is no reason for any sexual activity to take place if she was using me for ego boost.

 

[SoSuave666]

You should be the man you promised your wife you would be. I have been a poster on this forum for a very short time but I think the idea is how to become the best MAN. If you lack respect for your wife or girlfriend, get out of it. Respect the woman the way we, as men, wish to be respected by them. You only have to answer to the mirror--I hope the answer you get is self-promoting, because your actions sicken me. What is a man without his word?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Keeping me around for 5 months just for ego boost?

Would you do that with a girl?

I think that doesnt add up. After a month she would have said........enough, bye bye.

And there is no reason for any sexual activity to take place if she was using me for ego boost.

Hi.

Im not answering you on the forum because it seems as if my married condition has not been well received.

What does slipping on the pimping means?

Can I make her chase me?

What can I do to make her start looking for me and actually have sex with me.... If there is still a chance.

I have stopped contacting her since friday trying to send her a message. Is there anything else I can do?

Please try not to be sarcastic. I lost control of the situation. Im trying to get some control confidence back and I think Im doing Ok. Not sure if Im getting something out of it.


Thanks

Girls will keep guys on the teams for years at a time just for an ego-boost. What you must do is make her chase you. See the game is simple to me. Girls are meant to do the chasing, not guys. You must let her choose you.

But in your situation. You need to make her sh!t or get off the toilet. Be able to walk away. A man having any type of relationship with a female ongoing 1+ month without sex is unpredictable. Just come up to her and say that your feeling her and that you know she is feeling you. Say that yall need to hookup and see where it goes from there. Be ready to walk away though!

 

[Doc Holliday73]

I know the game should be played the other way around. she should be the chaser.

That's why I'm walking away right now. in fact I vanished since Friday in a desperate act trying to leave her clueless and make her chase me. Problem is I'm not sure if that alone is going to work. I hope it does.

Do you have any other suggestion?

I have already told her wharf you suggested, that I feel her and I know she likes me.

If you have any other suggestion different than vanishing until she starts doing the chasing in case she ever does, let me know to take it into consideration.

Thanks.

 

[nismo-4]

Screw that, To each his own.

Listen brother, I know your married but even being married you need to make sure that your game is crisp. You have known this girl for 5 months and you never even hit it? This is what I like to a call a tease. This girl is teasing you and boosting her ego while she is with the next dude.

Regardless of whatever reason she says if she wanted to have sex with you she would. Girls run off emotions. It's not because you have wife, but it's because your slipping on the pimping. The best time to have sex with a girl is within 3 days of chilling with her. If you do not get it after those 3 days then it is less likely that you will actually have sex. You gotta think with your third eye. What is this girl getting from messing with you? Because it is certainly not your game.

This girl is using you for an ego boost while she is getting plowed through with some other dude. This explains all the flakiness and distance.

Read this again!!!

Women withhold sex, as that's their best weapon for men, and they know that all men want it.

Women want what they can't have. Don't be too available.

 

[Doc Holliday73]

Got the idea.
As I mentioned I vanished since Friday.
I have not texted nor called her since.
She leaves the country tomorrow on a one week trip with her family. so I won't be able to communicate even if I wanted.

Something that is not clear to me is... how unavailable should I be. I suppose I shouldn't call her before she leaves. right?

When she comes back should I get in touch? or should I let her make the first move even if it takes a few weeks for her to get in touch?

 

[yuppaz]

I don't respect you as a man who is married trying his absolute best to try to cheat on his wife. Nor do I respect those helping someone consciously attempting to cheat on his wife. You need to grow up and get some moral fabric in your life, what you are doing is very immature and immoral. If you want strange ***** so bad you should just get divorced.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

My definition of no contact. Don't text/call her until she does first. If you see her in public be nonchalant.

Go No Contact!

 

[ananursing]

You should be the man you assured your partner you would be. I have been a poster on this forum for a very little while but I think the idea is how to become the best MAN. If you lack regard for your partner or girlfriend, get out of it. Respect the woman the way we, as men, wish to be well known by them. You only have to react to the mirror.I wish the reaction you get is self-promoting, because your actions sicken me.

 

[Doc Holliday73]

Kind of lost here.
This girl actually invited me to lunch last WWednesday. got to admit that the previous week I told here that we should go out more frequently.
She told me on Friday (last week) that we could do that. I called her on Tuesday we spoke for 10 minutes and she hung up after that. I didn't mention anything about going out. next thing I know she calls me the next day 1240pm and asks me if we could get together for lunch. We went out and spent 3 hours together. she was OK ...no hurry. very relaxed. I called her on Friday ... short call. now she has vanished. no text msg no calls. Does a woman not interested on you would call to make a date? Of course not. But I'm still trying to figure her out. Why does she comes and goes like tides. I have noticed a patern of 19-23days of our dates. that's around 3 weeks between dates. not sure why is she doing that. I'm taking it as a pressure measure she is trying to put on me. like.... if you don't do what I want you to do, you only get to see me every 3 weeks.

 

[spartanfan]

Doc you are just plain sad and you need to go to a doctor to get your head examined!!! Would you be ok if your wife was on another forum doing the same thing you are and asking people how can I cheat with another man to get back at you? I would hope the answer is no but if its yes I think you need to get a divorce period end of story.... :kick:

 

[ezio]

As much as i have zero reservations about chasing a chick with a bf marriage is a totally different ball game. This is your wife you're trying to cheat on. the same person you exchanged vows with and swore to be faithful to.smh

 

[MM92]

Why did you get married? I hope your wife finds out and chops your balls off.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

This girl is using you to stroke her ego. When she is bored and needs some company/attention she hits you up and you agree to everything. You need to just drop this girl completely because she does not respect you. If she respected you as a man she would hit you up more. This girl is obviously using you. She doesn't really like you. She likes the attention. Drop her and spin more plates and make sure your game is crisp so this won't happen again.