Sex Trouble

[slayer6787]

Me and my gf have been together a couple months now and have both expressed a wish to have sex with each other, which at first I thought was great. However, it's not been such smooth sailing from there. Foreplay will go great but then when it comes the time to move to sex she gets nervous about it and won't go on.

Is there anyway that i can help to alleiviate her fears? Or will i just have to remain patient?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Make sure your foreplay is good. What does it consist of? Once that's good just tell her you're going to go really slow and be careful. When she stops you, what does she say?

 

[foomee]

tease her by using her imagination. girls are very imaginative. just talking about sex can turn them on. you can try things like "imagine how good it'd feel inside you".
some girls get really turned on by watching porn. if she's "grossed out" tell her relax its ok, or tell her a buddy of your's sent you this and said it was funny. then turn it on and act like you can't find the funny part, just keep it at some very sexy part (but dont show her anal) .
or you can always play one of my favorite games "just the tip" haha. it's ALWAYS worked in the past for me. just tell her only the tip of it will go in, take it slow. and create a comfortable atmosphere. some girls are also very self conscious, so turning off the lights help and just remind her how spectacular her body is, not as a whole, but each part. and be detailed. you can't just say "you have a nice rack" but say something like "i love your tits, they're so amazing. they're so soft and blah blah blah..." (sorry i'm not creative, but i'm sure you get the idea).

good luck. let us know if anything works!

 

[dj_china]

read "she comes first"
if she's turned on enough she'll want sex

 

[Huffman]

Do alot of foreplay, go baby steps, grinding with clothes on, bra off, some time later panties off (everytime she hesitates say hmhm, kiss her some more, try again). Rub, but don't really finger just yet (shy girls think this is super dirty?). If you like doing it, go down on her!
If this won't make her want it, then I have no idea

P.S. if she continues blocking you, don't be afraid to say that you really want it, she's so hot, you're so turned on, it's unfair, etc. Only say that when in the moment, of course
If you've been in a relationship for a while, she should take the hint and give it up soon.

P.P.S. I've had girls say "i dunno if i should do this" and "dont try anything funny" but they didn't resist at all. So if she doesn't push your hands away you're safe to proceed!

 

[BROner]

I went through this a LOT with my ex(alas, we never had sex. got caught by my parents, didn't see eachother for a month, and broke up shortly after that), and I know for a fact, it was almost (if not completely) all my fault. I had the foreplay down pretty good (biting, licking, kissing, going down on her, biting her nipples, etc.) but when it came to sex it just didn't happen. She said she "wanted to have sex with me, but couldn't". After trying to alleviate the problem, I turned to outside sources for help.

One of the biggest things was that I was too pushy. If you're EXPECTING to get sex and HAVE to have it (outcome dependent) the girl will not want/be able to have sex with you because she can sense that.

Another thing was I wasn't opening her up with my masculinity i.e being a true man and being confident, dominant, leading, etc. I let her call the shots all too often, and that mixed with me HAVING to have sex with her(obsessing about it is a turn-off to all girls) ended with finger and tongue-only. However, the "just the tip" thing might work, but I never thought to try that, we grinded naked(lol wtf?) so it wouldn't have been hard to try that.

Also, read The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Sadly, I read this book after it was too late, but it opened my eyes immensely. Also head Wild Nights by him is amazing, but I haven't read it yet.

Best of luck. Get some!

 

[Twenty-Two Two's]

Take the same approach you would to getting a girl to date or hookup in the first place, which is making her want it and chase it.

Tease the **** out of her and keep her thinking about it and pretty soon she'll be the one begging you.