Sex problems with new girl

[Tubbs]

So I am seeing this great new girl. Very hot too. Tonight I had a chance to **** her but oh what a debacle it turned out to be. Everything was going fine - was getting very close to ******* her but then common sense took over and I went to put the condom on.

Only (and this has happened before) as soon as I go to put the condom on, I can feel myself start to go soft. Then I get quite excited again and without even entering her I shoot my load off like a ****** loser (I think it's because it's a new girl. This has happened before but after I get used to the girl I can go for a decent length of time). The really weird thing is that I don't think I was even hard enough to enter her when I came. And I couldn't feel anything with the condom on (not used to sex with condoms, I ****ing hate them. Can't feel anything).

Anyway then later on I tried to **** her but I just could not get it up. Nothing was going to happen there.

So it seems I have not one but two problems - coming too soon and impotence!! I think the first one is easy to solve, it's just getting used to a new girl. Am much more worried about the second problem. May need to try and get some Viagra because it's just embarrassing. Am a bit worried about the dangers though. Don't want to use it if I'm going to risk a heart attack or something. Any advice?

 

[smoothiet]

Stevie's PUA posts gave a very good advice on getting too excited for the first time with a HB, that is to make an excuse to use the bathroom first and then jerk off, release all that tension cuz the second salute is always stronger than the first,and last longer (well to me it is)
if you fear for your sexual well being, talk to your doc, if you got guts to chat up a hb then have the guts to care for your own health, and ask your doc all those "embarrasing" questions

 

[Tubbs]

Good call. I think I will do that. But to be honest because this is a new girl and I don't want her to get bored because of my sexual non performance I think I am going to go for an emergency stop gap solution and just get some Viagra for now.

Would anyone advise agains this? I know it has killed a few people but I think they probably had serious heart disease.

 

[evolvingnerd]

i believe i read this somewhere before - makes sense anyway
first go jack off in the bathroom
then come back and concentrate on her, this'll give you time to "recooperate" and also portray you as a better lover

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Sometimes it takes me quite a while to.....fully jerk off. And it could take me even longer to get it up again. Is that really such a good idea?

 

[c-note]

I've tried viagra before and it works well for me even when i take only half a pill. Try it, you wont need the whole dose.

 

[Tubbs]

Have ordered in the Viagra. Won't need it later on but I want to be able to enjoy these first few times together instead of regarding them as a trial which i will probably fail.

The 'jerk off' a few minutes before is a dangerous game. Makes it much less likely that will be able to get it up. Dammit.

 

[Walden]

The other thing is if you're jerking off habitually then yu're robbing your body of the ability to produce sustained erections and big gloppy pornstar loads that women love.

 

[NewMan]

Let me get this straight.

You had a hard on.

Lost it.

Put on a rubber

Got the hard on back? sort of.

Then you *** without fvckign her?

Sounds like a bigger issue.

By the way - forget the jacking off in the bvathroom thing. That's the dummbest thing I've hear'd.

Look up PV muscles and how to control them.

When you jerking off, get yourself towards the "End" then work your muscles to hold off c#mming.

Your 28 yrs old. This should not be happening.

As for the impotence. It's related to your mental state.

You don't need viagra - you need some self confidence.

If this happens in the future, you should head south and give your tongue a work out. There's multiple ways to satisfy a chick - learn them and use them,.

 

[icecreaman]

I dont even know where to start. If you are blowing your load before you enter a chick its not good. Sounds like you arent masterbating enough. You need to release more tention, you gotta get it in your mind that "women aint s@#t" and screw the hell out of her. I would recommend jacking off more and watching more porn. People on this board hate on jacking off but they dont understand that it prepares you for situations like these. Do you drink? If you do that could be a reason why you cant get it up. Unfortunatly alchohol kills your sex drive.

 

[Ken785]

Jim??? Is that you??

 

[vrad]

I have the exact opposite problem!

I cant get off!!!!

I think it is anxiety though...

 

[Tubbs]

Cheers guys (especiall new man). It's pathetic i know but this only ever happens with brand new girls. Once i am a bit more comfortable with them i never get this. All down to anxiety I guess.