Sex on 1st date (hehe), now she demands "apology" from me?

[manfrombelow]

Hello gentlemen of SS,

So yesterday, I took this girl out for some drinks. We sat side by side at a pub, then I took her to the cinema at around 11:30pm, knowing full well where this gonna lead. Then we ended up in a motel and sex happened. The next morning we had breakfast together before we called it a day. She even texted me when she got home saying she took the aftermorning pill (I cummed inside) and thus there's no need to worry.

Now she's demanding an apology from me, because of the sex. How to proceed?

Big thanks bros

 

[Von]

Hello gentlemen of SS,

So yesterday, I took this girl out for some drinks. We sat side by side at a pub, then I took her to the cinema at around 11:30pm, knowing full well where this gonna lead. Then we ended up in a motel and sex happened. The next morning we had breakfast together before we called it a day. She even texted me when she got home saying she took the aftermorning pill (I cummed inside) and thus there's no need to worry.

Now she's demanding an apology from me, because of the sex. How to proceed?

Big thanks bros

Lol what? That girl in a power/ego trip

Tell her: I apologize for just being great the first time, next time It will be awesome

 

[manfrombelow]

Lol what? That girl in a power/ego trip

Tell her: I apologize for just being great the first time, next time It will be awesome

Fvcking awesome man. Big thanks!

 

[dude99]

Hello gentlemen of SS,

So yesterday, I took this girl out for some drinks. We sat side by side at a pub, then I took her to the cinema at around 11:30pm, knowing full well where this gonna lead. Then we ended up in a motel and sex happened. The next morning we had breakfast together before we called it a day. She even texted me when she got home saying she took the aftermorning pill (I cummed inside) and thus there's no need to worry.

Now she's demanding an apology from me, because of the sex. How to proceed?

Big thanks bros

If she was a willing partipant and she participated in the act and everything was consentual them there is nothing to apologize for.

"I'm sorry we had sex that you willingly participated in and i'm sorry you enjoyed it?"

Is that what she's looking for? Or is she looking for an apology for taking a morning after pill??

Sounds like she be cray cray. Walk before this turns into a William Kennedy Smith trial where a woman tries to turn her regret into a fake rape charge.

 

[SW15]

Ghost that shiit

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No woman has ever demanded I apologize for sex. I am assuming she didn't think it was that good or she would be talking about how she couldn't wait for next time.

 

[RangerMIke]

Oh boy.... that's not good. You have to be VERY careful about what you text back... do not apologize for the sex, in fact don't say anything about the sex. Seriously DON'T TEXT ANYTHING.

Call her, talk to her over the phone, if she will meet you out, even better. Text back "Let's meet for lunch and talk about this." Do not leave a digital trail, do not leave any indication AT ALL that you regret anything.

Some of you guys might think I am being obsessively cautious. But I know a guy that is sitting in PRISON right now for sex on a first date with a chick that later claimed he raped her. One of the things that was brought up as evidence was a text exchange between the two where he apologized for what happened.

 

[SW15]

Oh boy.... that's not good. You have to be VERY careful about what you text back... do not apologize for the sex, in fact don't say anything about the sex. Seriously DON'T TEXT ANYTHING.

That's why I suggested a ghosting

 

[Plinco]

Don't apologize. This is a sh!t test.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Be very VERY careful. You may be close to being on the receiving end of a sexual assault allegation.

 

[espanish]

you need to write her text here exactly how it appears. I am having a hard time believing she wrote "you need to apologize for the sex"

 

[manfrombelow]

Oh boy.... that's not good. You have to be VERY careful about what you text back... do not apologize for the sex, in fact don't say anything about the sex. Seriously DON'T TEXT ANYTHING.

Call her, talk to her over the phone, if she will meet you out, even better. Text back "Let's meet for lunch and talk about this." Do not leave a digital trail, do not leave any indication AT ALL that you regret anything.

Some of you guys might think I am being obsessively cautious. But I know a guy that is sitting in PRISON right now for sex on a first date with a chick that later claimed he raped her. One of the things that was brought up as evidence was a text exchange between the two where he apologized for what happened.

I read this too late, I took @Von 's advice and I texted her that I'm sorry I could not make her legs crumble and that I'll make it happen next time and ended with a playful smirk.

She replied asking how my day's been and that's it.

To be frank I should have done better and I'm a bit scared right now.

 

[manfrombelow]

you need to write her text here exactly how it appears. I am having a hard time believing she wrote "you need to apologize for the sex"

We are not english native speakers so her texts went literally like this:

- Hey I took the pill, no worries.

(To which I replied: Well done honey!)

- I'm still waiting for you to apologize!

 

[espanish]

We are not english native speakers so her texts went literally like this:

- Hey I took the pill, no worries.

(To which I replied: Well done honey!)

- I'm still waiting for you to apologize!

weird text. apologize for what?
she asked how is your day going so that's evidence it wasn't rape
if you want, try to get more evidence. wait a couple of days and say "I am going to a party. you want to come with me?" if she says yes, that's evidence it wasn't rape. if she says no, leave her alone.

 

[manfrombelow]

Luckily we are from a sh!thole 3rd world country that hasn't been contaminated by MeToo yet. The chicks here are not crazy enough to even have the concept of accusing someone they fvcked with last week "raped" them.

 

[TheProspect]

We are not english native speakers so her texts went literally like this:

- Hey I took the pill, no worries.

(To which I replied: Well done honey!)

- I'm still waiting for you to apologize!

weird text. apologize for what?
she asked how is your day going so that's evidence it wasn't rape
if you want, try to get more evidence. wait a couple of days and say "I am going to a party. you want to come with me?" if she says yes, that's evidence it wasn't rape. if she says no, leave her alone.

My guess is she wants OP to apologize for finishing inside her, which was probably done either in the heat of the moment or through persuasion.

@manfrombelow, you blow inside a girl you barely know, and you are trusting her that she took Plan B the next day?

Living dangerously lol.

 

[Rainman4707]

She is feeling guilty for the having sex on the first date. It's likely she might not want to see you again because of this.

Girls try not to sleep with a guy on first meet if they see him as LTR material. If they do sleep with him on first date....its likely its a one night stand only and she wont see him again.

If i shag a bird on first date and want to keep her around...i always send her a text next day...so she dosent feel used.

 

[Barrister]

I think you are in the clear on the rape accusation given she responded to you asking how your day was. This is why you should always have some kind of electronic "paper" trail to cover your own a$$ in this day in age though. After you part ways, most women will beat you to the punch and text that they had a great time. ALWAYS save that text for a period of time just in case. However, if you don't hear from them, I think it is prudent to text them yourselves the next day saying it was a good time and ask about scheduling the next date. I know this is against some of the bright-line rules some guys have on here with texting, but frankly that pales in comparison to having one of these chicks get pissed and try to lodge some accusation against you that can ruin the rest of your life.

 

[manfrombelow]

She also may have been being playful with you (the ! suggests she may have been), was there a wink or smile emoji after the comment?

Just my take.

She used this face at the end of the sentence:

 

[manfrombelow]

you blow inside a girl you barely know, and you are trusting her that she took Plan B the next day?

Living dangerously lol.

Actually I have known this chick for quite a while since she's an old classmate from a foreign language class I was taking which ended just weeks ago.

She's only 24 and I know she's got big career plans ahead so obviously giving birth is not her option. Besides, after breakfast, we went to a pharmacy and I bought the pill and gave it to her myself.

Even if I didn't, I know young chicks like her would buy the pill themselves and took them anyway. That's a fact.